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Is it okay for a couple who dont live together

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Thatbliddywoman · 30/09/2020 22:35

To stay in a hotel somewhere in neither of their hometowns?
Sorry if this is a stupid question. My friend has asked me and I dont know!

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Smellbellina · 30/09/2020 22:36

Yes I think so, it’s less then 6 people!
Only would be a problem if any are from a local lockdown, maybe?

Palavah · 30/09/2020 22:38

Presumably you are each other's support bubble? If so it's fine.

PinotLovesMomma · 30/09/2020 22:40

You legally shouldn't if you are in an area of local lockdown where households can't mix at all but exactly how hotel owners/staff are meant to know whether you live together not is anyone's guess

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Thatbliddywoman · 30/09/2020 22:45

I think theyre in one anothers bubble (I'm not sure i fully understand bubbles to be honest)!

Thanks for replies

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doireallyneedaname · 30/09/2020 22:50

Well technically you’re supposed to social distance.

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Thatbliddywoman · 30/09/2020 22:53

exactly how hotel owners/staff are meant to know whether you live together not is anyone's guess
That is true but in my friends case they have very distinctive different accents so they'd probably be caught out Grin

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raviolidreaming · 30/09/2020 23:01

That is true but in my friends case they have very distinctive different accents so they'd probably be caught out

Because you can only be in a relationship with someone of the same ethnicity / race / regional background?

avenueq · 30/09/2020 23:03

@doireallyneedaname you don't have to socially distance if you're in an "established relationship"

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Thatbliddywoman · 30/09/2020 23:07

you don't have to socially distance if you're in an "established relationship"
@avenueq yes, I'd heard that too.

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Palavah · 01/10/2020 00:14

@Thatbliddywoman

exactly how hotel owners/staff are meant to know whether you live together not is anyone's guess That is true but in my friends case they have very distinctive different accents so they'd probably be caught out Grin
Have you never heard of a couple who have different accents? Theyre not pretending to be twins...
Dontfuckingsaycheese · 01/10/2020 00:24

Sorry. Just for the briefest of blissful moments I forgot everything that's going on!

I thought you meant morally Grin

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Thatbliddywoman · 01/10/2020 06:33

Because you can only be in a relationship with someone of the same ethnicity / race / regional background? no, because you can only mix with the people you live with.

Have you never heard of a couple who have different accents? Theyre not pretending to be twins I have. It is one of my friend's worries though that they'd be questioned if it was noted that one of them has a southern accent and one has a liverpool one (not their real accents but similarly distinctive ones).

thought you meant morally Grin morally it is definitely iffy. I hope it is a twin room Wink

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SimonJT · 01/10/2020 06:38

@Thatbliddywoman

exactly how hotel owners/staff are meant to know whether you live together not is anyone's guess That is true but in my friends case they have very distinctive different accents so they'd probably be caught out Grin
My boyfriend has a Swedish accent, I have a Nottinghamshire one with a Pakistani twang. In what world do people only have a relationship with someone with the same accent?
Aroundtheworldin80moves · 01/10/2020 06:39

DH has a Yorkshire accent, mine is still Southern... And we live in Lincolnshire. We've been married for 10years. (And our child have hybrid accents). Couples having different accents is completely normal.

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Thatbliddywoman · 01/10/2020 08:20

I think she is quite anxious and worrying that their accents may have people question them
I said I'd try find out for her. It does seem quite confusing.

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Equalityumber · 01/10/2020 08:35

The hotel are not the police! Please tell your friend not to worry.

Also the idea you have to social distance from your actual partner because you don’t live together is absurd.

HowFastIsTooFast · 01/10/2020 08:40

DP and I live together, I'm broad Northern English and he's Scandinavian. I'm a bit concerned that your friend thinks it would be suspicious to have different accents, and as an ex hotel receptionist I can't see that it would anyone's mind to be honest? We really didn't pay that much attention Hmm

PurpleDaisies · 01/10/2020 08:41

It is one of my friend's worries though that they'd be questioned if it was noted that one of them has a southern accent and one has a liverpool one (not their real accents but similarly distinctive ones)

This is absolutely nuts.

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Thatbliddywoman · 01/10/2020 08:43

I believe she is just overly anxious and over thinking.

Thank you all for replies. I've copied them for her.

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RichardMarxisinnocent · 01/10/2020 08:45

@Equalityumber

The hotel are not the police! Please tell your friend not to worry.

Also the idea you have to social distance from your actual partner because you don’t live together is absurd.

It may be absurd, but it was the case for quite a while. Until support bubbles were introduced I spent a couple of months not seeing my DP at all, then a few weeks able to see him as long as we socially distanced. Couples who weren't eligible to form a support bubble were supposed to keep distancing until the guidelines changed. I think they changed when the rule of 6 came in, but could be wrong.
RichardMarxisinnocent · 01/10/2020 08:52

Oh and I have stayed in a hotel with my DP twice and there were no problems. And he has a Jamaican accent and I do not.

If in England and not under local lockdown it's allowed. If in local lockdown in England I believe it would be ok if they are in a support bubble. If in Wales not under local lockdown it would be ok if they are in an extended household. If under local lockdown in Wales extended households are suspended so I think it probably isn't allowed. I don't know enough about Scottish rules to comment on those.

All of that said, I am pretty sure the hotel staff aren't going to be quizzing them about their living arrangements.

rorosemary · 01/10/2020 08:56

Because you can only be in a relationship with someone of the same ethnicity / race / regional background? no, because you can only mix with the people you live with.

Confused I literally grew up in the same village as DH, but as a young adult I moved south and he moved north. Fell in love at a reunion in our 30s and now live 10 minutes from where we grew up. I have a southern accent, he has a northern one. We've been together for 7 or 8 years....

Msmcc1212 · 01/10/2020 09:51

I think it depends where you are. If you live in Wales not. Unless you are part of an extended household (bubble) but then only if you are not in a local lockdown. Then no extended households or leaving area without a reasonable excuse! And that’s just Wales.

Rule of 6 in England. Guess it’s ok if not local lockdown in any of 3 places?

raviolidreaming · 01/10/2020 18:32

no, because you can only mix with the people you live with

Which has precisely nothing to so with anyone's accent!

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Thatbliddywoman · 01/10/2020 22:28

no, because you can only mix with the people you live with

Which has precisely nothing to so with anyone's accent!

I know. My last partner's accent was very different to mine too. But, it was one thing my friend told me she is worried about, in case what they're doing is illegal and it makes them more likely to be questioned.

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