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Kids party - would you feel comfortable..

90 replies

Piplette · 29/09/2020 22:53

Sending your child to a small party with 4 other children from their class? Only other attendees would be the parents of the child having the party and it would be at their home?

My dd attended a similar party last month and given it was with a group of children she is very close to I was happy to do this as I didnt feel it posed any greater risk than them being in school together?

Dd's birthday is approaching and with cases going up there is no chance of having the larger party at a soft play as originally planned but she's now asking if she can have a small party like the one she attended. However we have local restrictions that prohibit having people outside your household in your house but there is a lack of clarity around children (the kids in question are all 5/6) and they seem to be excluded??

If the schools are still running at this point would you send your child to a party like this?

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Pachonga · 29/09/2020 23:49

It won’t be legal by November unless things stop getting worse in the UK

Keepdistance · 29/09/2020 23:54

The reason it's different is
People are only presymptomatic for about 48h or so. So everyone seeing each other extra days and in houss is an exposure they might not have had.
As well as in the classroom the?y might not be sat next to friends and obviously outside play might be different.
If your dc is 5/6 they will likely not care too much. Especially if they haven't been to many parties recently.
One of my dc is in reception and im hoping they dont start with having loads of parties (though imo the parties can be too exhausting in yr r especially for the youngest).

mxjones · 29/09/2020 23:57

No, I wouldn't be happy at all.

Time2change2 · 29/09/2020 23:58

Absolutely fine if only 6 at the party and you are not in a local lockdown area. They are in the same class all week and it’s perfectly within the rules. Ignore the Covid stasi on here

newnameforthis123 · 30/09/2020 00:06

If you're in a local lockdown then what are the rules for your specific area? Read up and then adhere to them, surely?

PineappleUpsideDownCake · 30/09/2020 00:09

My children have been to a small indoorscat home party. (5 children, one adult. All legal in England.)

The other has been to a few sleepovers (child, parents, 2 friends)

This is all quite legal and quite common here...

Beebeeboo2 · 30/09/2020 00:13

I thought social distancing applied to the rule of 6? So they would have to social distance at the party.

Davidsparkle · 30/09/2020 00:16

5 year olds don’t social distance at school so I wouldn’t expect them to at a party. If you had it straight after school assuming you’re allowed the risk would be no different to them spending the day together at school and being collected by their parents.

StarCat2020 · 30/09/2020 01:02

there is a lack of clarity around children (the kids in question are all 5/6) and they seem to be excluded??
Maybe it is me but I don't see the "lack of clarity"

TheLastStarfighter · 30/09/2020 01:10

I think it’s too early to say.

You’re under restrictions now, but might not be by the time of the party. Or even the whole set of rules/laws might have changed by the time if the party.
I would think if it’s a very small gathering like you have planned, of kids that are together at school anyway, and it’s within the rules at the time of the party in November then I can’t see why it would be a problem.

I hope it works out ok.

Nikori · 30/09/2020 01:20

I’m not sure where you are, but an outdoor party in November probably won’t be much fun. I’d just organize a party for your family only. Maybe a movie night with her favorite film, pizza, popcorn, homemade sundaes. It can still be fun without friends coming over.

GalaxyCookieCrumble · 30/09/2020 01:22

@MsTSwift

No because it’s over the rule of 6. 4 kids with a parent each is 8 and you and presumably your child’s father? Breaking the law sorry. Kids not excluded in England
Oh for heavens sake there all at school with each other all bloody day 🙄
Nikori · 30/09/2020 01:30

It doesn’t matter if they are at school together all day.

It doesn’t matter if the next village over isn’t in local lockdown.

It doesn’t matter how old they are.

It’s crap but we just have to get on with it.

GalaxyCookieCrumble · 30/09/2020 01:33

@Piplette if you live in Co Durham you can just use the same excuse DC used, our Police will let you off with it. Seriously getting annoyed at the hysteria on here.

WhentheDealGoesDown1 · 30/09/2020 06:32

Ok if total people is 6 or less and depends on your attitude to risk, not ok if over 6 if in England and not under local restrictions

MsTSwift · 30/09/2020 07:15

I didn’t make the rules! As long as fewer than 6 it’s ok. In my day with kids that age parents would hang about but if that’s not the case you under the limit.

Holding my dds 12th soon so been looking at this Dh and dd1 will have to go out so she can invite 4 guests with me there as facilitator. Due to our jobs we cannot break the law so can’t afford tone vague

user1493413286 · 30/09/2020 07:19

I’d want to be out of local lockdown but then yes I’d let my child go to a party like that as you they’re together all day at school. Could you wait until households are able to mix again?

Qasd · 30/09/2020 07:20

I think the confusion is where you live!

I would let them attend a party with party child, four others and a parent Because that is the rule of six (I have done, ours was outside but the basic point was I live in an area with the rule of six and it complied).

...however I wouldn’t if I lived in an area with different rules.

autumnboys · 30/09/2020 07:21

I have a teen with an upcoming birthday. Guidelines allowing, we will go out with his brothers & let him have five friends from his year group round. Also, my 10yo turns 11 this week. We're a household of five, so he is having a friend on Friday and then another on Saturday so we won’t be over 6 at any point. I would be comfortable with what you’re proposing.

newwnamme · 30/09/2020 07:23

My dd attended such a birthday party last week. The parents arranged staggered drop offs. Yes there were more than 6 people in the house despite this. There are currently 9 cases per 100k of people where I live, so I was happy with the risks. Would do the same again if another invitation was forthcoming but I suppose it depends on how bad things are where you are. Make your own analysis of risks vs benefits and then decide. I hope your dd has a lovely birthday.

WhentheDealGoesDown1 · 30/09/2020 07:24

I see you are under some restrictions, though obviously they depend where you are. Children are included though in the 6 whatever age they are in England.

Timeforanotherusername · 30/09/2020 07:27

You are in local lockdown because people like you are doing things like this.

School is essential, birthday party is not.

You can still give your daughter a great birthday but stay within the rules.

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 30/09/2020 07:41

Would I care ? - no but I would be aware that I am breaking the rules.

SirSamuelVimes · 30/09/2020 07:46

You are in local lockdown because people like you are doing things like this.

Really? I do hope you have some evidence to support that statement. Perhaps a breakdown of cases for the OPs area showing a cluster of cases relating to a child's party?

Cos otherwise you're just spouting judgemental bollocks.

Timeforanotherusername · 30/09/2020 08:02

Really? I do hope you have some evidence to support that statement. Perhaps a breakdown of cases for the OPs area showing a cluster of cases relating to a child's party?

Household transmission is the biggest issue. This is multiple households at one event.

Whether children should be excluded is irrelevant here. They are not in England.

So how is this any different from 6 adults from 6 households mixing?

If you 'bend' the rules to suit yourself then surely everyone else can too?