It's another school thread 🙄sorry!!

[lucy2204]

Hello just wondering if anyone's in a similar situation, my sons 4 and just started reception, his school has been back 10 days and we've already had 1 case and a whole bubble sent home (30 students) would I be able to deregister him and teach him at home without the drama of the school on my back about not sending him in, I'm on the high risk category I think as bmi is 38, we also have a 1 year old and new born and I'm petrified of them getting this :( my 4 and 1 year old get every bug going sons only been able to attend 5 days of school as he brought a sickness bug home, I'm just generally trying to see if anyone's pulled them for the same reasons or if it's easy pulling them, I have terrible mum guilt at the thought of taking him from school as it is, my anxiety is through the roof worrying about this bloody virus as it is, I didn't think we'd get cases so quickly 😔☹️

Personally I think it would be unfair to pull him out, I wouldn't do that to my kids. I would however focus your anxiety into something positive and work on your bmi, this is an active thing you can do to empower yourself and protect your family

You can deregister your child at any time and for any reason, but if/when you want him to go back he won't necessarily get his place back, so if the school is oversubscribed you might be waiting a while/have to send him somewhere else.

Oh, and BMI of 38 doesn't put you into the high risk category - it was over 40 for clinically vulnerable, and even those people weren't advised to shield.

You can deregister your child at any time and for any reason, but if/when you want him to go back he won't necessarily get his place back, so if the school is oversubscribed you might be waiting a while/have to send him somewhere else.
The ops son is not csa she can defer until Easter without any risk of loosing his place .

DO NOT deregister him! He doesn’t need red to be in school until the term after his 5th birthday. Hold on to the space but keep him home.

You can deregister without fuss.
BMI of 38 does not make you high risk though, technically. BMI of 40 or over makes you clinically vulnerable, not extremely clinically vulnerable.

I would weigh up the risks v the things your child will be missing out on.

If you have the resources and ability to teach, and that’s what’s best for your family, I don’t see why not. I think home schooling can be hard though, particularly with younger children, I’d definitely make sure you think it through properly.

As pp has said you can deregister but you will loose your place.

If you think keeping him home is best for the family, you can Defer his place until Spring term. Don't have to deregister for that.

@Legoandloldolls As pp has said you can deregister but you will loose your place. nope , not csa.

You could deregister him and a home educate. When this is over you would have to reapply to school and you might not get back into that school.

My 4 year old is in reception, we have a 1 year and DH is extremely vulnerable. We’ve decided that for now she will be staying in school.

Ultimately it is up to you but I think you need to weigh up the risks. Will you be able to focus on his education with a new born plus a 1 year old around? (There isn't a particular rush) but if you want him to go back in year 1, you may want him to be at a similar level to his peers.

What’s with all the misinformation, guilt tripping and general hyperbole? He’s 4. Not yet compulsory school age. Keep him home this term. No need to deregister. Let him enjoy playing with his siblings.

As others have said, you don't have to deregister yet - defer til hes 5 to buy some time, work on your bmi and work on your anxiety in the mean time and hopefully things will start getting better soon

Assuming you are in England, provided he is on the school role this coming Thursday, the school will get the funding for him. At the risk of being cynical, if you phone up on Friday saying you have decided to defer until Easter, I imagine the school will be delighted to have the money but not to have him on site. They can just remove him from the MIS and enjoy the smaller class.

Just to echo what others said, you don’t have to send him in until he’s five, so keep the place at school, and just pull him out (with no guilt) if you’re not comfortable. You can’t be fined as he’s only four, so definitely don’t de-register and lose the place.

Keeping the place open is also a good idea too if you find that after a while, trying to home school a four year old with a baby and one year old in tow just isn’t going to happen! Good luck either way OP.

BMI of 38 alone won't put you in the high risk category. High BMI makes you higher risk but if you're young and otherwise healthy, you'll probably find you're still low or moderate risk.

But yes, you can de register and home educate any time for any reason. Just be aware that you won't automatically get a place at the same school when this is all over..... is that a concern at all?

@Lockdownseperation your child and the op’s would not loose a school place . You can defer in reception.

He’s not CSA so if you’d rather have him home, do so & enjoy time together with siblings. This is a pandemic, it’s absolutely not unusual to be anxious. Your babies are very little to be stressed about formal school. Do what suits you as a family & best of luck to you. By the time he’s 5, you may feel completely ready to send him in - and him too - so enjoy this time at home together now without feeling guilty.

To clarify, CSA means Compulsory School Age.

Neither of mine started school until they were 5, he doesn’t actually have to be there I don’t think until he’s 5. Children’s start school too young in the U.K in my opinion.

Thankyou everyone for replying, I honestly thought they had to be in school at 4? The receptionist gave me that impression with the way she was with me on Friday when I had to call to say he was still ill :(, I'm getting my anxiety under control now I've been given beta blockers and cbt for it, hoping they both work,I didn't know about the bmi thing I defo need to sort my weight which is what I will be also sorting this year and next, will defo look into all this and see If I think it's manageable which I do atm, have a very supportive partner, his school has around 100 spaces free atm as some people refused to send their kids in/back this year so hopefully it won't be to hard to get him in next year if I choose to take him out, @Southernsoftie76 I 1000% agree there still babies! One country doesn't send there kids to schollol till 7 which I think is a great time, if I had my way I'd never send them in that way I know there safe, but they defo need to have interaction with other children 🤔@mac12 thankyou for your reply honestly have felt so guilty about thinking it this way everyone I've spoken to doesn't seem to understand why I'm so worried🙄it's nice to have someome say it's okay to feel the way I'm feeling atm, maybe I just worry to much that's why people think I'm being over protective etc

@ChristmasinJune know that isn't a concern at all tbh, there's a school 2 mins from my house that I would be able to get him into, the one he goes to is 20 mins walk from my house, I really should of applied for the one closer that way i would be able to monitor the situation closer only sent him to the other school as his friends from nursery was meant to be going there but there parents have pulled them :(

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A child is not compulsory school age until the term after their 5th birthday.
I home educate my teen dd.