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Pull kids out of school

78 replies

Mummyworriestoomuch · 25/09/2020 17:57

I'm in county Durham. Most schools in my area are reporting cases now. My kids schools haven't yet but I'm really concerned it's just a matter of time. I'm conflicted. One one hand I want to pull them out and wrap them in cotton wool but on the other hand I don't want to disrupt their education any more than necessary. I just don't know what to do.

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murdercaughtoncctv · 25/09/2020 17:58

Keep them in school why would you pull them out when this is going to be around for a long time.

swg1 · 25/09/2020 17:59

I'm probably close to you. I'm thinking a weekend of cases might make things clearer.

swg1 · 25/09/2020 18:04

@murdercaughtoncctv

There's about five million reasons to. How do you know OP isn't in a vulnerable group or have family members in that group? Or act as support/carer for an older relative?

And no, that's not an exception case. I'm pretty close to OP and I would say that the vast majority of females my age I know are providing support and/or care for an older relative. It's very much the culture here.

Ohdoleavemealone · 25/09/2020 18:05

You could be homeschooling for a long time at this rate.

Worriedmum999 · 25/09/2020 18:06

I’m hoping to get to half term as we are in a low risk area but I’m under no illusion that mine will be going back after half term. I think schools will be shut but even if they’re not, I won’t be sending them with the high number of cases we have now. I’ve enrolled them in an online school starting in November. If most schools in my area had cases I wouldn’t be sending them in on Monday. They’d ‘have a cough’ and then I’d evaluate again in 2 weeks.

Beebityboo · 25/09/2020 18:09

Trying to be strong and keep them in until half term and then reassess but it is so scary when you live in an area with lots of closures, we're literally surrounded by schools with popped bubbles but ours have been lucky so far.

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Mummyworriestoomuch · 25/09/2020 18:09

@murdercaughtoncctv because im concerned for my children's welfare. I'm conflicted because I feel torn between education welfare and their health

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Remmy123 · 25/09/2020 18:10

Why pull them out are you vulnerable?

justanotherneighinparadise · 25/09/2020 18:10

How about when it goes around a third time or a forty time?

GnomeOrMistAndIceGuy · 25/09/2020 18:11

Newcastle teacher here OP. Personally I would keep them in until told otherwise. My pupils have absolutely thrived over the last three weeks and are soaking up new learning after so long out. We are doing our absolute best to keep them safe and are very thankful to parents who have put their trust in us.

Keepdistance · 25/09/2020 18:12

Maybe join Boycott return to unsafe school Facebook group.

It's difficult itsnt it. We are in a doubling area. Cases in both secondaries already and dc already caught something from school

Keepdistance · 25/09/2020 18:13

It isnt the schools fsult or measures though. It's airborne, handwashing doesnt do a lot

Beebityboo · 25/09/2020 18:13

I also think lots of parents are doing the same in our school as there was a very angry sounding section in the newsletter today about attendance, never seen one before. Saying parents should bring children to school if they "only have a cold".

Parker231 · 25/09/2020 18:14

OP - are you or DC’s vulnerable health wise? If not surely it would be better having their education continue with their friends?

ivfbeenbusy · 25/09/2020 18:16

Fine pull them out if you want to home school then for the next 10 years 🤷‍♀️

Or are you prepared to have your kids first in the queue when a "new" vaccine is announced (if it ever is!)

Posters who usually post about pulling their kids from school also tend to have the luxury of not working. Most of us don't have that choice so our kids have to go to school or be homeless

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Mummyworriestoomuch · 25/09/2020 18:20

I am a carer for a disabled relative and one of my children is also disabled.
We managed ok learning wise last time, but it was a long hard slog for me. Lots of fun too and the kids thrived, but hard work without a break.
And they missed their friends.
I just want to do the right thing by them

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Beebityboo · 25/09/2020 18:21

@ivfbeenbusy

Fine pull them out if you want to home school then for the next 10 years 🤷‍♀️

Or are you prepared to have your kids first in the queue when a "new" vaccine is announced (if it ever is!)

Posters who usually post about pulling their kids from school also tend to have the luxury of not working. Most of us don't have that choice so our kids have to go to school or be homeless

Well a lot of times the parents that do want to pull them out are either disabled or vulnerable so can't work and are at extra risk. It's understandable that those parents are worried.
pontypridd · 25/09/2020 18:23

I feel very similar @Mummyworriestoomuch.

Why do you need to be so nasty @ivfbeenbusy?

borageforager · 25/09/2020 18:24

Are they or you vulnerable at all?

Hollyhead · 25/09/2020 18:26

I actually think yanbu - I’d like as many concerned people to pull their kids out as possible to thin the kids out who do need desperately for school to remain open. My 8.5 year old could not learn at home and found lockdown very difficult.

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Mummyworriestoomuch · 25/09/2020 18:26

@ivfbeenbusy

Fine pull them out if you want to home school then for the next 10 years 🤷‍♀️

Or are you prepared to have your kids first in the queue when a "new" vaccine is announced (if it ever is!)

Posters who usually post about pulling their kids from school also tend to have the luxury of not working. Most of us don't have that choice so our kids have to go to school or be homeless

Wow. You sound friendly.
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Shitfuckoh · 25/09/2020 18:32

We're also in County Durham.
I sent my 2 back to school this school year and my youngest has started pre-school.
Purely for the social aspect - my 2 bigger ones did great with home learning but due to the local restrictions, they can't meet anyone outside of our household.
I was against sending my youngest until the restrictions came in.
I'm still not 100% that I've done the right thing but it's such a difficult one.
I'm taking it 1 day at a time and just seeing how it goes at the moment.

swg1 · 25/09/2020 18:37

Are there people from UsNotThem who have certain things set as keywords now or something?

I'm definitely noticing that certain threads bring up a pack of people who are more intent that NO ONE should ever pull their kid out of school than actually working out the posters circumstances and what's appropriate for them.

Chestergirl39 · 25/09/2020 18:39

I think it’s natural to feel like this if you have kids, it’s our job as parents to protect them. But we also have to take into account that they love to be with their peers and that can help their mental wellbeing. It’s an individual decision based on your circumstances. I would like to have the choice, but unfortunately have to work. Would you be able to manage financially?

To be honest, mine are enjoying being back at school, and would choose to be there as they like seeing friends and find the work easier when the teacher teaches it. We have had positive cases in my child's year group, which was worrying, but none of the kids had symptoms. If you’re a natural worrier it isn’t easy though, but don’t forget the vast majority of kids get very mild symptoms.

swg1 · 25/09/2020 18:40

Apologies if this is too identifying and you don't have to answer but if by chance you're around Shildon area I would definitely consider it. I'm close and have been watching places close one after the other for a couple of days and it looks like a giant clusterfuck right now. I suspect by Monday a whole lot of bubbles will be bursting in any case.

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