Cutting guests lists from 30 to 15. How are people going to decide who to chop???

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Just thinking about the new rules on weddings. Imagine if you have your wedding booked for this weekend. Suddenly you have to half your guest list of cancel your wedding?? How are people suppose to do that without offending all your friends and family. I know there are more important matters but I do really feel for people in that situation.

Really feel for people in this position. I can imagine a few family feuds but I would hope people will understand see what a horrid position the wedding couple are in.

If you get offended by being culled when we are in the middle of this then you are a dick.

Best man/ 1/2 bridesmaid, Parents and siblings only for most I guess now. All other relations binned. No friends.

Not great is it. Wedding businesses must be completely fucked. Some hotels make £20k plus a week on weddings.

Fuck it, I'd cancel myself rather than make that call, heh.
Question, though- does the "guests" 15 include bride and groom ? So bride and groom + 12 or B+G + 15?

It is horrible for people getting married. Having to cancel the wedding they wanted and rearrange. Cutting the guest list by half or more to get to 30, then having to halve again to 15. Some weddings will be planned for this weekend, what a kick in the teeth.

We will have to cancel. 15 doesn’t even cover our wedding party + parents.

We’ve already rearranged once from this year to next and are praying the numbers go back up soon. We had already prepared to cut the guest list to 30 and that was hard enough. 15 just isn’t possible for us.

@KeepOnMovingForwards

Fuck it, I'd cancel myself rather than make that call, heh. Question, though- does the "guests" 15 include bride and groom ? So bride and groom + 12 or B+G + 15?

B+G+2 registrars+ photographer+10, apparently. Mine isn’t til next summer but I’m scenario planning for all eventualities.

That law doesn’t come in until Monday so this weekends weddings are still 30.

@KeepOnMovingForwards When the rule was 30 guests it included the bride and groom, the person performing the ceremony and any one hired e.g. photographer. I imagine it will be the same now it’s dropped to 15. So once you’ve taken off the married couple, priest and photographer you’re down to 11 guests.

We already have 3 children so that leaves us with 8 guests. 2 bridesmaids. 2 flower girls, 1 best man and we have 3 spaces left. So not even all our parents.

We will cancel before doing that even if it means rearranging it a third time.

DH and I did this hypothetically earlier based on our guest list 10 years ago. We easily chose 13. Parents, his Grandmother, our brothers. 4 closest friends (2 each).
No aunts, uncles, cousins, work colleagues, wider friends. 3 cousins were in wedding party, but wouldn't make top 15.

I suppose it depends on whether you want to be married or have the wedding... BIl had to get married at short notice last year, nd the only guests tha made it were his wife's parents.

We are getting married in 8 weeks. The 15 includes me and my dhtb, 2 registrars and a photographer so only 5 guests each side. It's crap but we are just grateful to still be getting married tbh.

We are planning a reception party for our first anniversary to celebrate with our friends and family.

We have discussed this. Not getting married quite yet thank goodness but we want a very small and intimate ceremony anyway.

I've never been one for big weddings, so what I would do is get married just the two of us plus witnesses (not close family to avoid arguments) and then have a party whenever we're reasonably allowed.

[quote Catchingbabies]@KeepOnMovingForwards When the rule was 30 guests it included the bride and groom, the person performing the ceremony and any one hired e.g. photographer. I imagine it will be the same now it’s dropped to 15. So once you’ve taken off the married couple, priest and photographer you’re down to 11 guests.

We already have 3 children so that leaves us with 8 guests. 2 bridesmaids. 2 flower girls, 1 best man and we have 3 spaces left. So not even all our parents.

We will cancel before doing that even if it means rearranging it a third time.[/quote]
That's awful. I'm not planning to marry, but I can imagine if both the bride and grooms parents are divorced and possibly remarried/half partners= that's 8 immediately. So leaves 3 "other" guests- impossible to choose. I would just have the legal amount of witnesses to marry, I think and blow the wedding out.

I'd cancel the lot and just do it with me, my partner and two witnesses.

So once you’ve taken off the married couple, priest and photographer you’re down to 11 guests.

We already have 3 children so that leaves us with 8 guests. 2 bridesmaids. 2 flower girls, 1 best man and we have 3 spaces left. So not even all our parents.
Bloody hell, if I was down to 8 guests, both sets of parents would come before flower girls.

It is truly shit. These poor couples have already usually cancelled enormous weddings of 100 people,lm lost deposits, whittled it down to 30, and now they probably can't even invite immediate family (parents and siblings with their partners). It just is so unfair while pubs are open, constantly moving the Gola posts when people still have to pay deposits with no insurance covering this.

It is truly shit. These poor couples have already usually cancelled enormous weddings of 100 people, lost deposits, whittled it down to 30, and now they probably can't even invite immediate family (parents and siblings with their partners). It just is so unfair while pubs are open, constantly moving the Gola posts when people still have to pay deposits with no insurance covering this.

@Catchingbabies - they're really not likely to change within 6 months. Appreciate you don't want to, but you could cut further if you wanted to. Anything is possible.

If you get offended by being culled when we are in the middle of this then you are a dick.

Agreed. Horrible to be the bride and groom having to make the decision, but hopefully no one would be unpleasant enough to complain about it. It’s not like the couple are willingly halving their guest list!

I suppose it depends on whether you want to be married or have the wedding
So much this ^

We had a teeny tiny ceremony with So Much hand sanitiser in all the photos. But it was more important to us to just be married. And we can have a big reception when all of this is over.

It’s more difficult if you have money tied up in it though or family pressures perhaps.

A lot of venues and wedding suppliers won’t survive this. My DH is a wedding photographer and he knows of several photographers who have closed their businesses and are looking for a new job any job so they have a income. Things are tight for us but luckily he runs the business on the side and is employed full time.

This has happened in our family to my SIL, only blood relatives can go now so partners and their families cannot go. (Which means my husband will go as its his sister but not me or baby) Obviously gutted to be missing out on the day and sad that she won't get the wedding she envisioned but completely understand and glad she's still able to get married

Just get over to the registry office and get married. Don't bother with the "wedding". Have a party on the first anniversary if you still think it's important.

@Itsabeautifuldayheyhey The flower girls are my step children so come above parents in this scenario. Not that I said I was doing that, we will cancel if it stays at 15.

I suppose it depends on whether you want to be married or have the wedding.
Most people want both, they kind of go together.

I think if I were caught in this, I'd have parents only (as witnesses) and then plan a party for later.