Cutting guests lists from 30 to 15. How are people going to decide who to chop???

[shesellsseashells99]

Just thinking about the new rules on weddings. Imagine if you have your wedding booked for this weekend. Suddenly you have to half your guest list of cancel your wedding?? How are people suppose to do that without offending all your friends and family. I know there are more important matters but I do really feel for people in that situation.

I think I'd just go back to basics, massive cuts and just have very immediate family, which I think comes down to 10. But I haven't got a massive family.

Maybe just invite parents or something?

We already postponed our 120 person wedding. Our new date is spring 2021, but if it is a 15 person limit I think we will just invite our parents and siblings and do it in a registry office.

It’s annoying, but we just want to get married now. Can’t be bothered with this chopping and changing. We are not even excited anymore, just want to get it done !

I agree with a previous poster this is the end for many in the wedding industry including venues, photographers, caterers, dress makers etc. There's no way they will survive with how long these new restrictions are supposedly going to be in place.

If you get offended by being culled when we are in the middle of this then you are a dick.

^ absolutely this^

Hypothetically thinking back to my wedding, we could have just managed this if we kept invites restricted to parents, siblings and siblings partners, but then DH and I both had siblings in the best man / bridesmaid roles.

30 names in a hat, first 15 pulled out get to go

In Scotland it’s 20 yet. Do you know whether it also counts with the employed people ? I’m meant to be attending a wedding in coming months and the bride mentioned we were 20 guests. I was going to volunteer my dh and son not to attend after yesterday’s news but if it counts with the registrar and photographer the they’re going to need more people to step down.

Celebrant(s)

B&G
Any children
Parents of B&G
Siblings
2 witnesses if above numbers allow
I wouldn't bother with photographers or flower children
I think this could provide a wonderful day but of course if you have lots of children or siblings it wouldn't be possible.

I really feel for the people who have guests who will take it badly, stress the couple out and kind of taint the day. Weddings do bring out the worst in some people, and some relatives can be arseholes even in normal times.

@35andThriving

More fool them then for inviting such unpleasant people in the first place.

I'm getting married this weekend and am so relieved I don't have to make this decision. We already cut it down to 30, then the ceremony venue was playing silly buggers with spacing so the ceremony is family only. It's a bit crap, plus the worry that someone will start coughing tomorrow!

It's strange as dp and I actually discussed this (not engaged or anything) and said the simplicity of it and the ability to invite the key people and not have to invite all the people you feel obliged to or have the huge wedding made us more inclined to want to get married.

Somehow it feels more real and romantic

@1moreRep

It's strange as dp and I actually discussed this (not engaged or anything) and said the simplicity of it and the ability to invite the key people and not have to invite all the people you feel obliged to or have the huge wedding made us more inclined to want to get married.

Somehow it feels more real and romantic

I agree it is quite nice of you start off with that expectation and build around it. If you start off with 100 guests, a marquee, a band and fireworks then going minimalist is really hard. Especially when you've paid hefty deposits, given notice, paid for the registrar... it's not easy to get out of it. If I cancelled everything I've booked at this point then I'd be about £10k out of pocket and none of it would be insured because it's me cancelling.

My cousin has a wedding planned for June so obviously we are hoping restrictions will be far less by then. If not it's a no brainer, they'll ask their DC, parents and step parents, and their siblings and that's the 15 places filled. No one would take offence during this whole bollocksing thing, surely.