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Has anyone changed their mind about their children being at school?

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CathTurnbull · 20/09/2020 20:48

My two are at school. I think it’s the right decision for them and us as a family. However with cases going up I admit I am getting more anxious about them bringing it home and transmission in general.

I’m at home all day so technically could deregister them, but they’re both in secondary and my eldest in his GCSE year so to be honest I don’t think I’m up to the job, therefore it’s not fair for me to make that decision as their education would be compromised (obviously).

Is anyone else having second thoughts about their children in school? I just feel a bit confused about it all, I really want to do what’s right for them, but am also constantly worried about their dad who’s vulnerable.

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CathTurnbull · 20/09/2020 20:49

Oh dear, I’ve just seen a similar thread, I’m sorry

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Bmidreams · 20/09/2020 20:54

I think the fact they're so happy there and receiving an education outweighs the other stuff, as they've been through so much. However, if in time the situation becomes dire again then we can make our choices then. Chances are teachers self isolating will probably close schools like last time anyway.

Treaclepie19 · 20/09/2020 20:54

I'm confused about how I feel tbh.
Pretty much I was very nervous (almost 38 weeks pregnant, overweight and have asthma) but have made peace with it because its good for my son.
He has settled so much better than expected and I'm willing to take the risks for his education and happiness.
However, now things are starting to change and school are asking for masks to be worn at drop off and pick up I'm thinking it won't be long until the measures they put in mean he won't actually be enjoying it or learning well (suspected autism and hearing trouble). So I'm not sure what to think now.
Looking at the projection for how things may go I feel like I should just keep him home like I did in March.
Very conflicted here.

Shamrocksunshine · 20/09/2020 21:12

No. Every week mine are in is a bonus. They are really happy to be back.

Timeforanotherusername · 20/09/2020 21:14

No.

Babyfairy0923 · 20/09/2020 21:22

Yes here - high risk family member. Feeling really torn 🙁

Beebityboo · 20/09/2020 21:24

Yes, although I really didn't want to send them back to begin with. Very close to deregistering all three of my DC until September 2021.

tinseltitsandlittlegits · 20/09/2020 21:28

I received a message to say a child has tested positive at my sons school today 😳
I'm feeling anxious about sending him tomorrow 😫

amy85 · 20/09/2020 21:31

No choice I have to work in my school

SoUtterlyGroundDown · 20/09/2020 21:33

I’m grateful for every single day my children get to be in school learning with their friends. They’ve been back 4 weeks now and so far no cases in any of the three schools in my town, thankfully. Hoping it continues.

Fawnfour · 20/09/2020 21:33

I feel very torn too

Slumptuous · 20/09/2020 21:35

I feel the same. I know school isn't 'Covid safe', but my dc are so happy to be back and I am just having to accept it and hope for the best 😬

Kakiweewee · 20/09/2020 21:40

I think my youngest child will do better in school. They need the structure, they're also currently being assessed for autism and diagnosed with ADHD, so this is a critical time for ensuring that appropriate measures are put in place for their time in secondary school, as they're now in year 8 and it was a terrible first year behaviourally and thus academically for them.

Not sure my eldest necessarily is better off at school though.

ComicePear · 20/09/2020 21:46

My DC are very happy to be back and I'm not feeling torn at all. There isn't a vulnerable person in our household, maybe I'd feel differently if there was.

MummaPI · 20/09/2020 21:49

I hate being held to ransom by fines. I dont want to go so far as deregistering them but a choice if I feel its not safe.

duckme · 20/09/2020 21:50

No.
I'm so happy for my kids that they are able to go back to school, learn in a proper school setting and mix with their peers again. They're both at secondary school and have adapted to the changes the school have made really well.

myworkingtitle · 20/09/2020 21:53

No, I’m not concerned at all. There haven’t been any cases in any school in my town. I’m delighted that they are back with their friends, having some normality etc. None of us have any vulnerabilities & the biggest risk to us really is probably my DH’s job as a doctor.

Fawnfour · 20/09/2020 21:55

Can I just ask,.. so with all the new restrictions coming into force and all the local lockdown, are we still having to send our children to school, or do we get a choice, are they still fining us if we keep children at home because we don't feel it's safe?

Shitfuckoh · 20/09/2020 21:56

I haven't changed my mind. I was always a bit dubious about sending them back but I sent them as they need the social side of things.
I've said since doing so though, that if cases rise too much (in my opinion) then I won't hestitate to take them out. I'm getting a little more uncomfortable as the days go on, especially after more restrictions were brought in here and more & more schools are reporting cases.

GetUpAgain · 20/09/2020 21:57

I'm glad mine are back, it suits them much more than being at home. And for the first time since March I quite like working from home because I'm finally ALONE to get stuff done.

Runwayqueen · 20/09/2020 22:14

I think we will end up deregistering my DD this term. She was at school full time during lockdown on a keyworker placement and we felt she was safe in her small bubble. Now she is back with all her peers we don't very she is so safe.

She has an autoinflammatory disease, and experiences all the covid symptoms (excluding the respiratory element) very routinely. We know exactly when she is going to experience an episode. She didn't have to shield as she wasn't on certain meds and her recent bloods were ok. When she had episodes during the spring and summer terms we could access tests easily, now she has no chance of getting one. Her lead consultant has written to the school and told them she should not be tested going forward (unless she has respiratory issues or we feel she is different from her normal episodes) as she has been through enough and has proven time and time again that she is having an episode. School have reluctantly accepted this but I feel they will probably u-turn with the declining situation, in which case we will remove her. She is year 6, so we hope she would be able to return to school full time for secondary.

SomethingM1ss1ng · 20/09/2020 22:21

We are BAME so that’s one risk factor we tick- I’ve been worried sick since starting school. My one is in Pre Prep and in three days of being back was at home with viral asthma. My head hurts due to constant worry/ we do everything we can at home to keep safe but there is so much beyond my control when she is at school...

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CathTurnbull · 20/09/2020 22:27

Oh it’s such a worry. I especially feel for parents of children that are vulnerable, horrible situation to be in. Must be a constant state of anxiety for some parents.

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Willyoujustbequiet · 20/09/2020 22:30

Yes. 6 cases now at school and entire year off but siblings still attending. Plus we are in a local lockdown and ds is asthmatic.

Im pulling him out.

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CathTurnbull · 21/09/2020 10:15

We’ve just had a case confirmed in my eldest sons year - so that’s year 11 off for two weeks, and it’s only just begun 😢

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