Little things that make Corona suck ass

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We all know that the real tragedy is the deaths, long term illness, job losses, increase in DV, decrease in MH so I'm not ignoring that but what are the little things that you feel warrant a little pity party?

DS has named every day about not wanting to go to school because there are no activities (help yr1!!) When asked he says there's no bouncing allowed, only hopping. Typical 5 yo conversation eh, bit it's really making him sad. I've tried explaining he's allowed to bounce...
Turns out binding involves holding his 121s hands and jumping up and down, which he can't do because of Corona virus.
I think even though he knows about it, he's internalised it as rejection and that she doesn't want to do it anymore which obv makes him sad.

I might have had a little cry.
First world problems I know but it's such a big thing for him at 5 and is really got me down.

So pity party guests very welcome to have a moan about the little crap everyone else dismisses

Yes, watching the little disappointments on your child's face as they realise how things have changed. DD did 'Young Voices' last year, the big concerts with thousands of kids fron school choirs singing in big arena venues. She was watching the DVD the other day and just said 'we won't be able to do young voices again will we? Just look at all those people'. It's not a big thing in the scheme of things, but they've lost a lot this year, and having them start to understand how much more they will lose is almost harder than having to explain it.

Oh that's such a big thing for them.

No school wide trip to Wales. It's such a staple school memory, the older ones esp will miss

Yes, a similar loss for my Y6 daughter to the young voices concert -one is normally held at the Royal Albert Hall next hear and I can't see it happening. Also her last Christmas production and my littlest one's first (and only) Nativity. And the fact they can't say hello to him at school due to being within their bubbles.

I am truly grateful for all they can do and school are being amazing (videoing what they can where they can) but it does cause those little moments of sadness here and there.

I had a baby in lockdown and didn't get my baby shower, no support in the last weeks of my pregnancy, appointments alone, couldn't have my mam with me for the birth, my kids couldn't meet their sister for days and my parents saw her through a window for 6 weeks. At the time I felt like I couldn't complain about it because people were losing their lives, but actually I'm pretty bloody upset about it and fill up with tears everytime I think about it.

We have also been put in local lockdown as of yesterday and now my son will have to celebrate his 5th birthday next week with just us. He's gutted bless him. I've ordered every paw patrol party item and game I can find on amazon to make it as special as I can for him

My 5yo is getting excited about Halloween and Christmas coming up, he told me earlier that last year he tried his friends vampire teeth 😱 he said hes excited to dress up (he still can) and go trick or treating, he's excited about a Christmas play and seeing santa I havent the heart to tell him those things are unlikely to happen this year

Ah @Jrobhatch29 that's so hard. I feel for you, and your little ones. I bet your DS will be made up with all the Paw Patrol stuff though. Hope he has a good birthday.

I think having a lockdown baby is a particular type of hard. We're "lucky" our twins were due Jan/came Dec and were healthy and home straight away. Homecoming a 5 yo with 4 month old twins is hard but having them during Middletown would have been harder

Ah @Concerned7777 that's crap. Hopefully school will still do most of their activities and Father Christmas can send him a personalised video message. I can't remember the website but you can get a free one where he mentions your kids age and name etc. It's animated not a real bloke

No Winter Wonderland. I don't celebrate Christmas but i loved walking through it, it feels so magical.

Also Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur services are online this year. To be fair, orthodox synagogues are still operating but not the reform synagogues. At least I can see family but its not the same.

Ooh can I join in?

DC2 born mid lockdown. Thanks to either shit hospital or corona procedures (maybe a mix of the two) DH missed the birth by about two minutes. I'd already been alone in hospital for two days at that point and did that first overnight shift solo as our reliable childcare folk are all vulnerable and shielding so he had to get home to care for DC1.

I know there's a lot of hating on people complaining about maternity leave but my maternity leave has been spent looking after DC1 who would normally be full time in nursery. We opted not to send him back before he moved on to preschool so we've been doing our best to care for him and a newborn from home with little available useful support.

Grandparents haven't met DC2 and not sure when they will. DC1 now back at school and very upset about why he has to. Settling in is nonexistent because adults can't go into the setting.

Baby groups aren't really running either so I'm trying to remember what you do with a newborn all day! Sure it'll come back to me

Thanks OP I really feel better for getting that off my chest!! Nothing massive in the grand scheme of things but I worry about how DC1 will react to being resocialised, what an extended enforced lockdown has done to our relationship with him, and whether DC2 will ever ever meet the grandparents...

We're past it now and normally a carol service but I'd be gutted to miss the YR nativity.

Mine are upset about haloween at the moment, they bloody love it.

Halloween. DD (5) went trick or treating for the first time last year and described it as the most fun and best day ever! I was surprised by how much she loved it.

When school started last week, I was trying to explain autumn and months and said something about it being back to school in September, then October and Halloween, then November, then December and Xmas. She starting talking about Halloween and trick or treating again, and I couldn’t bring myself to say that she might not be able to go this year

I decided not to have an in person baby shower because my friends are spread throughout the country so thought it was best not to, at the beginning it was something that kept me going thinking if i isolate myself for a few weeks things will get better but they didn't.

They did a lovely virtual baby shower for me and although i have no clue when anyone will meet baby when he's due next month, i know that's nothing when at the moment I'm at least able to have a birth partner most of the time, so feel i shouldn't be complaining about it.

We had tickets and a hotel booked to see Derren Brown back in April. We had bought them 12 months before the show, best seats inthe house and we didn't have a party for DH's 40th birthday as he chose the tickets instead as his present. It was postponed until August initially and is now postponed until next year. We can't make the postponed date due to my work restrictions on booking annual leave. It's small thing in the grand scheme of things but such a disappointment.

(Does it make me a bad person that I haven't requested a refund on the tickets and am praying it will be postponed again to a date that we can do?)

DD is in year 6. Every year, the year 6s are allocated a reception child as their "little one" to look after, welcome to the school, and just keep an eye on for their first year in the school. Since DD left Reception, she (like many of her classmates) has looked forward to being a guardian to her little one. This year they are in class bubbles, of course, so though she technically has a little one, they can have virtually no interaction. She is taking it well, but when i think how much she looked forward to it, it makes me a bit sad.

DD came home yesterday saying that two boys were 'naughty' because they hugged eachother, they're five, what has this world come to? It makes me so sad.

I'm missing spontaneity. Having to book everything and remember a mask is tiresome. And covid hostility (people barking at you "Stand behind the line!!" "SANITISE!" etc) sucks the joy out of going anywhere.

My daughter takes part in May Queen. This year my friends daughter was being crowned. My friend is very poorly but planning and organising the event gave her something to look forward to. I its cancelled and it's something that just can't be rescheduled. Our school has had 7 fundraising events cancelled including summer fete and fireworks and not only are these events important fior the school community but rhis badly affect the school finances. We were due to have a look around secondary schools but it's all moving on line. I don't think you caneed truly get a feel of a school.unless you see it in person.

I had a baby a few weeks into lock down and frankly it was shit.
I ended up with a C section and DH had to go home after 2 hrs when I was moved to the ward , the nurses would stand at the door if you rang the buzzer to see what you wanted as they didn't want to come into the room as they would have to wear full PPE. I had zero breast feeding support and DS tongue tie, Lip tie and high arched pallet wasn't picked up on so he lost a lot of weight.
I had planned and booked in breast feeding support groups and mentors but none of it could be done so I ended up pumping for 3 months every 2 hrs because he wouldn't feed. I feel so so sad now when I hear of breastfeeding mums and feel like I've failed miserably.

His siblings didn't meet him for 3 days and none of the grandparents for weeks and weeks, as a result he barely knows them now despite FaceTime.
I just feel completely robbed, he is my last baby, at first I was ok but the more this is going on the more I realise how upset I am by it all and. It having baby groups, meeting new mum friends. It's very isolating.

Thank you for the moan I'm hoping it will help.

To all of you that had a baby in lockdown I really feel for you , it must have been so so tough.

My six year old started sobbing yesterday when we told her she couldn't have a Halloween party this year. Thank goodness she didn't know anything about the planned trip to Lapland this December to meet Father Christmas.

I really do feel for the kids. It's so hard on them.

DD came home yesterday saying that two boys were 'naughty' because they hugged eachother, they're five, what has this world come to? It makes me so sad. This breaks my heart. DS is such a toucher and cuddler, he and his bf always held hands at play time and did races. Presumably that's not allowed. DTwins will go into nursery knowing no one can touch them unless they have a dirty nappy. It's so sad.

I'm so sorry for all the things making love harder for everyone else right now too x

My six year old showed me the new hug they give at school - instead of hugging their friends they have to self hug from a safe distance. What are we doing to our children?

Another baby in lockdown here, very strange maternity leave, no groups, no support and not meeting family for a long time after he was born.

Ds1 has just started reception and the thought of no nativity just makes me so sad. It’s one of those parent moments I’ve been waiting for.

Not being able to take them to Father Christmas etc.

BUT I’m alive, all my family and friends are too so have to be grateful for that. And that fact that as a nurse I’ve escaped Covid at work so far due to mat leave.

I have followed everything celebrated birthdays within rules not fave up Easter and Mother’s Day. But having to be on our own for Christmas has pushed me over the edge. All the sacrifices we have made with the thought of at least having Christmas dinner and now we don’t even have that to look forward to.

No family fun swimming, we all miss that.

No practical science lessons in school (geeky I know!) but matters to them.

No firework display they don't know this yet but once it dawns on them ......might have to send Dad out to garden with substandard rockets!