Little things that make Corona suck ass

[SleepingStandingUp]

We all know that the real tragedy is the deaths, long term illness, job losses, increase in DV, decrease in MH so I'm not ignoring that but what are the little things that you feel warrant a little pity party?

DS has named every day about not wanting to go to school because there are no activities (help yr1!!) When asked he says there's no bouncing allowed, only hopping. Typical 5 yo conversation eh, bit it's really making him sad. I've tried explaining he's allowed to bounce...
Turns out binding involves holding his 121s hands and jumping up and down, which he can't do because of Corona virus.
I think even though he knows about it, he's internalised it as rejection and that she doesn't want to do it anymore which obv makes him sad.

I might have had a little cry.
First world problems I know but it's such a big thing for him at 5 and is really got me down.

So pity party guests very welcome to have a moan about the little crap everyone else dismisses

@fatisnotafeeling don't be so hard on yourself, you haven't failed at all. I also had a baby in lockdown who struggled to breastfeed and the first 8 weeks were some of the most miserable of my life. I was desperate to breastfeed, my DS also had a tongue tie and for weeks I sobbed every single time i fed him - all I wanted was someone to just sit with me and show me what to do and tell me it would be ok, and no-one could. Your experience (and mine) would have been so different had it happened at another time, it isn't a reflection on you as a mum so don't think it is.

I was supposed to be goong out for lunch today, but now I can't meet anyone from another household. So instead I cleaned the bathroom.

It's just crap isn't it. So many little things that made life lovely that now we can't do.

My 5yo keeps mentioning the inflatable obstacle course they had at the swimming pool. "Do you remember mummy, it was so good".

Eldest can't go to Scouts because they haven't resumed. He loves Scouts. Such a small thing but he gets so much out of it.

All the Halloween, Bonfire, Christmas activities that won't happen.

I typed a post earlier but deleted it because I didn't want to be told to get a grip.

I feel that there's levels to this. On the basic level there's the worry of job losses, people getting sick, dc missing potentially education, mental health.

Then there the next layer which is all the things we still can't do.

@Stillinbedat10am I had tickets for derren brown too. Gutted.

For me it is carol singing. Despite being atheist, I love singing carols. It's my favourite thing about Christmas. I also love taking dd to Christmas events. Feels so magical.

Mine have been told there's to be no singing happy birthday to their classmates. They're reception and KS1 so probably licking each other in the playground anyway. Surely teacher whacks a visor on if concerned and gets on with it, and I say this as a teacher who's school is getting on with it. Too many are using it as an excuse for not changing kids books, marking their homework, hearing them read.

Not a lockdown baby but born in late October last year. Had bad PND so really struggled the first few months, had just started going to groups and making mum friends when lockdown happened. My mental health deteriorated again. Husband working away so felt so isolated even with one zoom baby class running.

With things were opening up again with baby groups and my sport restarting I was just starting to feel myself again. Today I feel so low again. I feel so awful for my son- he has been two weeks of groups and seeing how much he loves it and gets from it now he is old enough to interact with other babies I’m so sad that they will likely stop soon as they aren’t seen as important. He is my first born, we have no other babies or children in my local group of friends and family. I feel like a terrible mum, that I can’t give him everything he needs. His development is behind and I’m trying to encourage it but I feel so lost. Groups gave me the confidence and his standing has come on after seeing other babies do it.

I know I am lucky that we have our health, most of my close friends and family are low risk and I have a job to return to soon but I feel sad and also annoyed. Lots of restrictions that are likely to come back will essentially put me back to where we were during full lockdown. Our activities were some of the first to stop but last to restart. I wasn’t exactly in a place to go to the pubs when they reopened but socially distanced baby groups only got going in the last month. And yes I know the economic argument etc but I just feel frustrated and sometimes need to vent. Hope all of you have had lockdown babies are getting more support now.

"@Angel2702*

But having to be on our own for Christmas has pushed me over the edge. All the sacrifices we have made with the thought of at least having Christmas dinner and now we don’t even have that to look forward to.
What country do you live in? I'm in England in an area where we aren't allowed to mix with other households atm. Nothing has been said to indicate that will stil be the case in just over 3 months.

I work FT and use wraparound care at school so I’ve always missed out on the school gate experience. The one plus side was that at pick up I could have a look in school, see their classrooms, often have a very quick word with their teachers if they were still around...just made me feel part of their school life. I’m very lucky wraparound is still running but we’re not allowed to set one foot inside the building so I’ve had to stand on tiptoes and peer through the window to see what DS’s classroom looks like. It made me feel silly and sad, jumping up and down in a mask in the playground hoping for a glimpse of his desk...

It has been made very clear the rule of so. Is likely to be in place for most of winter or beyond. But with increase in cases it’s more likely no household mixing in any areas over Christmas.

Just an aside @SleepingStandingUp :
Could he bounce if they both held opposite ends of a price of fabric instead of hands? Hopping might suck to him if he’s very tactile because he doesn’t get to do anything with his hands. Fabric is hardly the same but might help.

Sending lots of love to everyone struggling it’s been so hard and sometimes you feel you can’t voice it as you should be ‘lucky to be alive’ ‘people have it worse’ ‘just get on with it at least it’s not the blitz’.

Have a 3 yeah old and 9mo. Was doing well with both until lockdown when developed severe PND which although treated with CBT which helped I still struggle. Crushing anxiety and constant fear DDs bubble will burst at her new preschool which she loves and has settled into. Feel like something nice happens but the fear of it being whipped away from them.

Small thing- walked past local soft play (closed- local lockdown) and DD said to the baby ‘it’s closed now but I’ll take you to soft play soon it’s the funnest place ever’ 💔wish we could just go at the drop of a hat like before.

To pp about school/nursery- ours seem to bubble to teacher into the class or certainly the nursery workers so they’re hands on as much as they ever have been. I would be heartbreaking to send DC2 in if they’d only be touched when changing nappies- perhaps check other nurseries? Certainly in this setting they’re getting cuddles and interaction whenever needed and we are a high risk area. I’ve worked so hard to protect them both from everything (especially 3 year old) my priority above everything now is keeping things are normal for her as possible.

So sorry for all the kids and the new mums (Congratulations).

Mine is numerous concerts cancelled. Just got confirmation a December one is now off. I've been holding off booking flight/hotel so at least I havent that headache.
Above concert was to celebrate my 50th and ds 18th which fall in a few weeks.
My area has just gone into local lockdown.
Dd graduation was rescheduled for nov. That won't be taking place now.

DS2 was in year 6 when lockdown began. So he and his classmates have not had any of the excitement of the last few weeks and months at school. No leavers service at church, no signing shirts and hugging the teachers on the last day, no prom.

The kids are of course absolutely fine and loving their new secondary schools, but I just feel sad that they’ve missed out on a really lovely and special time in their school career.

Sleeping that is so sad for your children. It seems their school/nursery are taking a very extreme, not very nurturing approach. I teach in a special school and we are still touching, hugging, massaging, doing whatever the children need to feel safe and happy.

Y2 Ds won't be having a birthday party his year, like most kids I guess. He's been planning it basically since his party last year finished and is so upset about it.
Unlikely to get a Christmas play this year, we also didn't get one in reception due to building work at the school so out of 3 years in infants one Christmas play only!sounds ridiculous but I'd been looking forward to Christmas plays since he was a baby!
Ds also missed his drama group show in June. It was postponed to January but I can't see any way it will happen then. He was so excited about it!

We missed our cruise holiday in May. It was rebooked till next May but they sold the ship and cancelled that as well. I havent been able to find an alternative that fits into our leave next year and not convinced cruises will be viable by then anyway so finally gave up and asked for my money back.
We have actually booked a fireworks event and 2 Christmas events which all claim to be Covid compliant etc etc but I'm not convinced any of them are actually going to happen so daren't look forward to them.

DD has persuaded us to let her go to Reading (as the post GCSE rite of passage) and that was all called off - won’t be the same in other years

Also she was looking forward to enjoying the extra long post exam break, made all the sweeter by everyone else still being in school, and that went. As did my plan for a one-to-one special post-exam holiday, just me and her.

Yes, that’s a pile of first world issues - the important thing is that we got through it all together - which was (and is) far from a given as I have leukaemia and am exceptionally vulnerable. DC both came behind my shield with me (only going out to walk the dog) and I think they are both absolute stars

My 3 year old playing 'doctors' with her teddies having covid.

Watching my 16mo play at washing his hands.

Not being able to have a lovely long browse through my local fabric shop
Not being comfortable to randomly jump on the train to surprise my uni son with lunch and a catch up
My family secretly worrying about me seeing them as I'm vulnerable and they are working/uni/kids back to school

IVe had to postpone my wedding and hen do until next year and still don’t feel excited as they are both abroad I just don’t know if they’ll happen. I started a brilliant mum and toddler circuits class at the beginning of the year and this is not able to start up again so miss that, was also working on expanding my circle of friends as we moved areas last year but that’s not happening with SD x

I've lost everything, absolutely everything, that makes my life fun and actually worth living. Thanks to Covid my mental health is fragile and I'm on the point of having to go on antidepressants.

Staggered school starts are a PITA.
Seeing my usually bubbly DD really down missing school and her friends all year. She was delighted to be back, then a few days in a child in her bubble tested positive so off again for 2 weeks. Lots of tears.
Not being able to enjoy a browse round shops anymore.
I wouldn't mind so much if it was all temporary but if this is the 'new normal' then life is going to be very grim.

@awsomer

Just an aside *@SleepingStandingUp* : Could he bounce if they both held opposite ends of a price of fabric instead of hands? Hopping might suck to him if he’s very tactile because he doesn’t get to do anything with his hands. Fabric is hardly the same but might help.

Then you, that's a good idea, I'll ask him 121 Monday. She's lovely, were so lucky to have kept her from last year. I was v dubious as she very young but she's doing a sterling job

No school trips at all in my DC's last year in compulsory education, no prom, unlikely to be exams, no chance of looking round 6th forms

Another lockdown baby. This is my first baby, my DH wasn’t allowed in hospital with me until I was in delivery room and he had to go home a few hours after baby was born. I stayed in hospital for a few nights by myself with no idea what I was doing and no help. Family couldn’t meet baby and some still haven’t. Both sets of parents live far away and with current social distancing rules we have no help from family or friends, not even anyone to hold the baby to give me a rest. DH had to go back to work after two weeks so it’s just me during the week. I was just beginning to go out and meet up with a few other mums and go to a baby group but now with the rule of 6 I can’t even meet up with my Nct group as the 6 includes babies, and I expect stricter rules will mean no baby groups. I’m so lucky we have a healthy baby but this was nothing like I was expecting having my first baby to go and I really don’t think I can cope with another lockdown over winter. I feel so sad when I see people not sticking to rules as it means longer for me to go without help and support.