Anyone feeling sad about Christmas.....

[november90]

Most likely gonna be the 6 person rule in place and we have 5 in our house....... :(
Devastated!

@Toilenstripes
Why wouldn’t you focus on how you can create a lovely, cosy Christmas where you celebrate your gratitude instead of moping..
I know, and I am getting ex tied with the kids and we will have a lovely cosy Christmas. I'm not moping, but yes, inside I am a little sad (as are the kids) that the people we normally spend Christmas with, my mum, sister, won't be here, because my sister lives abroad and won't be able to get over and my mum died in June.

ex tied....excited!

I lost somebody who meant the entire goddamn world to me and more on actual Christmas fucking Day 2019 of all days so I've been dreading Christmas 2020 since. I'm stuck between having no Christmas this year vs. trying my best to carry on as normal and getting extra drunk. Personally, after last year, Christmas will never be the same as long as I live so pandemic Christmas fucking come at me bro

@HolyMerlot I’m so sorry.

We never do much at Christmas and I'm a bit of a bah humbug so it won't affect me much if it is 'cancelled. ' Which it won't be I'm sure. It might just be watered down a lot.
However, I feel for the kids and the young as it is a happy time normally and everyone need something to look forwards to. I loved going out to the pub or clubs when I was much younger at Christmas time , so it's sad that might be different this year for those that do like it and hospitality certainly need the economic boost it usually brings with it.

can use it as a chance tore set how we do christmas

reduce card sending and present buying
no school xmas fairs and no work christmas meal! fabulous!

Thanks @BashfulClam

While all deaths are bad deaths, this death was so easily avoidable/preventable (no illness, very unexpected and quite traumatic) and happened to somebody so so so young (

We normally spent xmas with inlaws including one who was 90 this year. While they are not the best company, I fear at this age it could be their last xmas and would hate for them to be alone.

Never enjoyed Christmas much. So many unhappy, lonely people whose misery is just enhanced by this time of year. I've volunteered some years, but it's harder with kids... they like it obviously but I just feel selfish stuck at home when so many people have so much less than we do.

Spread Christmas out spending time with different family members different days.by Christmas we might not even be able to mix households.who cares it’s only one day

It’ll be a bit flat, but it’s only one year x

There are 4 of us so my parents will come to either me or my sister, as long as they feel comfortable. It’s a bit shite we can’t all get together but we will catch up another day. Even if my parents don’t feel comfortable with coming over for dinner we’ll wrap up and go and stand in their garden. We’ll still see them. They are vulnerable as they are in their 70s and dad has cancer

We have a second Christmas with my H’s family on 27/28 Dec but that’s not going to go ahead as there are loads of them. We’ll do it next year I’m sure and appreciate it all the more.

I haven't RTFT sorry, but I am still hopeful the rule might not be in place over Christmas. I know, river in Egypt...but still hoping.

My family have decided that if it's still in place by Christmas then we're just ignoring it.

We are doing it anyway with a group of 9. If it costs us £100 fine then so be it. It won’t be Christmas at all just our household; it would feel like any other Sunday but with presents. For me Christmas is all about family being together.

This is us too. I have three siblings and we usually all get together with our children at our parents house on the same day either Christmas Day or Boxing Day. This year our mum has just died and it's more important than ever that we are all together.

No because it won't change for us.

I feel sad about it - it rules out a few traditions leading up to the big day where we get together with extended family and friends. Unless of course we see them one at a time. Maybe I need a buffet and to allocate set appointment times

On the day we will be unapologetically 7, our family, my parents, my sister and FIL who will complete chemo in Nov and will probably move in for a little bit when his treatment ends as we live in another quieter part of the country.

BIL has been making noises about “all” getting together as it “might be dads last Christmas”
Considering how last year went for that side of the family I think FIL will be pleased at a quieter and less likely to kick off at any moment Christmas Day.

I think a lot of people will ignore the rule and do / invite who they want
How on earth will it be implemented

Christmas is months away and they have already said they will review things as we go along. By then things could be different, no point worrying or feeling sad, just have to wait and see what happens.

I doubt if the rules will be the same at Christmas. Cases are currently doubling every 8 days so we will be back up to where we were in March by the end of October. By Christmas we will either be in full lockdown again or coming out the other side of it unless things are tightened considerably now.

@Imissmoominmama

Since my mum died, I have hosted my dad and sister, with her two kids. That would take us to 8.

Just do that.

Honestly, this rule of 6 is absolutely there to be broken in such circumstances. It is hardly a mass social gathering of hundreds of people that you would be planning.

Apart from not being able to go Church (and worshipping via Zoom holds little appeal for me) our Christmas will be much the same as usual, we don't go in for big extended meet ups (by choice) so a quiet day at home with my elderly parents & DS will be very nice - Allmy - my DDad has been saying 'this might be my last Christmas for the last 15 years - he will be 90 this year . I work in retail so am well used to 'only' having Christmas Day as a day off which suits me fine.

Yeah I live in a different country to my whole family and haven’t seen them since last Christmas and probably won’t see them this year with travel restrictions still in place - so maybe think yourself lucky you live with and can celebrate with your family of 5?

Also it’s just one year and one day so it’s really not that big of a deal. It be back next year

[quote Bupkis]@Toilenstripes
Why wouldn’t you focus on how you can create a lovely, cosy Christmas where you celebrate your gratitude instead of moping..
I know, and I am getting ex tied with the kids and we will have a lovely cosy Christmas. I'm not moping, but yes, inside I am a little sad (as are the kids) that the people we normally spend Christmas with, my mum, sister, won't be here, because my sister lives abroad and won't be able to get over and my mum died in June.[/quote]
Yes, my fil died of Covid in March, so our Christmas will be pared down a bit. But this year I plan to more actively embrace decorating the house, choosing Christmas movies to watch throughout December and otherwise thinking of ways to make it a special time. 💐

We were planning on having a different christmas this year anyway. DP usually works so I travel to my DM's and spend Christmas with her. There's usually 6 or 7 of us. However, this year DP has Christmas eve off so we're planning on staying at home. My DM is going to come to us. We're her support bubble so this should still be ok. We'll probably invite PIL over if the 6 person rule still applies.

Boxing Day is the difficult one. We usually spend it with the in laws. 17 people from 5 households so I just can't see it happening.

It is sad, but I'm going to try and make the best of what we've got. I'm looking forward to doing the whole Santa business with DS for the first time. He'll be 14 months and won't have a clue, but I'll love every second! I've already got quite a few presents in case the shops shut again.