Anyone feeling sad about Christmas.....

[november90]

Most likely gonna be the 6 person rule in place and we have 5 in our house....... :(
Devastated!

Nope I always feel pressured and torn about which parents to have Xmas Dinner with and having to drag the kids round seeing family when they just want to stay home and play with their presents. Perfect excuse this year for it just to be us although I do feel guilty on the grandparents who want to see the dc.
IF England change the rule of 6 not to include younger children this will help so we can arrange for GP to come round for a short time but I have no plans to go through my front door on Xmas day at all

Restaurants might do well.

Family groups can book into the same restaurant and still have christmas dinner together. Might be a good alternative option for lots of families.

I'm okay with having a quiet one. It's the least of the issues for me/our family but I can understand why it would be devastating for others.

I don’t mind a quiet Christmas. I’ll order M&S food, stock up on spirits and perhaps invite PIL over. There’s only 3 of us so with PIL that makes 5. Realise we’re lucky in that respect.

We’ll probably have a Boxing Day zoom get together with other family.

Possibly the only thing i feel sad about is the children not doing their usual Nativity and Christmas sing a longs in school. There'll be no visits to Santa or Christmas parties, no exciting build up for the children like there usually is

We'll miss going on a cruise. But otherwise, business as usual.

8 around the table here at Christmas, if we get a £100 fine so be it.

The competitive Christmas misery merchants will be in their element, though. 'This year in the true spirit of the season and to honour all those who've had the virus, we walked the London Marathon route naked, flagellating ourselves as we went, after the kids got their stocking containing a clementine and a walnut, then we emptied our bank accounts and gave it away, handed over the keys to our car and house to strangers (but with strict social distancing, masks and hand sanitisers) because this year has taught us what life is all about. Blessed.'

@Bupkis But this thread is about gearing up to feel sad. What an awful way to be. It’s one thing to wake up on Christmas morning and feel your feelings, but it’s quite another to decide in September that you’re going to be sad. Wtf?

I’m pretty sure most of the population will do exactly what they want.

A lot of people are just going to meet up with their family anyhow.

Means I'm going to be totally alone at Christmas.

Fuck no, really looking forward to not having to make excuses to go out and have people over. Bliss

@fairydustandpixies

Means I'm going to be totally alone at Christmas.

Only if you listen to this shitshow government. Fuck that.

@fairydustandpixies

Means I'm going to be totally alone at Christmas.

Many would envy you! It was always my idea of Heaven.

Trying to be positive here and plan ahead for different situations.

Luckily there are only 5 of us (not something we consider lucky in other years, but times are different now), so we could all meet at my parents.

But with shielding we have only met in the garden so far except for one hour when I sat just inside the open french door and they sat the other side of the room.

So we have rented a holiday flat with two bedrooms and bathrooms so we adult children (me, Db and DSIL) can stay there and socially distance from one another, then visit parents, or meet up with them outside. Or if necessary I could stay with parents (not happy about the risk, but it may be necessary, and I could bubble with them).

I just can't picture us all being inside the house for Christmas lunch with the doors shut. It feels such a risk to them. But the risks to mental health of not seeing them then are also huge.

It’s my sons birthday Boxing Day so it will mean another day ruined. At least we could go out with family for my other children’s birthdays. It’s going to be exactly like being back in lockdown for us but at least during lockdown we were all in the same boat. It just seems extra u fair as will be the only people in our family that have to stay at home on our own.

In my area of Scotland you are not allowed anyone who doesn’t live in your house coming over, MIL is widowed and DH an only child so we have to have her but will probably drop her back home at 10pmish (hopefully setting a new routine of her not staying from now on. I know I sound horrible but we only get Christmas Day and Boxing Day off and would like to just lie on the sofa and do nothing on Boxing Day but she wakes us at 6am then faffs about like fuck. Last year I had to actually bite my fist in anger. Then decides every year that we have to take her to Asda as she has ‘nothing in’ she had nothing but time as she’s retired and could have been to the shops at any time).

I think we will be able to mix with families by Christmas. I really hope so anyway.

It's more than 3 months away. I'm going to do what I always do and wait and plan in late November/early December.

Nothing to feel sad about yet (!)

I am feeling sad about this, I’m in my mid 40s and haven’t spent a Christmas without my parents and sister ever. Wonder if things will change by then, we are 3 or 4 households and 10/11 people. Also have the issue of the ILs who we usually see as well on Christmas Day, but it’s not seeing my folks that is making me really sad already. Daft to worry about it now I know but that’s not in my nature

Il be seeing my family on Xmas. I don’t care what the government say... so I’m pretty happy about it.

Yes, anxious about Christmas. But the idea that "Christmas is cancelled" isn't helping.

No my Christmas will go ahead as planned. Probs only six or us anyway possibly 8.

Perfect Christmas for me I hate big family gatherings

Actually so excited just to spend it at home! It will be DD's first christmas & it was the inlaws turn to host this year so secretly happy it will just be us 5 at home & im going to try and make it as special as I can! With a little help from M&S's pre-prepared food 😉