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Anyone not sending there kids back to school

259 replies

Kmx123 · 29/08/2020 12:32

Majority of posts i have seen are kids have to go back to school now Ect
But
Is there anyone keeping there kids off school for longer and what are your reasons its not a judgemental thread
I think every parent has the same worries risk to them/grandparents/teachers numbers going up
A friend has told me there keeping theres off until Christmas and if they need to deregistering and said there kids have thrived being at home they are both working from home also and have 3 kids
Is anyone planning on keeping them off for a few weeks to see how it goes
Or are most people against these ideas
I have a 4 year old starting reception going in to a large school with 800 pupils in london a few people have said to me to defer him he is a summer born so is not 5 until the end of next july i am in two minds of what to do is anyone in a similar situation what have they decided

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sailingfree · 30/08/2020 21:41

@WouldBeGood

Very rude of you.

Shockingstocking · 30/08/2020 21:42

the kinds of errors in the post aren't particularly the kind that dyslexics make, anyway)

Yes they are!!

Shockingstocking · 30/08/2020 21:48

Alex

You ask a lot of questions so I hope you won't mind being asked. Do you have Asperger's? It's the only explanation I can think of, other than those already suggested.

Oldbagface · 30/08/2020 21:49

@sailingfree not only rude but ignorant and goady.

Someone is desperate for attention. Bless the poor thing Wink

Shockingstocking · 30/08/2020 21:54

Alex

Disregard the question. A quick search shows you have been posting prolifically since lockdown started (presumably while others were working or actually educated their children) trying to convince everyone who will listen that this is a mild illness with, you confidentally assert, no ongoing health problems.

Your questioning style suggests someone lacking in IQ and social awareness but on reflection, it's clearly a front.

Get a life.

Oldbagface · 30/08/2020 21:56

Or indeed a better hobby 😉

Shitfuckoh · 30/08/2020 21:57

Oh for goodness sake Angry well I won't be giving a half apology again! Knew something wasn't right!

MilesJuppIsMyBitch · 30/08/2020 21:57

@Shockingstocking

Alex

Disregard the question. A quick search shows you have been posting prolifically since lockdown started (presumably while others were working or actually educated their children) trying to convince everyone who will listen that this is a mild illness with, you confidentally assert, no ongoing health problems.

Your questioning style suggests someone lacking in IQ and social awareness but on reflection, it's clearly a front.

Get a life.

Yep, I did an AS too. Very enlightening.
Shitfuckoh · 30/08/2020 21:58

Who has the time to ask all those questions for no reason though? & why, why do it?! I thought it was originally to cause arguments / pick the answers apart (and I still think it was) but why?

MilesJuppIsMyBitch · 30/08/2020 22:01

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Oldbagface · 30/08/2020 22:07

Sorry peeps. Thought I was doing the right thing.

I DO try to help people if I can.

Said poster wasn't able to pull my water tight plan apart so hopefully will try and infiltrate another thread.

Ginseng1 · 30/08/2020 22:08

In your case defer. My DD 4 in July am sending her to pre-school for another year. My big two going back they need it & want to. Always think just 4 going to school is SO young though I probably wouldn't have sent her til 5 anyway. Am in Ireland though it's not unusual to start at 5.

sunseekin · 30/08/2020 22:14

@RockPaperScissorLizardSpock

Joining the conversation a little late, but here are my thoughts... If someone asked you to go and walk around in a poorly ventilated room with around 200 people, shoulder to shoulder, no mask, I expect very few of you would be willing to consider it. So, why is it acceptable for us to put our children/teaching staff in this EXACT scenario? We social distance/wear masks in shops, so why is it suddenly ok for these safety measures to be abandoned?! Sadly, I no longer trust what the government are telling us about how safe schools are.

Although I’m not worried about my children contracting the virus, I don’t want my husband or I to get it. Why risk it? Waiting to hear back from one of the schools but may well have to de-register.

Exactly this. I really don’t think deregistering will be necessary. If I have to put anything in writing it will be concerns similar to what you have described, stating clearly that if wanting to provide alternative provision in a pandemic amounts to deregistering than that is what I’m doing (but I’ll make it very clear that it is under duress and feels more like unrolling). I really don’t think it will happen and I don’t think any council will want to start that ball rolling with a letter written under clear duress. Numbers are only going to go up sadly. There will be more and more of us.
Lots to happen before we get close to that scenario though.
Deregistering is not going to be a factor in my decision making, just something I need to resolve alongside it.
Shitfuckoh · 30/08/2020 22:14

@Oldbagface

Sorry peeps. Thought I was doing the right thing.

I DO try to help people if I can.

Said poster wasn't able to pull my water tight plan apart so hopefully will try and infiltrate another thread.

That's because you know you've made the correct decision for you & your DC based on what you know (that any poster here trying to make you doubt it, does not know) Flowers
Oldbagface · 30/08/2020 22:20

Thank you @Shitfuckoh Flowers.

Spiderseason · 30/08/2020 22:20

Quick glance, looks like thread getting de railed.

Op, the circs of your friend in your first post sound entirely reasonable to me.
3 dc so lots of dc on dc stimulation. 2 parents at home working and they thrived in lock down and.. A vulnerable gp.
I'd consider it on those terms. Esp if house space to do so.

My younger dc has thrived through lock down.
I'm not sure how she'll get on back at school but I'm back in work.

However if our situation was different, and we would be able to get them back into school if needs be after pandemic... It's not necessarily a bad thing. Winter might just be OK.
It might be armageddon.

LinManWellWellWell · 30/08/2020 22:31

I have deregistered my daughter so no, she won’t be going back. However it’s not directly because of the virus, but more that her mental health improved so much during lockdown (she had had some real struggles with school this year) that it seemed daft to send her back. Am now really looking forward to homeschooling (properly, as opposed to the remote learning we were doing last term) and giving her a complete mental health break - however long for.

Spiderseason · 30/08/2020 22:41

Sea to ski

Thanks for that letter /post.

Very thought provoking. Over covid I've personally pretty much done what she said. It's my other reactions, coming from a place of grace I need to look at!!

Spiderseason · 30/08/2020 22:42

Lin man.
I think covid has actually been very positive for many like your dd. She's lucky you can continue home learning.

Hormonecrazyhell · 30/08/2020 23:11

I pulled my dc out of school when we had 10 deaths in the uk, I’m sending dc back when there are 10 deaths per day! I would 100% rather homeschool, but dc are desperate to return and I can’t afford to not work. I can not imagine the attendance will even reach 50% with everyone sent home if there’s a case, or if they have symptoms and need tested.

Shockingstocking · 30/08/2020 23:11

My goodness, Alex has turned asking leading questions into a creepy art form. I haven't seen this kind of thing outside of abusive relationships. It almost seems like gaslighting because they're not questions, they're suggestions, designed to make you think something rather than give her information. Who has the time/motive to do this? She's been at it for months! Time for a time change, Alex! (Though I think this technique is recognisable a mile off).

Do you think the longer lockdown goes on for, protests/riots will become regular weekly thing? Millions of people loosing their jobs, children not in school. A lot of angry people who can’t afford to pay their bills, feed their families, with time on their hands. Furlough is starting to be wound down from August, I can see millions of people being made redundant. UC isn’t enough to live on. Also protest gatherings just spreading the virus so the R rate never goes down. Wouldn’t it be better to get everyone back to work and school before our society breaks down?

MilesJuppIsMyBitch · 30/08/2020 23:20

@Shockingstocking there's a definite theme isn't there.

I've just had my first delete in a long time for troll-hunting. Quite right too: I don't like it when threads get all troll-hunts.

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Kmx123 · 31/08/2020 01:44

@Ginseng1

In your case defer. My DD 4 in July am sending her to pre-school for another year. My big two going back they need it & want to. Always think just 4 going to school is SO young though I probably wouldn't have sent her til 5 anyway. Am in Ireland though it's not unusual to start at 5.
I think this will be the best option for my son also only issue is when he goes next September will he be going in to year 1 or reception Will it be hard to get a reception start has anyone done this
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sailingfree · 31/08/2020 07:40

Yes I obtained a CSA (compulsory School Age) start for my daughter in reception. Children do not legally have to start school until the term after their 5th birthday. It depends what area you live in as to how hard or easy it is to get a reception start. There is a Facebook group called Flexible school admissions - with info on your local areas. Some areas are automatic yes some are harder. Just remember it's not as simple as them saying no they can't just start in reception they have to prove to you why it is in the children's interest to skip reception and put them in year 1. Children who start later do not have to miss a year and move up at secondary school age which is what a lot of people will try and miss inform you. Good luck you are doing the right thing in my opinion.

MilesJuppIsMyBitch · 31/08/2020 08:45

Good luck OP! Sorry for all the fun and games on your thread Thanks