Thank you for all your replies
@Suzi888
I agree he needs to me more assertive and stop letting people treat him this way but its not in his nature, if it was me I would deffiantly speak up , It infuriates me and I have even wanted to go to his work and give them a piece of my mind but obviously I cant. Hes always been this way and then just bottles everything up. He deffinatly hasn't got the strength to deal with anything at the moment.
The police weren't called the lad who assaulted him has already been sent to prison before. So if he was reported then Im sure he would have lost more than his job. My dh didn't want the police involved but more than one of his mates said he should have.
He doesn't get a break at all during the day, he cant stop work for any amount of time, they have someone make brews for them but if they are seen drinking a brew then they get moaned at saying there not doing their work. Also if work is quiet they are expected to do jobs down at there bosses house.
I agree he needs out of there its been going on like this for over a year now and it just getting worse each day/week.
@whatisforteamum
He has been on antidepressants for a while now he has stepped up his dosage and there was a little improvement. I wouldn't like to think what he would be like if he wasn't taking something.
He said to me that he used to love being a mechanic and now working where he is has just put him off it all together. He is willing to do any job that gets him out of where he is now. But there isn't a lot going at the moment. He will sit there for hours applying for jobs.
I have been very lucky and be a stay at home mum for 11 years, as my husband is on a good wage, I have fibromyalgia, but I don't claim anything, as we get child tax credits so didn't need to and I don't know if I would be entitled to help. We discussed that I could go back to work and he could be home and get better and then he can look after the children and i wont have to worry then. I don't know how likely it would be for me to get a job or how my condition will be but I will deffinalty try to go back to work , if it means that my dh will be better.
We discussed maybe going on universal credit , I think he is just anxious because of all the paper work and phone calls, I usually do everything in that department but as he is the main earner he will have to do it, I of course will be there to help but its making the first step to get the ball rolling. If we can get universal credit then we will make sure we can manage.
@Pixel7777
He would love to go self employed and had discussed it with a member of his family that has their own business but his family member never gets round to discussing it with him. He was going to go into partner ship with his brother but I think its just a fear of the unknown.
After an incident again a few weeks ago , I said to my dh enough is enough and on Monday we will go to the doctors and tell them everything and maybe go on the sick. I said that its gone on to long and he cant carry on like this. No one should be treated the way my dh husband has been treated. Monday came and he got up for work, I said to him that we were going to get in at the doctors etc and he said I dont know what to do, but I will try and stick it out.
Then yesterday on the phone to him mum he told her he just wish he didn't wake up in the mornings etc.
I then spoke to his mum and we both said the same thing but when we tell my dh he just shuts off and carry on as usual.
I don't want to leave it too late and I'm terrified he will do something, but how do I get him to go to the doctors and get help? I also don't want him to resent me for him leaving work and having no money etc.
Does he want me to say right your not going into work, were going to the doctors and try and get you the help you need and ask to go on the sick.
I think tomorrow I will tell him that he's to ring in sick and we will get a doctors appointment and take it from there.