Oh crap, I just bought school shoes when it says trainers..

[Mummypig2020]

Dd starts school in September. A lot has been taken away anyway due to Covid, like no book bags or books sent home etc. We went school shoe shopping today to a local shop and she picked some lovely shoes.

A friend has just told me that the school are saying this- I must have missed read it!

I’m not bothered about her changing into trainers to play outside.

:(

These are the ones we bought. They seem like they would be more comfortable.

Just change the bloody things. You're being ridiculous being "sad" about not being allowed to buy her a pair of black shoes, like you've been cheated out of some precious milestone.
Buy the shoes to wear elsewhere if they mean so much.

Send them back and get trainers, don't make life harder for schools than it already is. But her shoes next year, it's not the end of the world 🙄

*buy not but!

@pennylane83

For the first term there is no pe. Howe er you'll be informed what day is pe day for the 2nd term and on those days they'll wear pe kit all day

Thats not how I interpreted it. I read it as, for the first term, don't bring a PE bag into school to be kept on your child's peg as we need to keep the cloakrooms clutter free, instead, your child will be told what day they will have PE on and on that day your child should turn up to school in and wear their PE kit all day. The situation will be reassessed at half term.

You're right, I'm not

used to wearing Mary Jane shoes as she only wears dresses

She’s 4! She should be running around, climbing and exploring not sitting pretty.

These look very comfy and supportive

www.clarks.co.uk/c/Flash-Twist-Kid/p/26149884

Op is she going into receipted or Yr 1? Is it the first time she's been away from you "full time hours"? I think the shoes are clearly not the issue here

For god sake op it's a pair of shoes, you are being really precious. Take the shoes back or keep them who cares just get the shoes the school are advising.

Schools are doing their best to adapt to open in full for September. Just follow their rules. Total non issue

Reception. Massive issue going on, I have really bad anxiety and I feel so powerless atm. I had really bad PND with my first two and can’t remember much of their early childhood. This is my last baby and I feel like it’s something that I’m going to miss out on again. I know it’s ridiculous. I know I’m being stupid.

They look lovely OP. I personally don't see why they can't play out in school shoes if they don't fall off. Suspect the issue is more PE. Every pair of clarks I've ever bought look like they've hardly been worn by the time they're too small. I sent them all to Sal's shoes charity

She won’t give a monkeys about not having a book bag, or about wearing a nice pair of trainers, unless she sees you getting upset about it. Just get some nice trainer style shoes (they don’t have to come from a sports shop or be ugly) and be excited with her about starting school.

Mine just wore their school shoes at break & lunch? Do some make them change? I’d just send her in them and get trainers if they say anything, I doubt they will though.

I think I think lots of schools are doing this. Ours is, although my DCs always wore trainers anyway. Trainers are much a much better "catch all" suitable for all activities.
I get that you're sad, OP, but what the school is going makes sense.

Your being silly yes but anxiety is a shit, so it's OK. Do all your venting in a safe place. It's OK to miss the things you looked forward to. Personally for me it was a book bag.

Take the shoes back, get the trainers and spend the difference on something to treat you both. Big up how exciting it is that she gets to wear trainers so she can do lots of super running about etc.

Fwiw when DS stated nursery at his school it was afternoons and only 2 hours the first day. Day 1 i went to the shop for a magazine, the lady recognised me and asked where he was, I cried. Then I went for lunch at the pub next door because I couldn't bear to go home. I did it for 3 days before I could face going home without him.
When he starts yr1 September I'll have 7 month old twins at home but it'll still be awful coming home without him. Once DH goes back to work a few days later, I can see us going into town for the first day

I have 3 daughters. Never in any school they attended did they change into trainers for break.

I get why you feel sad. Your own situation is personal to you and shoes are not cheap. They are also her firsts. It is abit crap for every one.the little details like bags, shoes etc are also ways to prep the child. "Look at your lovely school shoes"

I remember last year my DD had the same pair from Clarks as half the girls in her class. This year I've gone cheaper at Sainsbury's (£17) as I was worried about wasting money.at my DD school they will wear pe kit on two days and uniform and shoes 3 days. Hopefully it's just for the first term.but I imagine lockdowns will continue. I bet you feel sad she's starting on such a strange time. My daughter missedhalf of reception because of this virus. But I'm trying to keep positive and focus on year one now! X

@Mummypig2020

You are not being silly. My daughter had hip dysplasia and it was discovered at 7 weeks. I was told she couldn't wear her outfits anymore. I couldn't bath her anymore. I went home and cried! I cried because it was her first set of clothes. I also cried because next time I could bath her she would be older and not tiny. I thought I was shallow. Until I realised all mums were describing the same situation on the forum joined.

It is what it is. It's your emotions towards your little girl. Also it's ok to be pissed off that she's picked them out and now they are no good. Hard to explain to her!

Chin up! Every mum in the country is going through emotions in regards to their children, in many ways.

People can be blunt and harsh on here.

No child will be remotely bothered at not having to wear school shoes, Lovestory

Annoying. The ones you got look fine tbh

@Thisismytimetoshine

Well aware of that! I'm saying it's her daughter's first shoes and she's purchased them already. She's allowed to feel disappointed! Also if the child's picked out her first big girl shoes and her mum's got to explain she can't wear them on her first day she might be abit confused. But yeah she won't care about it after five minutes.

I’d just send her in them too.

This sounds similar to our school in terms of PE.
No PE kits to be brought in as there won't be any changing rooms open, but on PE days kids can come in their kit and they'll wear it all day until they get home.

The Mary Jane style shoes are lovely, but if children are going to be outdoors in all weathers they need shoes like trainers that cover the whole foot.