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If you don't care about catching covid, why?

142 replies

yarncakes · 19/07/2020 09:37

Im asking for my own sanity really. I keep telling myself time and time again that if I get coronavirus then that's the way it is. But then during the night I wake up in a sweat, panicking that I've got it. I've tested negative so I know I haven't but it doesn't help with my health anxiety. I'm more worried about my DS and DH, who are both BAME, with a husband who has a health condition as well. Me on the other hand, touch wood I have no health conditions and I'm fairly fit, in my late 20s. Please tell me why you're not worried and is there anything to worry about?!

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Twattergy · 20/07/2020 18:42

Much more worried about cancer. Stats are reassuring. Want to enjoy life.

Comiconce · 20/07/2020 19:30

I'm not worried too much about getting it again due to antibodies. I was extremely unwell late March/most of April and have some long term effects to content with. If I get it again quite frankly it's curtains for me because my lungs won't cope.

SunshineCake · 20/07/2020 19:35

I wasn't worried about getting it but was worried about unknowingly giving it to someone. Then I got it. Confined to bed for two weeks. Had to rest for three hours every time I went to the bathroom. Two hospital trips, one in an ambulance. Over four months later I'm still not fully better. I'm late 40's with mild asthma.

It is all very well saying I have a life to live but everyone needs to be careful still otherwise you won't.

eeeyoresmiles · 20/07/2020 21:36

@AlexisCarringtonColbyDexter

Those of you who aren't concerned about the individual risk to your health (which I understand, the odds are favourable for me too) - do you not worry at all about the risk to the functioning of society if case numbers go up again

Of course, but me worrying about it isnt going to change a damn thing is it? I could worry all night and all day, never sleep at night and stress myself to the point of a nervous breakdown and thats not going to stop anything bad happening or stop covid in its tracks. There seems to be a lot of cognitive dysfunction on this thread that assumes that worrying about something will prevent it. It wont- since when did worry ever stop anything bad from happening?. In fact, stress and worry lower your immune system, so worrying about covid will ironically make you more vulnerable to it.

If you are following guidelines, worry and fear will only serve to make your life worse, increase your vulnerability to illness and generally drag you down into a hopeless spiral. Worry doesnt add a single second to your life, but it will cause you deep unhappiness and waste the life you actually have now. Excessive worry isnt protective, its highly damaging.

It's not that I think people should be sitting around feeling anxious and worrying about it as some kind of hobby, but I am surprised it's not even on most people's radar!

You've only got to look at most of of the replies here - people are giving very personal reasons as to why they're worried or not and barely even mentioning the risks to society if infection rates start going up again, as if that's somehow not going to happen, or won't affect them.

It's like if I was to say I'm completely chilled about walking over a narrow footbridge over a ravine. I might be in normal times, but it would be a different story if hundreds of people were going to be trying to cross it at once. Collectively we have to manage the situation of hundreds of people potentially trying to cross the covid footbridge at once, because they're all individually relaxed about narrow footbridges, but they haven't realised what might happen if they all try to do it at once.

Covid is like that because it's new - it's not trickling along in the background like lots of other existing diseases at low levels, where however careless people are only a manageable number will still get it. Covid still has the potential for thousands, even millions of infections to happen at the same time, and the consequences of that will be dire for all of us regardless of how safe we are individually from the actual illness. That's routine medical treatment stopped again, local lockdowns, businesses failing, school or year group closures...

That risk hasn't gone away, so whenever there's a thread like this where mostly people only talk about their individual risks and don't acknowledge that bigger collective risk, it doesn't exactly fill me with confidence that people really will be careful to follow the guidelines and try hard not to catch or spread the virus.

Oblomov20 · 20/07/2020 21:39

Not bothered. The stats are that a tiny tiny % of people get it badly.
So if you know that, the anxiety doesn't make sense.

Oblomov20 · 20/07/2020 21:39

Not bothered. The stats are that a tiny tiny % of people get it badly.
So if you know that, the anxiety doesn't make sense.

Fieldofgreycorn · 21/07/2020 00:27

I didn’t care that much at first. But now I know it can invade and infect major organs including possibly the brain I’m very worried.

crosseyedMary · 21/07/2020 00:40

Eeeeyore, I think your narrow footbridge metaphor is très apt and what you say is very true; people are talking about their individual risks forgetting that we are all extremely interconnected here, a butterfly could flap its wings and cause an earthquake, one small thing can have a massive knock on effect
suddenly the human race is linked together by this virus.... and not in any kind of a fuzzy holding hands sort of way☹️

Genua · 21/07/2020 04:29

Fieldofgreycorn most viruses can have weird and horrible complications - from my point of view this is not a reason to be concerned about coronavirus over and above other infectious diseases

Genua · 21/07/2020 04:31

I actually think most people have said that they are concerned for others and understand about minimising the risk of passing it on. I do think it’s important though to understand that we can’t eliminate the risk and the element of individual blame associated with transmission of Covid-19, which is impossible for individuals to completely control, is really disturbing

Ritascornershop · 21/07/2020 04:36

I’m late 50’s and have had so much worry the past quarter century, I just have no room in my head for any more. Right now I don’t have enough income to withstand a job loss or appliance breaking etc, right now I have been single for over a decade and am really lonely. I don’t have mental space to worry about something which may not happen.

Goosefoot · 21/07/2020 04:37

Several reasons - I don't think the chances of it being a big problem are that high, compared to other normal things I do. And I also know that in my area, they are projecting that from two years out, 30% of the population will have had it. So I think that it will continue to spread in any case.

Sensible and sustainable precautions are the key ,IMO, as a society. We need to eat, we need to have a social life. And TBH I think that's true even for high risk people. I don't think shutting up the elderly for years waiting for vaccines is kind or sustainable. People can choose to become recluses but telling people they ought to is a lot of pressure.

Similarly with fear of spreading it - we spread germs all the time. Any of us may have at some time spread the flu, and that same flu eventually killed some elderly person. Germs are germs, they aren't someone's fault.

Like others have mentioned, I am pragmatic about death. We all die. 70 peopoe died in the care home near me from covid, which is a lot. But in a normal year, 50 die of flu. 99% of the people there expect to die soon, within a few years, and have DNR orders. I worry more about dying like my dh's grandmother, who slowly over several years became weaker and weaker as her heart stopped working and her bones turned to dust.

peonypower · 21/07/2020 06:46

Never had flu, never worried about catching it, don't care about this virus either. It's not especially unique, contagious or deadly unless you are very frail or very unlucky.

And if you're very unlucky, then you could also be hit by lightening, crushed by a falling chimney pot, get pancreatic cancer, be in a motorway pile up, trip on a kerb and bang your head badly, haemorrhage and die....this is why I have good life insurance. So the consequences of my future possible bad luck are mitigated for my children and I can live with those tiny risks.

commentatorz · 21/07/2020 08:40

I think "don't care" is the wrong phrase.

I'm not worried about catching it as I don't think it's worth worrying about... it isn't worth living in fear over something which in all likelihood won't be a death sentence or produce long term problems. There probably isn't much you can do to avoid catching it - but I will take sensible precautions without going completely over the top.

Mimishimi · 21/07/2020 10:23

I'm cautious (washing hands, wearing a cloth mask in crowded situations etc) but still going to the gym here in Australia when they reopened. There's probably more danger from me being overweight and catching it than trying to stay fit and catching it.

SomewhereEast · 21/07/2020 16:59

I'm not worried about Covid at all. I'm much much more worried about the impact of all this on my mental health. Its 'better' now things are more normal, but I've gone on anti-depressants and the thought of another fucking lockdown is unbearable. The constant anxiety of everything being weird & depressing all the time with no end on sight is draining the life out of me

Kitcat122 · 21/07/2020 18:38

I've had bad flu. I am not in the slightest worried about catching flu again. I have had Covid. I am definitely worried about catching Covid again!! I agree we need to get back to some kind of normal life for the economy, mental health, children's education, but for those of you who are so flippant be careful. A mild case is not necessarily what you imagine. I am in the category who shouldn't be affected.

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