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COVID can i hug my mum?

33 replies

Laurie01 · 15/07/2020 14:58

I am having trouble understanding the rules of bubbles. I am one of three siblings, my mum lives across country near one sibling and they are a bubble. She is coming to visit and stay with my other sibling (who lives near me) and I can imagine they will probably be hugging each other. So when I visit them, am I allowed to hug my mum, or should I be social distancing?

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user1493413286 · 15/07/2020 14:59

You should be socially distancing as you’re not in a bubble with your mum (that’s my understanding anyway)

DobbyTheHouseElk · 15/07/2020 15:02

You should be 2 m away.

But I hugged my mum after I realised I was the only one who hadn’t and I haven’t been out anywhere.

Frozenfrogs86 · 15/07/2020 15:06

You aren’t supposed to, but I think many people are hugging one or two close family from what I gather, in reality.

OpheliasCrayon · 15/07/2020 15:24

If you both want

oldwhyno · 15/07/2020 15:27

just get on and do what feels right for you in the privacy of your own home

Hairydogmummy · 18/07/2020 11:56

I'm struggling with this too. My mum has been hugging my sister and her kids and wanted to hug me. My sister and her kids however, got coronavirus. Luckily my mum and dad (who'd also been hugging them all) did not. But it was sheer luck cos it was only two days between them hugging and my nephew coming down with it. My mum and dad are bubbled with my Nan who is nearly 90 and has COPD. I don't feel it's really safe as I'm a teacher and have step children coming to the house too. You shouldn't i guess as your parents are in another bubble and have been hugging your other sibling too bit that doesn't feel fair does it? What did you decide?

Nicknacky · 18/07/2020 13:20

If you want to hug your mum, then hug your mum.

Brieminewine · 18/07/2020 13:41

If you’re both happy to do so then go for it! The police aren’t going to be knocking at the door for hugging someone out of your bubble!

TennisButterfly · 18/07/2020 13:53

It is against the rules, I wouldn't but then I haven't hugged my mum for years we just aren't like that.
At the end of the day, there are no social distancing police observing your house.
It is important to distance from strangers and wear a mask though.

StatisticalSense · 18/07/2020 14:14

You need to stay 2 meters away.
Those posters who are advocating for people ignoring these restrictions while at the same time are moaning about the government relaxing restrictions that are essential for the provision of a functioning economy are the biggest hypocrites in existence.

Jrobhatch29 · 18/07/2020 15:59

If you are going to be in a room with her what difference is a 5 second hug going to make

XiCi · 18/07/2020 17:34

Are you serious? FFS just hug your mum!!

Mumtumwobble · 18/07/2020 17:42

I think the official rule is no, but I would.

labyrinthloafer · 18/07/2020 17:46

@Jrobhatch29

If you are going to be in a room with her what difference is a 5 second hug going to make
If you choose to hug someone that is fine, but please don't base it on this sort of comment - social distancing works for scientific reasons and hugging someone who is shedding live virus is obviously higher risk than just being in the same room.

Risk is a sliding scale.

What does your mum think?

Jrobhatch29 · 18/07/2020 17:52

@labyrinthloafer
So they think its airbourne. So we can sit in a room 2m apart and breathe the same air for hours on end but cant hug for a few seconds? Yeah ok then...
Ive had to beat my mam off with a stick from hugging me and my kids actually but shes only 54 and we can assess our own risk thanks

labyrinthloafer · 18/07/2020 18:58

[quote Jrobhatch29]@labyrinthloafer
So they think its airbourne. So we can sit in a room 2m apart and breathe the same air for hours on end but cant hug for a few seconds? Yeah ok then...
Ive had to beat my mam off with a stick from hugging me and my kids actually but shes only 54 and we can assess our own risk thanks[/quote]
Yes, you can assess your own risk.

But it isn't advised to hug irrespective of being in the same room, as doing so increases risk of transmission in the first place and would affect viral load.

Remmy123 · 18/07/2020 20:40

Hug your mum life is too fucking short!!!

Polkadotties · 18/07/2020 20:47

I’ve hugged my mum and other family members. Life is too short.

DancingShadows · 18/07/2020 20:55

@Remmy123

Hug your mum life is too fucking short!!!
Even more so for people who keep dying of coronavirus because people just can't stick to the rules.

This is just going to go on longer and longer, and those of us who are trying hard to do the right thing will miss out for longer. Those who are dealing with the virus on the front line will have to keep on as they are for longer.

We could all just say, "life's too short" and do whatever we like but then the virus would spread even more than it is with those who can't help themselves doing as they please.

Many of the people just hugging their mum will also be letting their kids play with other kids in close contact, sitting too close in the pub with their mates. And the mums/ grandmas being hugged by one of their children and sets of grandkids will also be hugging other kids and grandkids, many of whom have been mixing with others and then really, what's the bloody point?

weegiemum · 18/07/2020 20:59

You're not supposed to. Last week dh and I visited my parents for a socially-distanced lunch. Was all great sitting in the conservatory and then at the lunch table, but when it came to leaving my dad gave me a huge hug, said he couldn't help it!

I'm very glad he did!

Literallynoidea · 18/07/2020 21:03

We all hugged my mum a month ago and none of us came to any harm

DownThePlath · 18/07/2020 21:05

Just hug her

DancingShadows · 18/07/2020 21:06

@Literallynoidea

We all hugged my mum a month ago and none of us came to any harm
That's not really evidence that everyone is ok to start hugging relatives who don't live with them. If we all start doing that whenever we want, then the virus spread will worsen.
DoubleTweenQueen · 18/07/2020 21:14

If you’ve all been socially distancing so have had minimal contact with others over the last few weeks, apart from the odd shop, and no-one in any of the ‘bubble’ households have any suggestion of symptoms, the risk will be very low.
Give your mum a warm loving hug, as lingering as you want & need. Both wear masks and sanitise your hands before & after. Wear freshly clean clothes. Risk will be very very small. It will do you both a lot of good.

labyrinthloafer · 18/07/2020 21:42

I feel like I must be wired differently - maybe wrongly - but I honestly couldn't bear to do this in case I passed it to my parents.

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