Sorry but this is a long one. Just something I need to get out and don't blame anyone for not reading it all 😅
Basically I'm getting to the point now where it's really bringing me down! 🤦🏼♀️
I get the seriousness of the situation don't get me wrong and I understand the devastation COVID has caused for families but I'm just at the point where I'm tired of hearing all the hysteria about second waves and how the government has dealt with it all wrong, easing lockdown is a mistake and we are all screwed etc.
At first I was terrified of the virus as I'm sure area lot of others. My DH has had to go to work throughout the entire time so we have never had a chance to shield at home. Me and my 2.5 year old DS never left the house other than for short walks (I'm also currently 31 weeks pregnant) but there was still always the risk DH could bring something home.
So I stopped watching news, deleted social media etc as I was doing all I could myself and didn't want to hear anything else about it as I was terrified.
Then at my 20 week scan I found out my DD had a medical condition and my world fell apart. She's due in August and not only do I have the worry of the medical treatment and surgery she will need when she's here, I also have the worry about COVID affecting the birth in not having DH there for the induction (current guidelines are active labour only for birthing partners) and then him having to leave straight after birth leaving me alone to deal with the new baby's treatment by myself.
My DS is 2.5 and I've never left him overnight before (just never needed to) and not left him during the day for more than a few hours either as I'm a SAHM and don't have much family support. My mum is the only one who has ever looked after him but she spends half her year in her holiday home in another country where she is currently stuck due to having her flight home cancelled in March. I was relying on her to have DS whilst I give birth but although she has a flight home booked in time for the birth, we don't know if that will go ahead. I'm wracked with anxiety over what will happen with DS if she doesn't get back as it's bad enough having to leave him for the first time in these circumstances let alone if I end up having to leave him with someone he's not that comfortable with (not that any of DH family has offered to have him if mum is not home anyway)
So basically what I'm trying to say is, I have a lot to worry about right now and hearing so much negativity is dragging me down to the point I feel like just sitting here crying right now over the uncertainty of it all.
My mum seems to be the worst, every time we speak she talks about what a mess our country is in (the one she is in have irradiated the virus at the moment, 0 cases for a while now and back to almost normal life) and she repeats things she's heard from friends or the media about everything going wrong, she constantly reminds me her flight could be cancelled (the country she is currently in not accepting flights from UK yet) and it's really not helpful to me.
She is also classed as high risk with the virus so I'm not keen on her coming home anyway in that respect and everyone keeps telling her that she's safer out there and she should stay but she tells them she's only coming back because I'm due to give birth otherwise she wouldn't (which puts so much guilt and pressure on me)
Despite no longer listening to the news or reading articles on it anymore because it wasn't helping me, I find that everyone I speak to can't wait to tell me how terrible is all is and how it will get worse again! There's just no escape ☹️
I am well aware there could be a second wave, and there could be another lockdown etc etc but I just don't see how getting hysterical about it right now will help anyone 🤷🏼♀️
The way I see it is I just have to trust in the experts and do as they say! I will stay in for as long as I have to stay in (which as many probably know is mind numbing with a toddler) and I will go out when I'm told it's safe to do so. I will stick to all the rules and always have (even down to having to go to all my babies heart scans and having to face all the bad news alone because no one can have DS except DH) but that is all I have the power to do! So don't see the point in speculating, stressing, and just being downright pessimistic about life right now!
Does anyone else find that there's an overwhelming urge from everyone they speak to to basically tell you the world is doomed? And does anyone have any positive news to share on the situation?!
If you actually read all the way to here then thank you! Just needed to rant 😅❤️