Do anyone else's kids seem to be mostly doing fine?

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I was reading on another thread that a lot of people's children are struggling mentally and that they've decided to let their kids mix with others and forget about social distancing, as they're not really coping with the isolation. Are anybody else's kids seemingly doing fine? I'm worried maybe I'm missing signs in mine that they are having a hard time in lockdown. Obviously they miss their friends and normal activities, but I wouldn't say they seem sad or worried or withdrawn as other posters mentioned. I expect it helps that 2 are close enough in age to play together, that the eldest has ASD, and that they're all happy to socialise online. But am I sticking my head in the sand and ignoring problems? We're following the guidelines strictly because I feel it's too soon to mix closely with other households.

Mine are fine! I think they are enjoying it being just the 4 of us!

My DD is 15.9 (Year 10).

She's been doing brilliantly, gets up every morning and cracks on with her school work until lunchtime, socialised online, goes for a walk and has a nap in the afternoon and we hang out for a bit in the evening. She managed to acquire a long distance, lockdown boyfriend (friend of a friend that used to live locally) and is keeping up with the community group work she does via Zoom meetings.

Mine loved it to be honest. They are only 5 and 2 though. The 5 year old is back at school now and is super excited to be back, though he was ambivalent about it before he went back. I guess I realised that they can be happy in different situations.

Mine are having a lovely time too! They are embracing home learning and enjoying having time at home- we're normally rushing around all the time.

We saw some friends for a socially distanced ice cream today and that was really lovely, they are missing their friends and just 'being' with other children without having to talk all the time. Overall, with just enough lightening of the rules so that they could see their grandparents and go to the park they would happily stay like this!

My two have been fine - no problems cracking on with school work, getting along reasonably well, no signs of mental distress. The only thing is that neither are keen on going out for a walk, but otherwise it’s been fine. They are 10 and 13

Mine are fine, DS is 9 and loves it, he's a homebody anyway and is having plenty of contact with his friends online so would be happy to go on for ages! DD is 7 and is a bit bored, we've got to the age that the DC have very different interests so they don't play together as much as they did, but she's fine, although keenest to get back to school! Yr 2 & Yr 4, so no hope until September 🙄

I think kids with similar-ish aged siblings that for the most part get along have a big advantage. And perhaps the kinda lifestyle you led previously.

If this had happened in 5 years time & my kids were 5 & 8, I’d have not found it too bad at all. I love family time. And we love walks. However, I have a 3 year old & 3 month old (who were 2 & newborn during most of lockdown). We are a really up & out type family. We pack our weekends full of things to do & my days off midweek are also full of activities. My 3 year olds had no child to play with for 11 weeks. And she doesn’t understand why as much as we try to explain. Her usual weekly trips to softplay, swimming, gym club, friends houses, grandparents all etc dramatically stopped. Initially she was fine but the drop in socialisation & variety of activity took its toll massively. She’s a different child now she’s back at nursery.

It’s so fab if you’d kids are enjoying the time at home! I’m sure so many will have done!

I've found my people! We are doing great, kids are happy to do the school work and we love being together. It's been very nice, really looking forward to the summer.

I was thinking exactly the same thing. Mine seem absolutely fine (age 7 and 3). They're enjoying being at home and the 7 year old says he much prefers homeschooling to going to school. I've also noticed they're bonding more since lockdown.

My daughter (14) is doing ok Mentally but was very worried about getting behind. She’s already Way behind In normal circumstances . She’s going back to school full time this week after a meeting at school so that’s great news. My son is ok too, although he desperately misses school and his friends.

Mine have been fine. Year 10 son is doing loads of work, coming on a walk every day, socialising via online gaming as usual.

Year 9 son is particularly loving it as he didn't enjoy going out anyway, the schoolwork has been a little less organised but in subjects he's not going to do at GCSE does that even matter very much?

We've done lots of family stuff that with older children it's easy not to bother with in usual busy life - almost like going back a few years to when they were younger.
I am aware that we are lucky and that it hasn't been like this for everyone.

DD is perfectly fine. Sure, she missed her friends, and she's disappointed she didn't get to have a birthday party, but day to day she is a very happy, content girl.
We do lots more as a family, she face times with a few friends and relatives regularly, and she is allowed a bit more screen time than usual. Also her teachers have been fab and she is in regular contact with them through messages and phone calls.
So all in all, she hasn't really been negatively impacted by lockdown, and she is her usual happy, chatty, continuously singing self.

Thank you all so much for replying. It is a relief to hear other families are doing OK as well. Obviously I'm sorry for anyone whose children are having problems and I can completely understand why. I have been checking in with my kids as well and asking them if they are feeling sad or worried. They say they're not, but I know sometimes kids can mask difficult stuff that's happening under the surface. I'm hoping it just hasn't affected them too much but reading threads which talk about all the psychological difficulties made me doubt myself.

My DS1 (4) was angry all the time back when we were in the strict lockdown and could only exercise locally and not sit down outside. He just couldn't 'run free' or get tired enough.
Once we could have picnics and drive to the (local) beach and the (local) South Downs he was mostly fine again.
Since we've been allowed in gardens too he's been really happy as he missed my parents most of all, plus they have built him a climbing frame and swing (we live in a flat with only communal gardens)

DS2 is a baby and has had daddy and big brother as well as mummy at home so he's super happy.

I need to make him sound a bit less American before reception starts though! He now calls football soccer and wants to play tag instead of 'it' (he's watched a lot of youtube kids)

My ds (13) is doing great. He’s loving it.

My 2 DS age 10 and 7 are enjoying it too. Yes they do miss friends etc but generally happy to b home all the time and spend time together.
I have been chatting numerous friends that had been working, balancing family life and were exhausted before this. Now as they have been home, no work and spending time with family they are realising the rat race they were in and never want to go back to the way they were.
Heres to ending the Rat race, employers offer part time hours to current employees and employ others to cover this hours, helps to reduce unemployment too. Think I should start a campaign😉

My DS (10) is also thriving in lockdown.
He's progressing more with his learning than he was at school and is socialising by whatsapping his friends and online gaming.
We go for a walk every day and have caught up with grandparents a few times in the back garden.
He misses swimming and the prospect of a holiday, but mainly he tells me he's had a lovely time and he really enjoys being at home.
I feel so sad for young people who are struggling - but it is lovely to read about those who are doing well

Mine are doing really well and enjoying the time together.

Mine are fine, too.

Yeah, mine are fine too.

I have one that was fine, and one that really wasn't. Very different ages and personalities. They're both back in school on reduced hours now though.

Mine have been fine. They seem to be enjoying a more relaxed schedule

I do think it helps that there are two of them to play with each other. They are also old enough to do a bit of online socialising and we have a garden and plenty of space in the house so they are lucky.

As with adults, individual circumstances will make a difference. Also, while some children will of course have found it difficult, on the whole children are very adaptable and probably more likely to cope well than adults.

My Y10 daughter is doing fine too. She has full day online learning, goes in to school one day a week. She's actually got too much work - class from 8.50-3, club for one hour, then straight on to homework until dinner, then back to it. She met up with her friends last week but otherwise via WhatsApp and is fine with that.
My 16 year old son, who I thought would go mad as he is usually at the gym every day, college three days and work two days a week... but he's been good too. Now seeing his friends again but has coped pretty well and has been working out a lot and looking really fit. Just hope he can get a job for the summer!

My eldest and youngest are fine. My middle one is struggling because he misses his friends but that’s about it, he has his siblings to play with. I keep hearing about the huge mental health issues children will have from this, and I can’t relate because my kids are having a ball at home, but I understand that some children will be struggling because of different circumstances. We are the lucky ones I guess.

Thank you all. I am really cheered to hear these positive stories. I don't want to negate the experiences of people who are struggling, but it's good to know lockdown hasn't been a disaster for all families. And that hopefully I'm not deluding myself thinking mine are doing all right!