@Bartlet
Usual naysayers on the thread who are so Covid obsessed that they are utterly closed minded about giving kids a proper education until risk is zero which is unrealistic and writing off the life prospects of hundreds of thousands of youngsters.
I don’t blame individual teachers (although some on Mumsnet appear to be massively obstructive). I blame unions, councils and government (both north and south of the border). They have consistently prioritised opening things for adults rather than education for children.
I blame both the unions and some heads who've collapsed into a pit of "can't do it" and refused to even try to solve any issues. (Before I start I'll say I'll be hiding this thread afterwards as the "must lock down forever doom mongers" are getting on my tits right now - we locked down initially to buy time and prepare, somewhere along the line it turned into people shrieking we must be locked down forever until the virus goes away - the virus won't go away, it will likely mutate to become less virulent because a virus with a high kill rate is a pretty crappy virus and will kill itself out of existence).
My kids are at two different schools - one is run by a head who has been in education her entire career (we've discussed this a few times for various things) and the other is a head who moved into education from private industry. Guess which one has been putting obstacle after obstacle in place to opening? Guess which one has been sat there planning and replying with "yes this latest guidance seems really tough to implement - let me see what we can do with it." The contrast has been incredibly marked - one school have sent out communications that can only be described as politicised rants and the other have been asking opinions and trying to spin plates to keep people as supported and as many kids engaged as possible. It's not an issue of me liking one head more than the other - the first head is normally someone I've got a lot of respect for and the second head can come across appallingly until you get to know them - but the contrast in attitudes has been like day and night.
My youngest child has some SN, and speech issues - she'd made massive leaps forward in speech therapy this year and was doing incredibly well - just needed to work on a few final niggles with some sounds she wasn't fully consistent with. Happiest, most outgoing child you'd ever meet, incredibly resilient and just one of those kids who stick at things despite finding it harder because of her difficulties.
She had become completely tearful, terrified to leave the house for anything floating or flying in the air, unable to sleep because "there was too much sad" in her brain from missing her friends, and in absolute floods of tears constantly. The regression in her speech was terrifying - she was struggling to find words; sounds which she had been able to say consistently for months and months were slipping away and she was beginning to stammer. She began to have headaches so severe, with associated losses of vision - that the GP physically had her into the surgery to check things out and believed it was anxiety and mental health related.
I fought school to get her classified as a vulnerable child (and the negative connotations of having to label her as such really did bother me) not coping with the social isolation and it took weeks of me being stonewalled by the head, contacting every support organisation I could to try to get some mental health support for this child, and then eventually the class teacher actually calling us and hearing the deterioration in her speech fluency - for us to get her back into school in the keyworker/vulnerable bubble - and I have taken some shit from KW parents for us taking up a place there!
We're not fully back to where we were - her mental health is still wobbly, and her anxiety is still higher than I'd like - but we had done everything "right" - we'd followed all advice, guidance, chased up any organisation that might have been able to offer us some support in managing this at home - but what she needed was the social interaction with her peers that being at school provided. I should NOT have had to fight that hard to get her back in - and there are other kids suffering as much who haven't got parents with the confidence to do this who are just deteriorating in silence. The other child's school head picked up that we were not in a great situation and offered to take the sibling back as well so that we didn't end up with one in school and one out - again, she's absolutely buzzing with life now she's back in some form of "school". Neither are in school as education - it's very much child containment and the odd bit of busy work - differentiating for nursery through to year 2 in the same room was never going to happen - but just the interaction is so beneficial to them.
Even listening to my eldest on skype to some of her friends the other week - one of her friends is struggling to structure and articulate her thoughts in a similar manner now - and pretty much everyone I know is struggling to get kids to engage, to be interested in anything, to get out of bed - the impact on this generation is shameful. When I was trying to find any ways or avenues of support for my struggling youngest - time and time again I was getting into dialogue with organisations saying they were seeing exactly the same sets of symptoms again and again and again from these kids.
I'm an ex-teacher (currently retraining to change career as teaching wasn't good for my own mental health). I have offered to go in to either of my children's schools unpaid and fully DBS checked and qualified if they are struggling with staffing and need to maintain ratios to open to as many kids as possible. I'll stand in the kitchen washing pots and pans if required or do whatever to chip in - I'm not fussy but I can see our kids falling apart and I worry about those who haven't got parents who've felt able to flag things up to the schools when they're struggling - or had schools who were willing to listen.
I'm furious with the unions and I now resent every single penny I've paid to them over the years. They had a bloody golden opportunity - every parent in the land appreciating really just how tough that doing the educating thing was for a sustained period of time - they would have had more goodwill than they have had for decades toward teachers - and with rhetoric like proposing spraying our kids down with disinfectant before entering the school - they've blown it and made it look like they don't ever want to get back to work. The teachers I know - are equally as pissed off and ashamed of the way the more vocal ones have been going on.
Oh in case anyone thinks my child was just suffering adolescent angst - she turned 7 in the beginning of lockdown. Short of putting a 7 year old on antidepressants - we had done absolutely everything we could have done in terms of chivvying along, keeping busy, walks out in the nature reserve etc etc.