Feeling lonely, how much longer!?

[Hugglespuffed]

Please give me a glimmer of hope. I dont have a partner or children and I live alone. I miss my family a lot. I am really down. I am working but my hours have dropped a fair bit. I just need a realistic glimmer of hope. When will I be able to see my family overnight? What is the latest on a vaccine (yes i know no guarantee) im just so low and all I see is bad news on the news!

I would be happy to talk as I am in the same situation

If hotels might be able on July 4th then maybe then? I think Boris has not been thinking about single people, or partners that don’t live together. I hope it’s soon.

Thanks both. I am holding out for July. It just feels never ending. If we had a date to aim towards (subject to change of course) then id feel better. But there has literally been no talk.

Is there anyone local you can meet in a park? Met a couple of friends this week with the nippers for a play and a chat, physically distanced, and it helped, just talking to a different adult for an hour or so. If not Zoom/video calls are better than nothing, glass of wine, Friday evening, not quite the same but it sweeps away the cobwebs a bit.

There is nothing to stop you meeting your family outside and at 2 meters apart. So why not do it?

Thanks @frozendaisy I have actually met a couple of friends over the last week and it has helped SO much. But I think im just finding the whole situation difficult. I know things can't go back to normal but it is difficult.

@HMSSophie I wish. They are in wales, me in England. So different rules. :(

@CASCASCAS I'm sorry to hear you are feeling the same. I am happy to talk if you need it.

Being alone during this is horrible and meeting friends at a distance in a park is not a good solution! It’s awful! I think the government need to consider people who live alone - they’ve been completely forgotten about. Easy for everyone who lives with another human to say “we’ll just do a zoom call or meet a friend in a park.”

Bless you, Huggles. It will soon be over and you'll be able to see your family and friends again - maybe even in the next couple of weeks! Just hang on to that thought.

I'm in a very similar situation. I moved to Scotland away from family in England at the start of the year. I've not been here long enough to really know anyone well enough to meet in a park and just want to know when I will be able to go back to my family.

@Hugglespuffed

I would love to but how?

"It will soon be over and you'll be able to see your family and friends again - maybe even in the next couple of weeks!"
What makes you think this? What do you mean by 'soon'? If we can't meet up without social distancing yet, why do think we'll be able to see family and friends overnight soon?

I feel the same. I'm in the uk and my family are in Ireland. Theres very little chance that I'll get to see them this year. My job is gone and I only know my oh and one other person where I live. Oh goes back to work next week and honestly I don't know what I'll do all day.
This year has just been a disaster. Hugs all round to everyone who's struggling ♥️♥️

It's horendous, isnt it? No date, no indicidation of when we might be allowed to interact normally wth loved ones, or even see people inside when it's raining for days.

I've written to my MP about this.

HarrietOh I think the government need to consider people who live alone - they’ve been completely forgotten about. Easy for everyone who lives with another human to say “we’ll just do a zoom call or meet a friend in a park.”

This. 20% of UK adults are in lockdown alone, and we have truly been forgotton about. I feel really let down by the political left who are normally good on human rights abuses and so on - not a peep from them. In fact people telling me I'm selfish because I must want people to die, and on here I posted about it and was picked apart and told I was weirdly obsessed with hugs. Well, so would they be if they were expected to go without for months on end! I don't think people who live with others should have a say in this.

There could easily be an exception for people who live alone to join another household or something. Instead there's talk of pubs re-opening which is so depressing - others can go and have a semblance of normality but we can only join them from 2m away...

Thanks all and especially thanks to those who have written to their MP about this..it is definitely tough. I've so much to feel grateful for (a job, good health, healthy family) so I feel guilty for feeling so low. But it is real life. We can't live like this indefinitely, at what point do they decide to change it?

@CASCASCAS I have sent you a private message if you want to chat.

In a very similar situation OP, I've been somewhat prone to depression in the past but I don't think I've ever felt as low as I do now. As you said if they had even given a sort of ballpark figure for when we MIGHT be able to visit/stay with family/partners/friends (understanding it would be subject to change) it would be different... the total lack of anything is horrific. Not even any acknowledgement of how hard it is. If they do go ahead with reopening hotels at the start of July (and some companies are wanting to try to start flights up again too) they will surely HAVE TO then tackle the question of when you can go into people's houses?! Work and shopping are essential but staying at a hotel or catching a flight (outside of domestic abuse or other emergency situations etc) and going to zoos are surely totally optional, so how can they say that's fine but real human contact for those who live alone isn't

I think that if I lived alone and had extended family members or a partner also in England , as long as neither party felt there was a huge risk, either to ourselves or to the other, then I would have broken lockdown rules by now.

Actually I think that the bit in the original essential reasons for travel about providing care to vulnerable should include care of people's mental health so it is something you could arguably say was allowed and not breaking of rules

You wouldn't treat a dog the way people who live alone have been treated. I really hope that there is some useful change for you.

I'd just go and see them, just use your own common sense. You can socially distance indoors.

As the pp said, just go and see them and do your best to minimise any risk. Of course if they are vulnerable or shielding you should not go, but anything the government decides won't change the fact that they are at risk anyway.

Hugglespuffed I'm in the same boat and have every sympathy. Family far away, mum in Wales where the different rules apply. Your sentence "It feels never ending" really chimed with me - I said the same thing yesterday.

Living alone, my work and my social life, friends and boyfriend are lifelines. None of them are there in any real sense. It's shit.

Hoping so much it ends soon . Hang in there.

It has got to the stage where I think the government have backed themselves so far into a corner they have no idea how to get out (which they know they must do) while saving maximum face. That's the danger of a government and leader which operate along populist lines.

Similar position here, its not great.

Maybe we set up a group to chat?

www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-52998806

"People living alone in England will be able to stay at one other household as part of a further easing of coronavirus restrictions."