Lockdown is so much harder knowing more are breaking the rules now

[hermionegrange]

I had a baby the day before lockdown started. I am so desperate to visit my mum and let her hold him and have a cup of tea with her. She's 65, for and healthy, and hasn't been out. My dad does a food shop once a week but other than that they're in their house and garden. The risk of them or is having it so low. We also only go out once a week for shopping and daily exercise where we don't pass anyone.

It's so much harder knowing other people are doing what they want

My husband won't break any rules so we are sticking to lockdown as we are meant to

Do you need support in being assertive with your husband?

It should be possible to go see your mum with your baby while he takes your toddler elsewhere.

I think this thread has got side tracked through your use of the word ‘allow’ which is concerning but enough has been said on that.

I am in exactly the same position I have a 12 week old who has been held by one set of (young) grandparents once the week he was born and then we entered lockdown so hasn’t met any one else. Yes he’s seen people through a window and more recently in gardens/ the park at a 2m distance but this is not the same as being held or cuddled by his wider family and friends. This makes me desperately sad and I totally know where you are coming from. Yes it won’t realistically do him any harm developmentally and it’s us adults that find it so strange in comparison with what having a new baby is usually like but that doesn’t make it any less sad. Before people bleat that we have our health and dying of covid is so much more sad blah blah blah yes I know that but that doesn’t take away from being a new mum with no support in these times is shit and so not how we expected it, you have every reason to feel sad! In the past few days I have seen increasing numbers of people on social media blatantly breaking the rules- some must have a very different tape measure to me as are about 2cm a part rather than 2m! I’ve seen people sharing hot tubs, posing for photos shoulder to shoulder at a baby shower, in peoples homes and yesterday a picture of my 2 year old nephew who should be shielding sat less than a foot away from his great grandad! It makes me so so so frustrated and feel like am I the mug!? Do we just break rules and allow people to meet the baby properly before he is able to bloody introduce himself! But then I know I would be absolutely devastated if someone close to me got ill and there was a possibility it was our fault- dh still going out to work and ds (4) returns to school tomorrow. So OP you are not alone in feeling this way and it is shit!

Go to a park together and don't tell DH if toddler runs up for a hug, toddlers are tiny they are already socially distanced.

You poor thing, hope you're Ok, when do you think you're dh will allow it

So in a nutshell you think 'lockdown is so much harder knowing more are breaking the rules now' but you are married to someone who is using the rules against you to stop you seeing your own mother? When no such rule now exists.