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If you are a SAHM will you send your DCs back on 1 June?

51 replies

Brunelofbrio · 20/05/2020 21:04

Just that really, DC1 is in the year group that is supposed to be returning to school in June.

I am currently a SAHM as I was job hunting just before the lock down and that is all on hold. I am also a qualified primary school teacher...

I have been given 24 hours to decide if I will be sending DC1 into school. In lots of ways we are ok to carry on at home. I am here with a younger DC in any case and we have been home schooling fairly successfully.

DC1 can be anxious and has struggled with social distancing etc. I am concerned that they will find all the new set up hard to manage. I am not really worried about the risk to us of catching it - but am aware the teachers are being put in a difficult position.

BUT... DC1 struggles socially and was just making progress before the lockdown. They are desperate to be back with their friends and I dont want them to be pushed out by not being there.

WWYD?

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saylor · 20/05/2020 21:26

Yes. DC1 will be going back to preschool. I'll still have DC2 at home with me.

Drivingdownthe101 · 20/05/2020 21:30

I don’t know, I haven’t decided yet. Mine are reception and year 1. We could carry on fine, but they are really missing interacting with other kids. I also think it might be better to ease them back in gently before the summer, rather than when they all arrive en masse in September.
But I don’t need them to go in, and I don’t want to make things more difficult for the teachers. If lower numbers will help them, I’m happy to keep them home. The problem is their teachers are lovely and very professional so are just saying ‘of course we want to see them back’.
It’s tricky.

troppibambini · 20/05/2020 21:41

I have rec child, y1, Y4 and Y10 and I'm a sahm.
I won't be sending the rec and Y1 dc back, I confirmed with school yesterday.
The rec dc doesn't want to go and is far happier at home.
The Y1 child said he did want to go back because he missed his friends. When I told him his two best friends weren't going back and we would arrange to meet them occasionally at the park he was happy to stay at home.
I'm sure I will get flamed for that.
All my kids are craving their old normal school life and that's not what's on offer at the moment. School outlined what a day would be like and to me it didn't sound like fun and I thought it would be quite upsetting for them.
Our school have been amazing at setting work they have loads set on google classroom and will continue to do so. The children who are in school will be taught the same stuff they are setting on google classroom, I have the time to sit and do it with them and both the rec child and the Y1 child have massively come on since lock down started.

If she gets the chance my Y10 will go in. She's very academic and conscientious and has been working really hard but needs to see her teachers.

HairyFloppins · 20/05/2020 21:44

Mine is year 8 so I don't she counts. But yes I would.

Cecilia2016 · 20/05/2020 21:50

I’m not sending my year1 but sending year 6

CarlottaValdez · 20/05/2020 21:52

I’m not a SAHM but DH is a SAHP and we are sending DS if it opens.

CloudsCanLookLikeSheep · 20/05/2020 21:52

Not a SAHM but partner is SAHD. Our Y1 child will be returning as soon as they let her, although if she really hates it and cant get used to it after a good try, we may pull her out.

BatShitCrazyy · 20/05/2020 21:53

I'm not a Sahm and I am sending year 1 back but even if I was I would send them back

MayFayre · 20/05/2020 21:54

Mine are the wrong year groups but I definitely would if I could. They need to be with other children.

InDubiousBattle · 20/05/2020 21:57

We haven't had a plan from school yet so a final decision will depend on that but provisionally, yes they will go back.

Minster2012 · 20/05/2020 22:08

Yep. SAHM & part time worker. Shielding & DA in nursery. Providing his potty training is ok, which it should be, he will be.

Despite me shielding, DH has worked the whole time & it’s been ok, but I’ve been going mad. Toddler needs his mates, I need help with discipline in nice positive ways & I need a break, as does the house. Going from being out at groups every day to 0 has been pretty hard! I think he’s as safe there as he is anywhere & DH & him can follow the sand decontamination routine as DH does currently.

PissOffStayAtHomeDogMum · 20/05/2020 22:09

Yes, I will.

ChesterDraw · 20/05/2020 22:18

I've been really torn about what to do for the best. But we think we've now decided that our pre-school and reception age children will stay with me a bit longer. My part time business has had to close anyway, so much as I'd love to try to get back to some sort of normality, there doesn't seem to be a pressing need childcare-wise. Plus the arrangements for distancing the kids sounds pretty grim, no playtime, no toys, potentially no friends in their 'bubble' and I don't think they'd enjoy the experience at all.

My husband is very anxious about COVID and has been following it closely and predicting this situation since Jan/Feb, he's convinced we'll all be facing a horrible second wave soon so on the off chance he's right, I don't want to take the risk just yet. He has a few respiratory conditions which make him more vulnerable, and the numbers are still rising where we are, our peak was not at the same time as London's. Basically if the kids go back, he'd likely need to isolate, which seems daft for the sake of them doing a few weird socially-distanced hours a week.

I do feel bad not sending them in, I really want to make sure they are getting their education and socialisation. At the same time I need to respect my husband's concerns and obviously want to prevent him catching it (as much as we possibly can). I don't know what to do for the best quite honestly, but have agreed to watch and wait for a few more weeks to see what's happening with local cases, then look again at our options.

Spacemonkey2016 · 20/05/2020 22:33

I'm on maternity and will be sending DS back to nursery for his 2 days a week when they open on 1st June. He's been off since 5th March (took him out early), has been fine until the last week or so, but is now feeling emotional and his behaviour has taken a real nosedive. He's clearly struggling being at home now. He's asked to go back to nursery, so that's what we're doing. I've ummed and ahhed about it, but think the change of scenery and socialising will be worth the small (I hope) risk of him catching this virus. If nursery has changed too much and it turns out to be stressful and no fun, I'll keep him off again.

CostaCosta · 20/05/2020 22:35

No, i'm keeping my ds rec age off. I can't picture what it will be like for him. I'm a qualified teacher so feel confident with the academic side. I'm not sure what social development they'll be getting ag school.

namechangetheworld · 20/05/2020 22:40

I'm a SAHM and keeping DD4 at home for now. We're getting on fine at home with schooling.

RigaBalsam · 20/05/2020 22:45

A doctor on LBC just said in some parts if the country he would in others no as R is too high.

It's too high here so no I wouldn't.

WillowB · 20/05/2020 22:55

SAHM but also a primary teacher.
I won't be sending my DS back to nursery. Not particularly worried about Covid but more concerned that all of the measures that have been put in place - no soft furnishings, sand, lego, play dough etc will mean he goes back to a very sterile strange environment. He also gets upset at drop off & under the new rules won't be able to have a hug from his key worker.
I've heard friends say 'oh DC can't wait to get back to their friends' etc & wonder if they realise that they will be sitting at desks 2m apart, probably have a different teacher, eating lunch in their classrooms - I think it will be really unsettling.

teablanket · 20/05/2020 23:01

Y6 son won't be going back. He's happy at home, and having to adjust to a very different primary experience just before having to adjust to moving to secondary school just doesn't seem wise.

Passtherioja · 20/05/2020 23:04

Accept the place then decide nearer the time. School shouldn't give you 24hours but if that's what they've done just agree and sort it later. They cannot fine you for non-attendance. If you're still unsure when they reopen, call in sick and see how it goes.

Drivingdownthe101 · 21/05/2020 06:31

I've heard friends say 'oh DC can't wait to get back to their friends' etc & wonder if they realise that they will be sitting at desks 2m apart, probably have a different teacher, eating lunch in their classrooms - I think it will be really unsettling

Yes, I’ve explained all of that to mine (6 and 4). I imagine most have... they’re not just going to let them go back thinking it will be exactly the same as normal.

MrsWhites · 21/05/2020 08:02

I’m a SAHM and I won’t be sending my y1 child back in, our school are doing their best to encourage us to send them back but I think my son would find the social distancing measures the school are proposing very unsettling.

I was worried about him being pushed out of friendship groups but as the children will be divided into groups of 10 max then friendships are likely to change anyway and then again, once the children are allowed to be all back together.

I would be very interested to see a plan for September, the only way to fit everyone back in our school is with the standard 30 to a class.

OhArsebags · 21/05/2020 08:03

Year one child and no.

Mol1628 · 21/05/2020 09:51

I’m a SAHM and I’ll be sending my reception child in once I’ve got final details on what the classroom is like and how the teachers plan to interact with the children.
I don’t mind having him at home I’ve enjoyed having him and his brother here but he needs to go back to school to socialise with other children and adults.

trilbydoll · 21/05/2020 09:56

Not a SAHM but we're keeping dd2 at home. She struggled socially at school and although my initial reaction was going back in a smaller group would be better for her and actually an opportunity to make some friends, she has been a different child at home without the 'noone will play with me' stress. We are going to keep her home in the hope that she grows up a bit with every passing month and when she does have to go back hopefully everyone will have forgotten their previous friendship groups and it will be a fresh start.

A lot of her class aren't going back which made the decision easier, if I thought she was the only one I would have wrestled with it a lot more.

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