Next door neighbour having BF over

[Jen4813]

I no alot of people will say mind your own business but I am finding this hard to ignore. My next door neighbour lives only with her 2 kids. Her BF (not the kids dad) has been coming round about 3 x a week since lockdown. He stays for hours or all day even then leaves. They don’t have a garden to be ‘social distancing’ in. I just think this is taking the piss now that she keeps having him round, not to mention putting the kids at risk. Should I report her?

How do you know they’re putting anyone at risk? If he’s living alone and isolating, why would there be any additional risk?
If you’ve managed to ignore it for the past 8 weeks, what has changed now?

If he is isolating and she is isolating what is the problem. Isn’t it better than letting him move in before lockdown. She is obviously putting her children first. None of us know what people bend the rules but as long as they are not risking others then let’s be kind.

Mind your own business.

FFS just leave her alone and get on with your life!

Is she your enemy, has she offended you before or something.

Don't be a nazi - leave her alone!

He is not isolating and still working

Not that I approve of breaking lockdown, but personally I wouldn't report in that situation. If the boyfriend is not working outside the home and his girlfriend is his only human contact then actually he may not really be posing any additional risk at all. Also, you don't know your neighbour's situation. For all you know, she might be on the verge of a nervous breakdown and the visits from the boyfriend are what enables her to hold it together.

So why after 8 weeks is it suddenly too much for you?

Oh bore off.

'report them'
Do you think the police are going to speed round, sirens blazing?

They're busy with you know, real crimes.

Do you know the BF?

When do you think would be an acceptable time for her to see her bf? I’m genuinely interested. When there’s a vaccine? When the virus is completely eradicated? When BoJo (who let’s not forget, went around shaking the hands of covid patients) decides it’s ok? Or that guy who advised on all the rules and then it turned out was shagging his married lover?

I think your neighbour probably has the right idea and is just using her common sense and risk assessment skills.

Maybe he has a caring role in her life to some degree.

Leave them alone, let them manage their own risk.

What actual harm is this doing to you?

I cannot fathom wtf it has to do with you

The risk to the ‘kids’ is very low. Find something more important to occupy your mind.

So if he does have covid then he'll spread it to her and the dc, in exactly the same way he would if he'd moved in, or if he was a nrc and the dc stayed with him a few nights a week. Hardly a massive risk or a threat to the nhs. Just go and bleach shit to balance it out.

Maybe its got fuck all to do with you?

And what will the greater society of the United Kingdom benefit from this action??? You guessed it, NOTHING!!!

If he were living there and working it would be the same risk 🤷🏻‍♀️. If he was doing the essential shop one day and her 4 days later, same risk 🤷🏻‍♀️

Why do you want to report her?

It says it all really. Considering calling the police to report the fact you think your neighbour might be having sex with a non cohabitating partner.

Find another hobby

Why are you so exercised about this now, 2 months in to lockdown?

I know that BF lives in a house share with others because she told me last year (situation could have changed) but either way I think its clear from all the replies I shouldn’t bother reporting it, thanks everyone can always rely on MN for some
honest advice

Just let them get on with it.

*Know.
*A (space) lot.
Even if you tried to report it, nothing will be enforced. Tune it out. Yes, they're taking the piss. No, there's nothing you can do about it.