Next door neighbour having BF over

[Jen4813]

I no alot of people will say mind your own business but I am finding this hard to ignore. My next door neighbour lives only with her 2 kids. Her BF (not the kids dad) has been coming round about 3 x a week since lockdown. He stays for hours or all day even then leaves. They don’t have a garden to be ‘social distancing’ in. I just think this is taking the piss now that she keeps having him round, not to mention putting the kids at risk. Should I report her?

Most people would have told you to report it six weeks ago. Now they’re all bending the rules.

Does it impact on your life? No? Then mind your own business.

Now they’re all bending the rules

Wrong on two counts. 6 weeks ago I’d have said to mind her own business, and I’m not bending the rules. What I’m doing is irrelevant to this situation.
What would the motives be for the OP reporting them? It wouldn’t be for the DC’s safety, as if that was the case she wouldn’t have waited 8 weeks to report. The risk is likely to be far lower now than it was at the beginning of lockdown and community transmission is currently very low.
So it would just be because she’s annoyed.

I hate all this neighbour reporting bollocks. It smacks of North Korea

To be honest I am annoyed because I have been sticking to the lockdown rules but my neighbour isn’t, it’s as simple as that. I would love to be having my 30yr old DD come over to visit 3 x a week. Like I said I am not going to report it because I understand from the comments the risks are low and it would just be out of spite.

Are you not seeing your daughter at all? Maybe you could go for a socially distanced walk together?

Just have your daughter over !

Who cares - this lockdown is a totally illogical mess

So make your own best judgement as to the risk of seeing your daughter and live accordingly. If the state told you to jump off a bridge would you do it?

If i rang the police every time someone within view of my front window broke the rules I'd never be off the phone! The Police aren't bothered about one person going into another person's house. Our local force claimed to have paid a visit to a cert large gathering of motorcyclists on a cafe forecourt and claimed there was nothing they could do because it wasn't an organised 'meet'. Well clearly someone arranged it as this cafe was previously very quiet and has just been taken over by someone who previously ran a bikers cafe! So your 1 man entering someone's house - no chance!

Stop curtain twitching and wind your neck in!

Who are you going to report it to? They're not breaking any laws only guidance so the police have no jurisdiction.

Lockdown isn’t bringing out the best in you OP!

@Jen4813, if you want to see your DD, see her. It will be good for you and your mental well-being. Do a bit of a risk assessment first - do you both feel well and have you both been sensible about social distancing to date?

Give your gaff a dettol spray, including the outside gate and door handles, sit in the garden, and have a visit. Leave dettol spray handy in the loo next to the hand wash.

A hospital nurse told me today on the phone that is is ABSOLUTELY FINE for a friend to drive me to a blood test tomorrow.

We all need to look after ourselves and each other.

Did you speak to her about it? Anyway who will you report her too the police won't do anything as there are no laws being broken

Who has time to fixate on such nonsense?

OP, I have a similar situation with my neighbour...lives alone with 2 children, but boyfriend keeps appearing every couple of days to stay the night. The difference is, she is a nurse, so potentially bringing home covid, then passing it to him. He also works, so could pass covid back or forth. Her daughter brought a friend to live with them a week and a half ago, so theres another family involved now. To top it off, she went to his for the weekend, leaving her daughter and friend, both 14, and an 8 yr old alone....who invited more teenagers around....

Sorry, to add to the above, I havent called the police, but am keeping my distance.

My partner is doing this. He lives alone, I live with my teenager. He's not working for now, I'm wfh. About 2 weeks into lockdown he started spending a week or weekends with us then spending time at home to work on his house. None of us have shown symptoms.

report it without her tracing it back to you !

Yanbu for it to annoy you but report it what benefit is it if you do ?
The mixing households has already happened now .
You can see your dd if you choose but you choose not to because it's safer .
Let them crack on and don't worry , selfish yes but honestly let it go .

I'm so happy that the prevailing opinion has been that people can be trusted to assess their own risk and that overall risks are very low. A few weeks/ months ago, a poster would be crucified for asking if she could visit her boyfriend 3x a week with cries of "FFS", "Stay the fuck at home" and "what part of 'stay at home' don't you understand?"

Live and let live

I know someone across the road from me who has had three friends with benefits over

No skin off my nose

I know someone across the road from me who has had three friends with benefits over

At the same time???! 😂

Not entirely certain actually....she is adventurous so it’s quite possible

Although it is breaking the rules, I imagine it’s incredibly lonely being a single parent and also although the children are not biologically his, I’m sure he misses them very much and they may be struggling without seeing their “father figure”. X