@Pootle40
I'm sorry for your losses - that must have been very hard.
I still disagree with your overall point. We cannot rank deaths. All loss is sad, and some deaths are imbued with even greater sadness and loss.
But you can't define what 'tragic' is. You can't say - you're 88, you've had a great old life, you should be happy now to die. No.
Of course there are situations where we in part welcome someone's death, due to their illness. I've had that situation, and have been fortunate that that person had a genuinely peaceful death, in her own bed, surrounded by her family.
I've also, not that long ago, lost my dad, who was only in his 70s, and had a difficult and unusual illness. He did not die peacefully, and I still struggle with the pain and suffering he experienced in the weeks before he died. I was still lucky, as were all my family, to be with him when he died.
So I have experienced different aspects of this.
What my point is, is that we cannot, in a compassionate society, rank deaths. That's utterly repugnant to me. The man I refer to had a life ahead of him to live - and thank goodness he will live it. His death absolutely would have been tragic. The trauma for his wife of 60 years losing her husband who had been healthy till then, and having no way to say goodbye, would have been desperate.
I really really hate the narrative that builds up around this, that older people should be grateful for the years that they've lived, and cannot really complain about dying.