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If you have broken Lockdown rules then what is your reason?

181 replies

beesthatbuzz · 07/05/2020 18:28

I doubt I'll get a lot of responses as no one will admit but I'm getting a bit fed up of people around me clearly disregarding the rules. Having friends and family around mainly, not just dropping off shopping but going into the house, several barbeques, two families (sisters and OHs) with all their kids in their front garden in a paddling pool this afternoon). And it's not just one person, it's loads of people. Call me a curtain twitcher all you want but I'm genuinely interested in people's reasons and I'm too chicken to ask them in real life.

I am desperate to see my Mum who lives 150 miles away, My lovely Dad died 3 weeks before lockdown so she's grieving and depressed but we are sticking to the rules, even though it pains me to see her in tears on our daily messenger chats.

Many other people seem to be doing whatever the hell they want and I'm wondering if we are actually the stupid ones for sticking to it.

OP posts:
IHaveBrilloHair · 07/05/2020 20:30

My daughter needed me so I let her come over, Ill be going to see her an hour away at some point.
Im shielding but her mental health is important too.

ivykaty44 · 07/05/2020 20:32

Today I went out for the first time to visit a friend in her back garden. We still sat far away, she had Covid19 6 weeks ago but is still being extremely careful. I haven’t been into a supermarket for 2 months and have been to the chemist 3 times

Windyatthebeach · 07/05/2020 20:33

I have seen my adult dc at his home. Sat on the opposite side of a room. He has attempted /contemplated suicide 3 times in 3 years. Most recent just before lockdown. Couldn't 'abandon' him..

Siameasy · 07/05/2020 20:34

I’ve been out for walks with DD (5) more than once a day. We live semi rurally so it’s in the fields.

QuentinWinters · 07/05/2020 20:36

I see my partner, we can't live together because we both have children and can't fit in one property but I live in his house the 50% of the week I don't have my kids and have for years. So I'm not giving up a home because the government arbitrarily decided.

I've also seen a couple of single friends for socially distanced walks because their mental health is suffering.

I'm fed up of being treated like a child who can't make their own risk assessment and I'm not going to sit round watching people I love suffer for no good reason

StirCrazy2020 · 07/05/2020 20:36

I would break them if I thought my long distance but lengthy relationship was in danger of becoming unsustainable. We've come too far.

Ilets · 07/05/2020 20:36

Essentially I don't give a shit. Hth. I've had it, my family has had it, half my friends have had it, no idea why all those who think it's a great idea now weren't clamouring for it when it would have helped us get to a position of track and trace, too fucking late now love.

Forgone90 · 07/05/2020 20:37

Went to visit family on a farm, socially distanced but kids were able to run around the farm and change of scenery.. Live in a flat with no garden and no balcony with not many green areas around! Sorry but don't care what people say... Some people need to realise that everyone has different circumstances... Its like saying to an alcoholic... Oh don't drink. No one else is so you shouldn't either.. Doesn't always work that way!

fia101 · 07/05/2020 20:37

When I was in Tesco I picked up a multipack of crisps and a packet of wagon wheels - not strictly a basic necessity or needed to enable my household to function under covid regs . Breathed a sigh of relief when I got out of the store without being arrested. Worried all the way home the police would stop me and search my boot - seeing the non basic goods.

Noname99 · 07/05/2020 20:38

Same as manscott
I’m in a long term relationship but for a myriad of reasons we are together but in two houses. Have done for years so I do not see why it’s any different than if we lived together in one house.

Theweasleytwins · 07/05/2020 20:38

I went to my grandads funeral❤️

feelingdizzy · 07/05/2020 20:41

Today,I visited my parents,they live about 10 miles away .I sat in their garden at least 3 metres apart I even brought my own food. It was a judgement call,my Mums mood was getting very low,there is a history with this. I felt by visiting once she feels less trapped and now wont get either massively depressed which leaves me caring for my dad and disabled brother ,leaving them at greater risk ,or totally break lockdown like she was threatening to do.
It was the right thing to do for my family.

userxx · 07/05/2020 20:42

so she's grieving and depressed but we are sticking to the rules

I'm stunned at this. Why would you do that ? It's your mum 😞

Ontheblackhill · 07/05/2020 20:44

Took toddler for a 30 min drive in the countryside. Didnt get out of the car. We both needed a change of scenery and he was getting really upset in the house . Put no one at risk and car recently serviced so unlikely to breakdown. Neighbours have got the builders in but they have all had Covid ( NHS) and the house was part way through complete renovation before lockdown. The work is mostly outside. Its none of my business.

Abraid2 · 07/05/2020 20:46

WhiteChoc

That’s so sad about your mother. My eyes filled reading it.

BeltaneBride · 07/05/2020 20:47

Too many to list. I am infecting no-one. This whole thing is ridiculous, treating adult free people was imbeciles unable to do their own risk assessment and I do not accept it.

PrivateD00r · 07/05/2020 20:49

I visited my dad once because he begged me to. He lives 3 miles away and we sat in the garden. Will do it again if he needs me. I would do it more if I wasn't an NHS worker, I am very aware I could be a risk so I minimise where I go greatly.

mommybear1 · 07/05/2020 20:49

I'd been sticking to the rules with my DF he's a widower and not in the best of health and I have a 2yr DS it's been bloody hard dropping off shopping and just leaving or seeing him from the end of the drive but as he said he'd rather be around for a few more years (he's 75) to see DS grow up. However his electrics went kaput I had to get a trusted sparky out which was fine but I had to go into the house and have him point out the issues we tried to maintain distance and managed. However he then had a fall and cut his arm badly so I had to go in and dress it for him and I've been having to go in most days to redress he dare not go to the gp or hospital due to covid. It's only my DH who has been to the supermarket for click and collect DS has been in isolation so I've tried to limit any and all exposure but I do worry about what the neighbours must think and generally about breaking the rules but I genuinely cannot see another way to do this DF needs medical help and I'm the only one able to give it.

fortunacookie · 07/05/2020 20:52

At end of day we all surely have common sense ...isn't that what is important

exLtEveDallas · 07/05/2020 20:52

Yes, been to my parents home 50 miles away 4 times. They needed me to, simple as that, so I ‘broke the rules’. Whilst I agree with the UK version of the lockdown, and am happy to isolate / socially distance / stay home as appropriate, I’m not going to leave my parents in the lurch when they need me.

T0tallyFuckedUpFamily · 07/05/2020 20:52

I think a lot of posters are confused about the rules. Most of you are either helping a vulnerable person or staying well away from each other while talking in the garden/driveway. You can also drive for a walk, so long as it’s deemed a reasonable distance.

I’m usually a stickler for the rules, but broke them when all the graveyards here were closed to the public. I used to go through the gap in the hedge and broken fence, made by an angry widow (yes really). I’d take my youngest to visit my husband and we’ve even picnics at his graveside. It was funny as I made it into a game and we pretended we were hiding from zombies until we got to his grave. She loves zombie shows. 😁 She’s vulnerable with underlying health conditions, so I’m very limited as to where I can take her, but because of her SN and autism, she was going a bit stare crazy.

Underhisi · 07/05/2020 20:53

We take disabled ds driving without getting him out of the car or only doing a short walk if we do. It still fits the rule of only going out with a reasonable excuse but doesn't fit the guidelines because the guidelines can't take account of all needs.

CeeCeeEnnEss · 07/05/2020 20:57

I didn’t realise that catch ups from over 2m away were against the rules - we bump into loads of people we know when walking around the village.

I sometimes exercise more than once a day, mainly because a walk with a toddler is not exercise for me.

CeeCeeEnnEss · 07/05/2020 20:58

Oh forgot my reasons: because I can make a calculation with regards to risk, and given that I haven’t been anywhere other than the village in 6 weeks... I think we’re alright.

Pretty soon I’ll actually stop giving a fuck, though. I need to see other people, properly, and let my DC play. We’re going mad.

Purplequalitystreet · 07/05/2020 20:58

Not entirely sure it breaks the rules as it was in my view a reasonable excuse, but I picked up a huge pile of baby clothes from my sister in law (which she left outside, I didn't go in), cos DS had a massive growth spurt and nothing fitted She also gave me a jumperoo. So not an essential journey but I don't think I was unreasonable.

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