What do you miss doing?

[emmetgirl]

This has probably been done before. What do you miss doing most since lockdown began? For me it's a couple of simple things. I live walking distance from a great little cinema and we'd walk round there pretty much every week and see a film. We also live about a 15 minute drive for a gorgeous beach popular with surfers. I miss going there at dusk, watching the surfers, getting fish and chips and eating them on the beach. Bliss!

My bf

Sitting in a cafe with my coffee and a book. I find I can't read as much now, my mind keeps wandering and I can't concentrate.

Been on maternity leave 4+ weeks. I had plans to go out and pamper myself, maybe go swimming, have a day at the shopping centre during the week when it’s quiet and eat out at a restaurant all before baby is due. I was looking forward to watching Wimbledon and the Olympics!

Work. Being useful, Doing something I am good at, (not housework). Earning some money - knowing that there will be some money going into the bank account. Being able to spend, pay a bill, buy a treat or somethingI need and know it was covered,

Now it just goes out and every day gets worse. Soon everything I have saved over years will be gone.

A haircut! I like having my hair done.
Going round a shop without the angst of doing it all wrong. That won't change for a while.

I miss Pilates (my shoulders are very clicky!), miss taking my dd to her ice skating lessons as she loves them, miss seeing my pals & having bbqs & drinks with them, sad for the camping trips we will miss out on & the lovely hols we had planned, sad we can’t just pop to the park, sad I can’t hug my mum, I also miss earning money as I can’t work due to lockdown atm. Having said all this I’m lucky to stay home with my kids & video call all the above people & stay safe. Looking forward to getting out though!

Being able to just drop into a local shop./go out for coffee/lunch

Being alone! I'm either at home with toddler or working with service users at weekends. I used to have Fridays all to myself whilst I worked on my business.

I miss college and seeing my friends

I miss going to the library, it's my happy place. My toddler loves it to.

I miss going to play centres. Easy way to put my feet up and read while toddler runs mad.

I miss costa and hanging out in cafes

Absolutely nothing, I am loving this. If I never had to conform to society’s ideals ever again I’d be very happy.

I miss seeing DS1 socialising with his friends, having them come and go from our house. Instead he's feeling bored and miserable at home. He's yr 11 so can't even hold out hope he'll get to see them if schools reopen as he's now left, so he's hoping at some point in the future he'll be able to meet up with at least one for a dog walk!

I miss:

• sitting on friends sofas drinking coffee
• looking forward to holidays
• swimming as a family
• days out, to the zoo etc
• being on my own occasionally
• being able to plan

Hugging my friends
Occasional drinks or meals out and being able to take children out to do things.
Just popping out to shops for non essential bits every now and then.

Everything else I can live without.

Seeing my 5yo playing with her friends. Hearing all about her day at school and her ballet and swimming lessons when she comes home.

My ballet and tap classes.

Going out for lunch at the weekend.

Really really miss the National Trust, we go to their properties a lot to potter round the house and garden and have lunch in the cafe.

Seeing my friends for coffee.

Absolutely nothing, I am loving this. If I never had to conform to society’s ideals ever again I’d be very happy.

Can you elaborate? It really interests me when people say this. What exactly are societies ideals that you usually feel forced to conform to?

I mean as I see it, before this we had a choice. I'm not a particularly sociable person but I do not want my choice to be taken away.

I miss having down time .I go to work and literally get in the shower, housework then the same each day .I can't relax am constantly on heightened alert because i don't want to pick it up and take it too work as i work with very vunerable people .I also go regularly on paranormal investigations that has been put on hold until lockdown is over really missing that and the people i go with .And mostly not being able have a coffee with my best friend .

@Runningfar for me I’ve just been furloughed from a ketworjer position so maybe I’ve just reached my level!

For me it’s, work, school, shopping, socialising. I am super happy with my own people in my own house. I can still go to Tesco once a week (every 3 weeks for us) & I can walk my dogs as I’ve always done. So not much change for me. I suppose if I were outgoing and had a packed social life I would find it harder. I just enjoy home schooling and would happily live off grid away from everything if I could.

I miss the normality of seeing my parents (babysitting!), days out, pubs, cafes, socialising with friends but mostly I miss travelling and visiting my home town abroad. Oh and I miss money, i am freelance and my paid work has dried up.

Seeing MIL every other Sunday. My parents are further away so it's usual to go a few months between seeing them and mostly catch up by phone.
Meeting my sister with her dog once a week.
Meeting friends for coffee and a chat.
Going to gigs.

I miss being involved with the local community, I love being out and about, meeting people (I am that rare person on Mumsnet who loves small talk ), I love helping at the local Food Bank (am still able to that), I had recently set up an old folks club, I miss that; I enjoy my committees and fund raising projects, even miss litter picking.

I agree with Running’s comments though and am interested in what people mean they say they don’t want to conform to society’s expectations. I feel I had achieved a really good life balance, a part time job that I love, lots of interesting hobbies and activities and I enjoyed peace and quiet at home too. I‘ve never been into ‘socialising’ for the sake of it, love meeting my friends to do something specific but never feel obliged to accept invitations to social occasions that I don’t want to attend.

I miss having freedom of choice!

Holidays, socialising with friends, seeing my parents not at a social distance in the garden. I am ok though, I just wish DS could still play and see friends. It’s harder for him.

Going to coffee shops, seeing family, chatting to other parents at toddler groups, going for days out to London/museums/heritage sites/the beach. Other than that my life with two preschoolers is not hugely different.

Travelling!

I have already lost one holiday to this disease, and I had another planned for June which won’t be happening either. I’m clinging to the distant hope that my September trip might actually happen, but it doesn’t look likely .

@10storeylovesong ...the Costa coconut flat white heaven in a little red cup

Apart from family, the thing I miss most is going out to Garden Centres and going to the local tip/recycling centre. Need to dispose of my old washing machine and a free bags of greenery which are on the patio in my back garden.