Just checking - I can’t relocate during lockdown, right?

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I’ll be the first to say I HATED the threads a few weeks ago when everyone was trying to find loopholes for lockdown so I admit I’m a big, fat hypocrite!

We really want to relocate to my parents for the remainder of lockdown. ‘We’ being me, husband and 10 month baby. Parents are early fifties.
They work part time (from home), husband is working full time (from home), I’m wrangling baby on my own all day.
I KNOW so many people have it worse, and we do have some outside space... but I just want more adult interaction during the day, more interaction for the baby (they get sooo excited when seeing people from a distance on our walks); to use my parents big, baby friendly garden; our dog to be able to interact with their dogs as well actually as he hasn’t been able to interact with other dogs since this started.

I’m not fussed about pubs, restaurants, shops, I’m not fussed about seeing loads of people or coming home, I just want to relocate for the remainder of lockdown.

Hard hat donned as I know I’m being VERY unreasonable and this has been a selfish vent but I’m just sad and frustrated.

Just go. The risks are very small.

It's not simple.

First of all, you have to think that all or one of you could be infected but asymptomatic. We still don't know how long people carry the virus for.

If you move from, say London, to the country where there are fewer cases, be it a second home or your parents' home, you risk taking the infection to a new area. Moving between two heavily or two lightly affected areas shouldn't make much difference. Moving from a less affected area to a heavily affected area still means increasing the population density and increasing your personal risk.

Then you should consider that mortality in men starts rising at 50, and risk includes high blood pressure.

Plus, are you sure they want a baby and another two people there?

OK - yes, you can relocate to your parents.

OP not OK (god I hate this iPad!)

My 27 year old daughter moved in with my husband and I at the weekend. She suffers with anxiety and depression and I had suggested that she move in with us at the start of lockdown but she wanted to stay in her own house. She has been working mostly from home (she is a key worker in a support role), going in to work once a fortnight on a rota so there are only ever 2 of them in a large open plan office.

Last week I was really worried about her as I was getting texts and phone calls from her saying she was in tears, couldn't motivate herself to do anything etc. I again suggested that she might like to pack up and come and spend the rest of lockdown with us and this time she said she would. She booked the day off work and packed up her car and came over to us (she's in the same town as us so only about 4 miles away). My husband and I are early retired (in our late 50s) so have only been going out for exercise and a weekly trip to the supermarket so, on balance, we felt it was the best decision to take.

Within 24 hours of being with us she was so much happier, engaged in activities and generally feeling much more positive. Also, I am less anxious now as I am not having to worry about her and having to deal with the texts and phone calls.

If you are all in agreement that it's the best thing to do then you should just go ahead and do it.

Visiting second homes isn't the same thing. The main reason that was a big no no is that they tend to be in rural or seaside areas with limited hospital beds.

My daughter lives a 7 minute drive from our house and we are seriously considering that she come and stay with us. We have all been strictly complying with social distancing up to now - no shopping, quiet walks, not seeing anyone and getting deliveries only

She lives in a flat with no outside space and it gets very hot inside. She has two primary school aged children and is an extrovert who doesn't cope well on her own. She is also a victim of domestic abuse and family court is happening at the same time, as well as a divorce. I worry about her.

We have a house with a garden, but it isn't a huge house and we will feel a bit on top of each other. Also, my husband is working from home and it's very full on at the moment. Also, I'm an introvert who needs some space. It's a very difficult decision to make. It will benefit our daughter and grandchildren, but almost certainly make lockdown harder for us.

She should be moving to a house in 5 - 8 weeks and we will probably need to help her move in some way, so getting together now seems sensible.

Also. our only neighbours had, what looked like, an extended family get together in their garden yesterday, with no distancing, so I don't care what they think right now.

I think it's ok to go OP. Just one journey and you aren't putting anyone else at risk. Mental health is important too. If being with your parents makes this lockdown thing a bit more bearable, just do it.

Out of interest, people saying DV is an exception. Then saying how people coming from London may bring the virus. Do you think a London DV victim shouldn't leave? Refuges have very limited spaces at the moment and also some victims are safer in completely different areas.