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Original poster

I'm just so fucking scared.

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ssd · 21/04/2020 12:39

Sorry to do another thread, I'm sure there will be a million of these threads already all saying the same thing.
I'm just scared, terrified of all this. What's happening to our lives, our country, everything. I'm terrified one of us gets this and dies. We are a tiny family, it's just us really. To lose one if us would be so awful I can't even think about it.
I know a lot of people feel like me.
I'm sorry to start another depressing thread. I just had to get it out.
I'm scared, so very very scared. And I don't see how I feel ending till everyone is vaccinated against this and that'll take years.

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Wolfiefan · 21/04/2020 12:44

Most people who get this don’t end up dying though. Are you doing a job that puts you at risk or are you on the list of people that are really vulnerable?

midgebabe · 21/04/2020 12:46

Numbers of people actually dying, however horrible, is very small and the only ways the government can prevent a complete disaster is to make sure the numbers stay that way until vaccine is found as even the current death rate is too high for the NHS long term.

Keeping it stable probably means at most 1 in 1000 people dying. Which may well be your normal chance of dying in any one year. And most of them will be much older and less healthy and probably less female than you

But that doesn't mean lockdown for the foreseeable future either , that's just needed to get things under control and to give us time to sort out how to manage it

But the odd panic is allowed at times like this!

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ssd · 21/04/2020 12:53

I'm not vulnerable. I'm an anxious person, I've had health anxiety since mum died and this is just ramping it up x 100.
Thank you for not having a go at me.

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Wolfiefan · 21/04/2020 13:14

I suffer from anxiety and depression. Sooooo not having a go at you.
I don’t keep checking the news. I don’t allow myself to obsess with bad statistics. I still walk the dog once a day. I still find things to do at home with the family or alone to keep busy and happy.
Have you had treatment for anxiety? I’m on Prozac and had CBT. I really helped.

Wolfiefan · 21/04/2020 13:15

Meant to add so sorry for your loss. Flowers

Noooblerooble · 21/04/2020 13:48

Can you reach out to your gp for support? There are people offering phone counselling and cbt right now. There are online counselling options too. Also come and join us here and we'll hold your hand. We are getting one another through this.
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/coronavirus/3885764-The-positive-mental-health-thread-part-6

I have anxiety and have been terrified at times but you are very unlikely to die, I promise. We are getting this under control and there are lots of tools to fight this beyond a vaccine. Face masks help protect people somewhat. They are testing different anti-virus and blood plasma transfusions and doses of vitamin D. An app is being developed to help monitor how the virus spreads again so asymptomatic people can be quarantined more quickly. There is lots and lots of hope. But anxiety is terrifying and you're getting through this without your mum and that's horrible. I'm sorry I can't come and sit with you and give you a big hug and make you a cup of tea. It's good you reached out.

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ssd · 21/04/2020 13:58

Thank you so much and thank you everyone for posting.
It really really helps. Thank you.

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ssd · 21/04/2020 14:02

I've not been patented my self for so long, I can't remember the last time I felt looked after. Dh is great but not very emotional. The dss are the same. I think everything falls to me, that's why I feel so worried and burdened by everything.
Being able to share here helps so much. I only have women in my life through work or my pals and I'm not seeing any of those just now. So being able to share here really helps.

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ssd · 21/04/2020 14:03

Parented not patented. That's given me a chuckle anyway!

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Suki2 · 21/04/2020 14:09

ssd the Spanish Flu died out without a vaccine being developed. I know it will take some time but I would think that the same will happen with Covid-19.
I don't really anticipate a vaccine but fully expect that antivirals will be developed that greatly alleviate the severity of the illness for those who get it in the meantime.
Life will get back to normal! Do you have any home based activities that you really enjoy; reading, gaming...anything really? Try to spend your time on things that give you pleasure and give you a sense of achievement. I love learning languages and have spent hours improving my French although I'm obviously not going there anytime soon!

Sparklingbrook · 21/04/2020 14:10

Hello OP, I am stuck at home with DH and DS2, neither are 'heart on sleeve' types and quite easy going in general.
I feel like I am worrying for everyone too. I miss work and my friends as they are my sanity.

You are not alone. Flowers

FlamedToACrisp · 21/04/2020 14:18

Well, I'm very stable and sensible, generally speaking, and I am also scared. I don't mind getting it and being ill but I really don't want to die, and there doesn't seem any way of guessing who will or won't. I live in an area with low confirmed figures, but I know they don't represent the true quantity of cases, most of them aren't tested.

I realise this sounds like I'm saying, "It's OK to be anxious because the risk is real!" But what I meant to say is, you are not alone. I think most of us are worried. And our anxiety is more likely to keep us safe, long-term and short-term, so perhaps it's only common sense, after all.

And that's the point, really - we hear ALL the death figures and FEW of the case figures, so the ratio sounds more horrendous than it really is.

I wish you well.

effingterrified · 21/04/2020 14:34

It is scary (see my username) but most people who get it don't die of it and you are unlikely to.

The Spanish flu ended and was followed by the Roaring Twenties.

There have been many pandemics in history and the world went on.

We have far better medicine and understanding of visuses now, so should be able to deal with this.

Go read a favourite, relaxing book or watch a fun TV series or film to take your mind off it. I recommend Derry Girls if you've not seen it - will have you laughing non-stop!

effingterrified · 21/04/2020 14:37

Oh, and make sure you are taking sensible precautions to prepare your immune system in case you do get it - take high strength Vit C, D and a multivitamin, and maybe a good probiotic. And get enough sleep and some sunshine. And eat a healthy diet.

Then you can comfort yourself that you've done everything you could, and rest and enjoy not having to commute, dress smartly or whatever other everyday things you can get a break from as a result of this.

scochran · 21/04/2020 14:42

Be careful what you watch and read. I felt like that when we were isolating for first 3 weeks but now my daughter is back at work and I am driving her to avoid public transport, I realise a lot more is happening outside my walls and it's not all about coronavirus.
Ironically I feel better now but logically our risk is greater as she works at a supermarket. Makes no sense.

Sparklingbrook · 22/04/2020 11:32

How are you today?

I have started on the Vitamin D.

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ssd · 22/04/2020 11:52

Hi, I'm OK thanks. Funnily enough, I've been taking vit d for a few months now, since I read about the benefits on here. I finished my bottle a few days ago and I need to go and get some more.
I feel a bit calmer today, I think ill go a walk and stay off my phone for a bit, too much information is a bad thing, sometimes.
Hope you're OK too Flowers

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Sparklingbrook · 22/04/2020 11:56

I woke up feeling a bit out of sorts but had a cuddle with the cat and sat outside for a bit and feel ok now.
Might start a book this afternoon.

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HebeMumsnet · 22/04/2020 12:03

Hi there SSD. Glad to hear you're feeling a bit better this morning. Hope the walk does you good.

If you do decide to venture back on the phone at some point but want to read some threads that aren't going to be anxiety-inducing, you can always head to the No Corona Zona here, where there's a ban on the C-word and lots of nice threads for those who just want a bit of light distraction.

Flowers for you anyway and hope today's a better day. See you about.

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ssd · 22/04/2020 12:09

Thanks hebe that's good to know, I'll try that.
Sb, that's nice you had cat cuddles. That must be a comfort.

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BovaryX · 22/04/2020 12:10

Hi ssd,
It's understandable you feel anxiety, but as many PP have said, the risk of this if you are not in a vulnerable group is low. The situation is stressful, I think it's a great idea to take some vitamin supplements if you feel you might be low. Vitamin B and Vitamin D can affect mood if you have low levels. Take advantage of the exercise allowance because going out for a walk will be beneficial in lots of ways. Take care and hopefully things will improve soon.

Wolfiefan · 22/04/2020 13:22

Hope it’s sunny where you are OP. Lovely washing drying weather here! Grin

ElsieDear · 22/04/2020 13:36

The death rate is tiny. Try and get some perspective.

ElsieDear · 22/04/2020 13:40

Think my answer was rather abrupt. I just meant to encourage you to place the risks in to perspective.

Floatyboat · 22/04/2020 13:42

What you may found helpful is looking at online calculator for your chance of death in the next 12 months and then work out your chance of death from a covid infection. Helps put things in perspective regards the personal health risks of the pandemic. Does nothing to reassure you of economic and mental well being risks though.