Ignorant husband

[Applejack87]

Hi I need let off steam , my husband works in an office on his own in an area that is a ghost town due to the Covid19 he cycles however he does go in to shops at lunch time he says social distancing to top it off his parents are self isolating so every day on his way to work he gets their newpapers and puts them through the letterbox . We have one child she hasn’t been anywhere for a month isolating , I can’t get a shopping delivery so have to shop once a week I usually go late around 8pm when it’s quiet
I’m livid that my husband still goes into work even if the area is quiet he’s still going into shops , I’m also irate that he gets his parents papers by again going into the shops
Am I wrong to feel this way when a lot of families I know are isolating together only going out when necessary

You're livid with your DH for going to work? You're irate that he does his parents a quick favour every morning? Fucks sake...

Yeah OP this is a bit much. You have a healthy husband with a job, who's parents are being cautious and he's kind enough to being them a bit of normality every day.
Sounds like your husband is doing everything within 'da rulez'- Count your blessings.

I think you’re overreacting.

Is fowl language necessary ? Your probably one of the idiots that is still going out socialising , your ignorance says it all

Oh, cluck off with moaning about fowl language.

No way am I over reacting he could work from home easily but chooses not to putting the whole families health at risk
Going out buying papers is unnecessary again putting health at risk he’s feeling unwell tonight sore throat etc I’m just praying he’s ok . Excuse me if you feel it’s overacting but the majority of people I know are anxious at the moment . Stay safe

cluck off

If you only wanted replies that agreed with you, you should have said so in your opening post.

Unless I've misunderstood your post, I think you're overreacting.

Are you in the U.K.? If you are then the purpose of our lockdown was to slow the spread so the NHS doesn't become overwhelmed as opposed to say New Zealand's aim of completely eradicating it. No one in the U.K. except those that are being shielded is expected to sit in their house for weeks on end without encountering a single other person.

What do you think would happen to our economy if every person didn't work and completely stopped going to the shops?

This forum is renowned for rude people and cluck off I’ve got to say your well mannered ha ha

Why isn’t your child going out once a day for fresh air and exercise?

Why doesn’t your husband shop for you three on his way home from work as he’s out anyway?

You sound very stressed. Yes, everyone’s anxious but this is a marathon not a sprint and it’s up to each of us to try and manage our anxiety without raging at our loved ones.

Believe me where I live the shops are heaving one particular supermarket has no restrictions atall quite frightening

I agree with you OP that he shouldn't be buying his lunch every day ...can't he take it in? The parents should get their news online

Are you very anxious about all of this because with everything going on he really isnt breaking the rule

He just hates being indoors all the time but don’t we all , my child Is a teen & does go out for a daily walk every day around the quiet residential roads in our area

@Applejack87

Ah, so since we're clearly the 'ignorant idiots' going about socialising...

' I can’t get a shopping delivery so have to shop once a week I usually go late around 8pm'

**Why can't your husband do the shopping on one of his many dalliances to the shops? It seems unnecessary since he is out at work for you to do another trip.

In all seriousness, your husband isn't doing anything wrong. And neither are you, by the way. He's not (I assume) licking trolley handles and then necking old ladies.

My husband works late hours I wouldn’t expect him to shop from work
As I said previously I go once a week late in the evening when there’s no queues
I’m concerned today because he’s not feeling well , it might not be anything to do with the virus but I think anyone feeling Sick now thinks otherwise

I do wish people would stop. Mis interpretating the "lockdown"

It's not so you never catch the virus, it's so the right amount of people catch it at the right time.

your DH isn't ignorant, he is doing everything according to the rules.

Just not the roolz I see on MN

My DH was home for 3 weeks and went to the shop for bits every day. Maybe I was OTT but I told him he should make a list and go less often.

OP you got a cluck off because you wrote fowl, instead of foul.

I think your dh is doing a nice thing for his DP.

The rest of it I'd be annoyed but he's an adult and can make his own decisions.

You are not over-reacting in the least. My 21 month son's father promised to self-isolate for 7 days in his separate house (shared) to then come and be with us and support (for the first time) and a day later he disappeared for over a week to go to the next county (from Stratford Upon Avon Warwickshire to Banbury/Bloxham, Oxfordshire) to drink beer with mates from different households. He has done this twice - 5 and 7 day breaks with mates since lock down as says he has been 'drinking beer in the sunshine' and going on 4 hour daily walks with his mate. I said great I am really struggling on my own with our one year old about to lose my job which I could otherwise do with your support - he said he loves us both and what do we need him to do - I told him, isolate 7 days and then be here for us from this moment forward (he doesn't work) and he said he would but the same day immediately went off drinking with his mate and then had a go at me saying he couldn't come back to the county he lives in because he would be over the limit and I am asking him to drink drive. Somehow his choices to leave home for 2 separate periods since lockdown of 5 and 7 nights to a 'mate's 'house in a different county to drink and socialise in contravention with the government lockdown advice and me asking for him to support me and his one year old resulted in me being told ' you are asking me to drink drive'. He chose to drink and stay there after I asked and pleaded him to help as I am not coping on my own 24/7 with our toddler. He kept telling me I was asking him to drink drive - I asked for him to come back and help at 12.30 and he said he wanted to be there for me and our son and put things right - I said yes but it has to start now. He messaged saying he could talk to me at 8pm after our son was asleep I said I want to talk now and need help now. He ignored then came back at 8pm saying he couldn't drive - I realise as I write what rubbish this is. I am just so upset and alone

@Applejack87
Surely in this time of unprecedented uncertain (insert adjective here)-ness it doesn't matter if he works long hours - he should be the one shopping if he's already out and cutting down essential journeys.

And sorry I don't quite believe you that there are 'no queues' even at 8pm.

That's the problem OP, you seem to have taken the parts of the extreme 'non rules' that people have made up and applied them to him but not you.

His parents are obviously taking self isolation seriously and presumably aren't forcing him to do what he's doing with the papers. It's no less essential than someone going out for compost or paint or whatever to get them through. He's trying to bring them a bit of happiness in a shitty time.

As for his sore throat, well - sucks to be human doesn't it. @greysparkes is spot on, we will all probably get the virus at some point. You lot might get lucky and get immunity early.

He's going to two shops a day, is that right? We are going to two shops a week and getting very stressed about those trips.
The newspaper could be delivered. The lunches could be bought on one day and spread over the others. He seems to be carrying on as normal doesn't he? But life isn't meant to feel normal just now.

Your probably one of the idiots that is still going out socialising , your ignorance says it all

No, sorry. I'm just going to the supermarket when needed. Top tip: When calling someone an idiot and referring to their ignorance, it's usually wise to check your own idiocy and ignorance first.

ezzie that sound shite for you, only plus is you can see exactly what sort of father/partner he is, and it's one who puts his own short term needs first.