Ignorant husband

[Applejack87]

Hi I need let off steam , my husband works in an office on his own in an area that is a ghost town due to the Covid19 he cycles however he does go in to shops at lunch time he says social distancing to top it off his parents are self isolating so every day on his way to work he gets their newpapers and puts them through the letterbox . We have one child she hasn’t been anywhere for a month isolating , I can’t get a shopping delivery so have to shop once a week I usually go late around 8pm when it’s quiet
I’m livid that my husband still goes into work even if the area is quiet he’s still going into shops , I’m also irate that he gets his parents papers by again going into the shops
Am I wrong to feel this way when a lot of families I know are isolating together only going out when necessary

www.college.police.uk/What-we-do/COVID-19/Documents/What-constitutes-a-reasonable-excuse.pdf

I would just like to refer you to the police guidelines here which specifically state that buying a newspaper is “likely to be reasonable”, as in a reasonable excuse to be out.

I thought the idea was to minimise trips to the shops as much as possible. In which case two shops a day for things he doesn't need to do is a bit excessive.

I agree with you OP. Your DH is doing what he wants but is increasing the risk to you all and that’s not fair.

@nearlyalmost50

I suspect that if OPs husband combined all his lunch trips to one outing, managed to get future copies of newspapers on a Monday and air droned them to his parents house daily, it would still be ignorant to the OP, as he is still cycling to work to a deserted part of the city in a deserted office.

Scottish police advice below:
shopping for basic necessities, for example food and medicine, which must be as infrequent as possible.
daily exercise, for example a run, walk, or cycle - alone or with members of your household.
any medical need, or to provide care or to help a vulnerable person.
travelling to and from work, but only where you cannot work from home.

If he can genuinely work from home he is wrong to go in to work full stop - the streets are only quiet because other people are doing the right thing!

I am sorry OP for some of the rude comments above. I understand your position on this. If your husband can work from home, he should. My husband has been working from home for over a month now. I am sure he would love to get out of house and work in peace but that's not an option right now. Why does he need to go to shops for lunch?! I think he is being irresponsible. While bringing in newspaper seems like a kind gesture, there is really no need for him to do that. He can get his parents set up for news online. I know it might be hard for them but these are tough times.
Hope he feels better soon and it's nothing serious xx.

I agree that if he can work from home, he should and I have tried and tried (without success) to get my parents to stop getting a paper. I refused to pick it up so they got my sister to do it, I pointed out that any one of the many many people who have handled that paper could have the virus but they wont listen. Dad has COPD so shielding and mum is sanitizing every item of shopping I take for them, but they still cheerfully have a paper

Bloody hell. Some people are being way over the top on here. There are no laws regarding covid, only recommendations

So I thought I was doing a good thing by getting my neighbour his paper every day whilst out for a walk, but apparently not. This is the new crime of the century. Ffs.

Who said it was a crime? But when my mother is going barmy with the sanitizer on her shopping and washing her hands red raw to protect my COPD affected father, why would you then cheerfully accept a newspaper in the house when you have no idea how many peoples hands it has been through?

I dont get it! I am not going out of my way to keep everything as safe as I can, only to pop a potential carried through their letter box. I have to be honest, I'm surprised papers are still being made.

Oh, cluck off with moaning about fowl language

@PurpleDaisies you beat me too it!

OP are you always so rude?

OP post again in daytime and you will get more sensible responses!

If he can work from home then he should be doing so, though it is a guideline rather than the law.

By the way, a fowl is a type of bird (usually a duck). That is why you were told to cluck off. If you mean bad language then the spelling is foul.

There are no laws regarding covid, only recommendations

There are laws. Coronavirus Act 2020, passed around the 26th March.

He should work at home if he can, but he's also allowed to go to work if he can't work from home. Does he have non office tasks, eg checking things on a factory floor? Has he been provided with a laptop and necessary network/server access to wfh? Does he have space, peace and quiet and broadband access to work productively at home? What's his employer's attitude to home working?

There's nothing wrong with taking a newspaper to his parents, or buying essentials and you're not restricted to once a week shopping, and it's good to go in the evening to save queuing in the daytime.

It's probably not great if he's buying his lunch daily when he could take it from home using items bought in the weekly shop but he might be providing valued custom to a struggling independent sandwich shop and if he needs lunch items you'll need to shop more often for fresh bread anyway.

You sound like a reasonable fair minded person.

OP post again in daytime and you will get more sensible responses!

That's debatable

We have very different ideas on what sensible means