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Multiple people out in the car

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louise5754 · 13/04/2020 11:18

Hi. Am I being OTT?

What would the possible need be for 2/3/4 people to go out in the same car?

I thought adults were supposed to be doing the essential shopping alone (unless you're a single parent).

I just keep thinking if there was an accident the more people that are injured the more pressure it will put on the NHS.

I've seen posts on here where families have driven to see grandparents but stood on the drive or families have dropped off easter eggs.

Am I being a tad ridiculous?

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CuriousaboutSamphire · 13/04/2020 12:06

Sadly round here there have been a number of incidents with cars full of young people, speeding on the empty roads and having weird and horrendous accidents.

Like the one 2 nights ago, 3 males, 2 females and the car went through a hedge and stopped half way over a field. All occupants were taken to hospital, the driver may yet die of his injuries.

When asked by the police they claim to have been going home from somewhere, having been doing something and weren't going all that fast.

Reality? They'd been driving round just enjoying themselves and had been travelling far to fast. Many people had heard them, local Facebook had a couple of posts asking "do you know where your kids are?"

3 police cars, 3 ambulances, 1 fire rescue crew and a police helicopter...

Spied · 13/04/2020 12:08

I don't drive. My partner does.
When we go shopping I go into the supermarket as dp has anxiety issues and would find it almost impossible (I also do parents food shop at the same time- too many bags to carry the mile home).
We have our DC in the car too as we couldn't leave them alone.
So there's us 4 actually in the car (1 in the supermarket). No doubt some nosey neighbors will see us all unloading the car and think we've all been browsing the aisles on a jolly.

Blueberry2020 · 13/04/2020 12:19

To drop me at the hospital for an appointment. Husband and children waited in the car. They could have stayed home but I didn’t feel well so would rather not drive alone and my anxiety was very high. We deemed having the support there when I came out more important that the need for them to stay home.

Sillysop92 · 13/04/2020 12:22

Yes. I’m dropping my daughter off at work every day so she hasn’t got to use public transport. I even collect her as well! 2 journeys a day shock horror! She’s repaying me today with reduced Easter eggs from the shop she works in.
I can’t believe how petty you are. Chill out love!

KeepWashingThoseHands · 13/04/2020 12:27

In the words of Taylor Swift - you need to clam down.

KeepWashingThoseHands · 13/04/2020 12:27

Calm down even!

Candyflosscookie · 13/04/2020 12:35

Yes you are being ridiculous. I can off the top of my head think of many, many circumstances that would apply, some have been already mentioned here. However I feel no need to mention them as I don't feel I need to justify anything to someone who is both unimaginative and judgemental.

Nixen · 13/04/2020 12:37

We drove our car around the block today before our daily walk in our local park, because in the past we have found that if it doesn’t get driven, it has problems starting. With a wee one at home I’m not risking not being able to get help in an emergency because our car doesn’t start. I felt weird doing it to be honest but I don’t think we put anyone at more harm.

Boredsheep · 13/04/2020 12:38

You must be really bored.

RhymingRabbit3 · 13/04/2020 12:39

I had to go to a midwife appointment. I dont drive so my husband drove me. We had to bring our children because we couldnt leave them at home. They all sat in the car while I went for my appointment.

MrJollyLivesNextDoor · 13/04/2020 12:42

Call the police immediately and report these infractions!

Alternatively mind your own fucking business

TruffleShuffles · 13/04/2020 12:47

You’re getting a hard time here OP, more than one person travelling in a car is one of the main things that has been stopped in Spain during their lockdown. It’s only allowed if you are taking the other person to a medical appointment that they can’t drive to themselves. I think a lot of people on this thread need to remind themselves what a necessary journey is.

Emmagen · 13/04/2020 12:48

Whenever we need shopping there are 3 of us in the car. I'm pregnant so my husband needs to be the one to go in the shop, we live rurally and he doesn't drive so I drive and he goes in the shop and I wait in the car with the hand gel. We also have a 3 year old who can't be left alone so comes along for the ride. Only my husband gets out anywhere but at home, we go as infrequently as we can and have managed so far to only visit one small shop 3 times since lockdown began.

I suppose he could bus to the shop. Personally I think our way is more sensible.

Rhubardandcustard · 13/04/2020 12:48

Omg get a grip and just worry about your own life. Too many people have turned into curtain twitcher police. You don’t know anything about these people or the reasons they have for being in a car together. Don’t worry about what you can’t control, just focus on you and your family doing the right thing.

Kuponut · 13/04/2020 12:49

Yeah we took both kids out in the car for 20 minutes yesterday. They've not left the house in 3 weeks and were really feeling it now, so we took them for a short trip around the local area so they could look for the rainbows their classmates had put in their windows and feel a bit more connected to the world. Car also needed a decent run out to keep it mechanically OK so we combined both factors.

Yep I know it's one of those MN hypothetical exploding car, collisions the second you leave your front door situation - but we balanced out the risks and the benefits to the kids' mental health (don't want to take them to walk across the local field as some twat's been spreading rat poison laced food around again) and just took them for a quick drive around the local area.

And if any of the usual crowd want to complain about that - they can fuck off as I've got one kid experiencing physical health problems because of how the lockdown is affecting her to the point she needed to see the GP the other day. It's lifted the kids to the point we can do another few weeks just in the house and garden.

cologne4711 · 13/04/2020 12:49

Sadly round here there have been a number of incidents with cars full of young people, speeding on the empty roads and having weird and horrendous accidents

That is completely different to people driving safely and sensibly to drop Easter eggs off, do shopping, go to a medical appointment or drop something round to a vulnerable person who can't get it themselves.

There will always be idiot drivers, but they will be idiots whether there's a covid lockdown or not.

If someone challenged me in a supermarket as to what I was doing there I wouldn't even dignify them with a reply.

Mammatino · 13/04/2020 12:50

Do doesn’t drive, no public transport, can’t mix households for lifts, not a key worker, can’t work from home, wife and kids have to drive him and pick him up...or he will be fired and no income. Bet the wife wishes she could sit in her window with her notebook. Seriously though, try to find out the full story before you judge, if it’s 20 people dancing around a fire sharing heroin needles you can go ahead and report.

NotEverythingIsBlackandwhite · 13/04/2020 12:51

trappedsincesundaymorn

On Friday my dad, sister and me (all from different houses) will all be in my car. The reason for this terrible crime?....I shall be driving us to Mums funeral because we can't have a car supplied by the funeral directors. I hope we don't get reported by someone who will just see 3 people in a car without knowing the context of the journey.
I am so sorry for your loss Flowers. It must be especially difficult to have a funeral at this difficult time without mourners or a wake on top of the heartache of your loss.

Although it is against the rules, I think most people would understand you doing this and I must admit that I would struggle not to break the rules in those circumstances myself.

Lucindainthesky · 13/04/2020 12:55

You can't win.

I don't drive and DH is diabetic, we have one child not old enough to be left home alone.

Once a week we all drive together to a click and collect, they stay in the car whilst I pick up the shopping.

What's the alternative? We could try for a delivery but that wouldn't be fair when we are capable of driving. Or, I could walk to a small shop but it would have to be more than once a week, therefore putting myself and others at risk more often.

All going out in the car together is the most responsible way for us to shop.

Polly02 · 13/04/2020 12:56

You are being ridiculous OP. Maybe this is what isolation does to people’s minds ...

trappedsincesundaymorn · 13/04/2020 13:00

NotEverythingIsBlackandwhite
Thank you. I'm classing under "essential journey" and "helping the vulnerable"...my dad is elderly and my sister has anxiety issues and hasn't driven for 18 months now.

Ted27 · 13/04/2020 13:04

hmm, my neighbours, four young male adults, houseshare, students on the same course, now working in the same supermarket. They are either in together or out together at work.

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louise5754 · 13/04/2020 13:05

At ok husband has been saying we should all go but I said we can't. Thanks

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louise5754 · 13/04/2020 13:07

I've not seen any neighbours do this. As I said i read it in here.

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