AIBU to break lockdown rules

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I am posting here because I know you guys will be honest with me, even if it’s hard to hear lol.

I am a single mum to three children and 18 weeks pregnant. Since social distancing and lockdown was announced I have taken it very seriously. In the last three weeks I have only left the house twice. Both to get food.

However on my last trip out (1 week ago) I fainted whilst in the coop. This was very traumatic because my 5 year old with SEN was with me and became very distressed. An ambulance was called and I went to a and e. They did a lot of tests but decided it was related to the pregnancy and that basically whilst standing up my blood pressure is dropping and this is causing me to faint.

Since then I have been having regular lightheaded spells where I have had to lie down quick so that I don’t faint. For example today I was making sandwiches for my children’s lunch and had to lie down three times so lunch (just sandwiches) took nearly an hour to make. This is also really worrying my children.

I have spoken to my midwife who says it’s “normal” but it’s so incapacitating. I can’t do anything that involves standing for any period of time.

My parents (live 15 minutes away) have offered for me and the children to go and stay with them so they can help me but obviously this is against the lock down rules.

So my AIBU is should I go? (Obviously whilst there I wouldn’t be going out at all) or do I need to stick to the lockdown??

Yes move in with them, unless they’re very elderly.

Get off MN and get in the car! Poor you, sounds rotten.

Go definitely.

Absolutely do it - for your safety and the children's. When you have been so vigilant about social distancing there is little to no chance of you carrying it and infecting your parents. This is a necessary merge of households, in my opinion. Don't feel bad about doing it - I hope you start feeling better soon

Of course you must move in with them.

Go, safest option.

Get moving

You are allowed to move for health reasons. So I’d do it if I were you.

Where is the father of your unborn baby?

Timbukfuckingtu, what does that have to do with anything??

I’m not seeing how this would be against the rules. Providing care for someone - or being cared for - is an essential reason to leave the house.

I think merging your households makes sense, but only if your parents aren't vulnerable due to age/underlying health conditions. Then you're just creating a different set of problems.

Plenty. It’s not unreasonable to ask if the dad (s) could help? First port of call.

Definitely go. You need their support.

I think there has to be an element of common sense in all of this. You need to move in to your parents home for support in caring for your 3 dc. If you stay at home, you are putting them at risk. If you faint And bang your head and bleeding and you are alone with the dc, what are they going to do with you. If you have your parents help, you are probably less likely to faint to start with as if you feel ill, they can take over and you can lie down, but if you do faint and hurt yourself, the dc are cared for and someone can make sure you are ok.
Some people are breaking the lock down rules for really silly reasons. You would be breaking them for a completely sensible reason. Either go to your parents and live there or have your parents move in with you. You know the layout of your homes and who has the best set up for 6 people. But you definitely sound like you need some additional support if it is available.

I don't think you should be alone with 3 children whilst pregnant with a fourth and feeling unwell. You've done well to last as long as you did.
Also, it makes sense because if you need to be admitted to hospital for any reason, your children would presumably move in with your parents anyway. Good luck

It's essential care. It would be a high risk to your little ones and yourself to carry on as you are. Get the support you need and don't think twice.

Go for goodness sake go and let your family help.
Get the midwives to take your blood for iron deficiency too, and blood pressure...
Get well soon 💐

Oh yes. Definitely go for those reasons.

Definitely go!

Also, are you having enough salt in your diet and when you sit or stand up, slowly lift your arms above your head for a few seconds before you move off. My consultant told me to do this and it does help.

In your situation I think you need to go. You/your dc could be at risk otherwise.

There are exceptions for those fleeing abuse because of the risk. They can't make exceptions for every scenario clear but I'm sure yours would be one of them.

"My parents (live 15 minutes away) have offered for me and the children to go and stay with them so they can help me but obviously this is against the lock down rules."

You are not going to visit, you are going to stay there so I don't see that as being against the lockdown rules.

Here's a list of the "reasonable excuses" to travel -
www.legislation.gov.uk/uksi/2020/350/regulation/6/made

I reckon you and your children moving to your parents is covered by reason (m) - to avoid injury or illness or to escape a risk of harm. You are all at risk of harm if you faint, and you could easily injure yourself if you pass out.

You will NOT be breaking the rules by going to your parents.

I say go, your children and you need another adult there if you are fainting/lightheaded that often.

If you're going to remain with them until it's over, I would say go. Doesn't sound like you're safe to be caring for them at the moment, and you've been social distancing well for the last few weeks. Would you say your parents have been doing the same?

I think this is ok as long as your parents are fit and well and under 70, and once you are there you stay there under lockdown rules.