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What happens if someone travels unnecessarily

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Randomword6 · 08/04/2020 18:26

My dd, 20 wants desperately to live elsewhere for the duration. I am not sure if she could get where she wants to go by train atm, it's 400 miles away. And I don't know if she would get stopped and questioned.

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NotTired · 09/04/2020 07:06

Northern rail are now running 'Key worker timetables'. Anyone trying to get on who looks like they are not going to work eg with a suitcase are stopped. There are british transport police on the train.

Figgygal · 09/04/2020 07:07

Coming back Op?

ElementalIllusion · 09/04/2020 07:16

A friend of mine is staying at her DPs for the lockdown, she has traveled back to her house, a 90 min journey involving two busses, to go and feed her pets, it needs doing once every few weeks so she will probably need to do it again at some point.

She said nobody stopped her or asked where she was going, she didn’t even see anybody other than the drivers on her way there, she got the first bus of the morning and she was the only passenger on both busses.

She was nervous about the journey but considered it essential, if she was stopped at any point she was going to say she was traveling home from doing errands for a vulnerable friend.

ElementalIllusion · 09/04/2020 07:19

It does depend entirely on what the situation is.

If she’s at home and wants to go and stay with friends or a family member or boyfriend then she should stay put and suck it up.

If she’s away at uni, staying with friends/boyfriend and it’s not going well and she wants to come home then I think she should be ok to travel.

CorbynsAnorak · 09/04/2020 07:21

Her grandparents’ generation were made to go to war as young people. She is being asked to sit on a fucking sofa.

Really? I’m twice her age and my grandparents were children during the war!

ArriettyJones · 09/04/2020 07:24

Why are you even contemplating it?

TBF holding adults against their will is illegal. So it’s not really OP who is contemplating it, but her DD.

Ethelswith · 09/04/2020 07:29

If she is moving for the whole of the rest of the pandemic, then depending on why it might be ok.

One of my siblings did this (after a period of WFM/isolation as a type of quarantine) in order to move in indefinitely with my nonagenarian DMum. The train was the riskiest part, but mercifully nearly empty. It would be heartbreaking if DMum - or someone, anyone else - died because someone on that train fancied a break. But we know essential workers and care givers, and occasionally others facing truly exceptional circumstances need to move about.

So if she does have an exceptional reason, then that might be acceptable.

But the way it's worded suggests that's not the case

Hopeisnotastrategy · 09/04/2020 08:18

@CorbynsAnorak then you lot breed early! 🤣🤣🤣

Orchidflower1 · 09/04/2020 09:36

@Hopeisnotastrategy I think @CorbynsAnorak was meaning as an example. Possibly for some it’s great grandparents- the theory is the same.

@Randomword6 dd has got to sit at home not man an ARP station / become a land girl that’s the point.

ilikebooksandplants · 09/04/2020 09:42

I presume train drivers still have to GET to work and they don’t all just live in the station/in their train cabs?

bluebeck · 09/04/2020 09:47

It goes without saying that her age group are in a different information bubble and not taking the situation seriously.

Charming. In my experience Gen Z were one of the first groups to start shouting about how serious the virus was. My 19 year old and 22 year old are adhering very strictly to all the restrictions.

Why does your DD want to live elsewhere? Let her write a post telling us why......................

tabulahrasa · 09/04/2020 09:50

“It goes without saying that her age group are in a different information bubble and not taking the situation seriously.“

Nope, my 19 yr old and her friends are taking it really seriously as are all my friends teenagers tbh.

PeytonManning · 09/04/2020 09:50

I’m glad I clicked on this thread for the train driver jokes alone

bluebeck · 09/04/2020 09:53

Her grandparents’ generation were made to go to war as young people. She is being asked to sit on a fucking sofa

I seriously doubt that. The woman is 20. Her grandparents are unlikely to be in their 90s or older.

notanurse2017 · 09/04/2020 09:59

I was in a similar position with my dd Op. In the end the practicalities won through. She genuinely thought that the trains would run as usual (a tricky journey at the best of times) and that there would be a taxi waiting for her at the other end to drive her 30 minutes to her destination.

I also made it clear that we would in no way support this and once she was out of our house, that was it. Which she absolutely hadn't considered.

It was very bizarre - I think that it was a reaction to feeling cooped up etc. My dd is normally much more intelligent than this!

notanurse2017 · 09/04/2020 10:01

Oh and I know that I couldn't have stopped her leaving if she wanted to. But it was within my power not to allow her back.

Hopeisnotastrategy · 09/04/2020 10:52

Loving the pedants, I think CorbynsAnorak’s comment and my response were made lightheartedly. Hence the emojis?

However, not the point of the thread, so moving on....

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Randomword6 · 11/04/2020 18:41

Hi I read all the posts with great interest and laughed about the train driver. I am paranoid about being identified so although a lot of what is happening is common to other people I can't say much more. So yes, shitsgettingcrazy I am being evasive.

I am glad people said their 20yr olds are not all selfish, I am actually surprised at her group of friends who I know have been flouting rules.

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YeOldeTrout · 11/04/2020 19:04

My understanding is that you are allowed to move house during this period. Moving house is not banned.

Changing where you sleep every night would be frowned upon, but one house move fine.

So shoot me... we walked 10 miles to another town today & took the train back (15 minutes). Every public bus I see in last 2 weeks has zero passengers. The train has seats for about 120 & had me+2 DC & 2 other passengers, only one of whom stayed on the train at the station we disembarked at. In my area, public transport is one of the most socially distant places you can be. Apart from Tube, I don't believe in crowded public transport right now.

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