What is your other half doing whilst in lockdown? Do they think they are on holiday? Or are you a lucky one and I just a sucker.

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My hubby is getting up at 930. Going to gym in garage. Bath jacuzzi at noon. Lunch for himself at 1. Nothing for rest of day apart from pretending to be on laptop. Playing PlayStation, watching tv.
Me: working at home in normal job. Home schooling 2 kids. Feeding kids. Cooking dinner for family. Housework. Is it me or are some of partners thinking this is holiday for them.

We are both wfh with 3 children. Chores very evenly split. Everyone going out of their way to be extra considerate. Even teenagers.

One randomly brought me a cup of tea while I was on a conf call earlier (then requested more screen time). DH "owns" breakfast and lunch. I do dinner.

No chance would I be putting up with that. Take his PlayStation and laptop off him. He wants to act like a child, I would treat him like one.

Your husband is a grade a lazy arse bastard. Why are you accepting this?
Show him this thread and shame the total shit out of him

Ok that is not normal OP

OH and I are both working from home at my house with my DC around - it is not his house, he has temporarily moved in for lockdown.

He has emptied the dishwasher every day; been to the supermarket to shop for all of us, stripped and remade the bed, cooked every other night, spring cleaned my kitchen cupboards and the fridge, done some DIY, paid for a takeaway for all of us (my DCs are not his), helped out with caring for my elderly parents who are shielding and ordered a crate of wine for me.

sounds like you are married to a twat.

DH and I (both wfh at the mo) divide the day between us. One works in the morning while the other looks after kiddo, then we switch in the afternoon. Split cooking and bedtime evenly, like we would in normal times. Make sure we both find time to get outside and do exercise, even if it means exercising with the kid.

I can't imagine living any other way... and neither could he. But then, he's not a selfish twat.

Mines still at work. That's madness OP, I have no idea why you are putting up with it.

AS it is both of us are working from home.
BUT having had very different hours of work than DH, I can ensure yu that this wouod NOT happen.
He would be told in no uncertain terms that I am working and he is charge of the dcs, breakfast and lunch for everyone.
I would send the dcs to him every time.
And I would grumble if things are too noisy.

Don't let him treat you like shit! You are at WORK, albeit at home. And at the very least, he shouod respect that.

@SuperficialSuzie I would make that a permanent arrangement if I were you, he sounds like a keeper!

He sounds like he needs a kick up the backside.
I’m wfh so DH is looking after our 2yr old, and bringing me the occasional coffee. On the odd day I take her for a walk to give him a break. Wkend he Gets more time to himself.

Stop enabling him!
Better still stop enabling him and allowing him to act like a twat

DH and I are both juggling wfh and dealing with the dc etc. We just had 15 minutes sat peacefully in the garden together and it was lovely. Your dh appears to be a twat.

Oh dear. He thinks he's on holiday and you're the Staff.
Sorry, OP.

He is working. We are sharing the childcare. If he wasn’t, he’d be doing it all.

My DP is working from home whilst also doing an open university degree in computer science so doing three modules whilst also taking calls constantly as he is an IT technician for a school he’s so busy and is also cooking dinner a lot.

I’m a PGCE student so doing that remotely and an essay and all the cleaning, tea making etc, I’m busy too but whatever I can do to help him as he’s run off his feet. It’s quite an even split. Your DH sounds like a liability, and he is being very very selfish.

Oh no OP I wouldn’t have that, needs to be shared out.

We're both working from home. We have very similar jobs and exactly the same salaries BUT his work from home is way more important and difficult than mine!! Consequently, I get complaints if I suggest he should as much as take a turn at making us both a cup of tea!!

Why have you let this go on longer than a day?

It is not "lucky" vs "sucker".

It is doormat vs assertive for you.

It is selfish vs considerate for him.

How on earth did you both get to a point where he would think this behaviour acceptable and you would actively enable and encourage him to behave like this by picking up his share of the work for him?

Sorry, ‘let’ sounds like you’re responsible for him. You’re not. He’s a rude sod who doesn’t respect you. He needs telling in no uncertain terms he’s being an arsehole

Def needs to pull his weight more. I’m also feeling p’d off with my DH. He’s a teacher so has been off last 3 weeks while I work full time from home. I’ve still being making kids breakfast, lunch, dinner most days while he’s been outside playing football with his family who live nearby and don’t seem to understand social distancing, drinking beer in evenings etc. Like he’s on holiday and I still have to do clothes washing, cleaning surfaces, grocery shopping at weekend etc. Drives me insane! Any attempts from me to try and get him to do more results in arguments and rows.

Your husband is being a lazy sod. Me and my husband are both working full time from home, and splitting chores evenly in our free time as usual.

cheesy so if there's a row do you back down? Does he persist in doing nothing? Do you keep quiet to avoid a row?

He is working full time from home and try to do more at home too. I’m a sahm

He is furloughed and as well as getting some dedicated gaming in he is doing at least 50% of the housework and cooking. I'm a teacher working from home but also in once a week, including 'holiday', so he does everything on the day I'm in school. Kids are teenagers so need very little from us.

Dp was made redundant, refuse to furlough them. I am WFH.

So he is getting up with me, we have a coffee, my kids are usually asleep then (dop isnt their dad).

When I start work dp wakes the kids up and supervised them all day. Though one is 15 and doesnt need anything. But the younger one does.

He makes us all breakfast and lunch a d makes sure I have a good supply of coffee.

In between this he is building the decking outside.

Why on earth are you home schooling and WFH?