Macabre, but have you written letters to your partners and kids just in case?

[Pansypath]

I have been meaning to do this anyway as enough friends have passed away from illnesses and other tragedies. But this pandemic is focussing the mind somewhat.

[TheSheepofWallSt]

Yes.

Am a single parent and I have written to DS and a letter to DM.
DS father is immune compromised and lives in central London. He’s made his will.

[YouAreTheEggManIAmTheWalrus]

I started to do this at the beginning of March for DS, it’s actually become a letter entitled What I Want You to Know and What I Wish I Knew at 16.
I decided he’ll get it whether I live or die because it contains some pretty awesome wisdom within.

[Pansypath]

so sorry @Iwant2move

[istheresomethingwrongwithme]

I write my boys a letter on their birthday each year. I write all sorts about their past 12 months, the things they have done and what they are like as they grow up, as well as telling them how special they are and how much I love them.

They go in a sealed envelope with their age on and in their baby memory boxes. Then they aren't 'letters before I die' as such, but a record of our lives as a family and I reminder that I always loved them.

DH hasn't seen the content of the letters, it's literally from me to them. He knows where they are though, should I croke it. I should probably tell someone else, in case we both go in a car crash or something. Maybe I'll ask our solicitor to add a note in our will.

I lost my sister when I was 14. She was 24. She was ill for a long time with a very rare disease. Even though she was poorly for so long, the disease was so rare that the doctors couldn't really predict her outcome, so it felt like a bolt out of nowhere when she died. I'm at peace with it now (although I miss her terribly), so I wouldn't say it makes me paranoid about death, but I don't really have anything material that links me to her so I'm probably more conscious of it.