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Wtf

37 replies

PenelopePeachStone · 04/04/2020 10:59

So h is a police officer and is worried about bringing home the virus.
He has been in contact with confirmed cases and I totally understand the worry.

We’re taking precautions eg his work stuff goes in a special box and uniform straight in wash etc...

However he wants to move to his mums so as not to pass the virus to our dd (8 months)

I said his mum would be in a much worse position if she was to catch it from him and he says she’ll move in with me and baba to ‘Help’

Is he for real? She’s been angling for this since lockdown started and the answer from me is no. His answer was also no until yesterday afternoon so presumably she’s been working on him. It’s just so she gets to be near my baby.

I like his mum in small doses but she is passive aggressive, covertly critical and never shuts up.

I like quiet in my own space and I don’t want to share my house with her.

According to h I’m selfish and clueless ( for pointing out that lockdown rules forbid this and that is he has brought the dreaded bug home there’s every chance we’re already carrying it - then it gets passed to his mum - she’s over 60) again it’s gonna hit her hardest if it hits.

He’s been so nasty about this

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ThanosSavedMe · 04/04/2020 11:01

No no no no no. He is not the lord and master that gets to make all decisions.

I get he’s trying to protect everyone but good god no

BanginChoons · 04/04/2020 11:04

I would also say no to this. Take reasonable precautions. Young children are the least affected group.

elQuintoConyo · 04/04/2020 11:05

Whaaaaaaaaaaat? Nonononononono.

You've got me breathing into a paper bag!

"You move out - you stay out. And nobody is moving in." End of discussion.

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PenelopePeachStone · 04/04/2020 11:44

Thanks peeps he has me thinking I’m unreasonable it twigged when I went for my walk that’s it’s not selfish to not want someone living in my house commenting on how I look after my baby...

As an aside he also asked how I’m going to get food in if she’s not here.... now that sounds like a nasty thing designed to scare me just trot along with whatever he says...

Don’t mean to drip feed but my mind dosent remember everything in order when I’m stressed xx

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MirrorGold · 04/04/2020 11:50

That food comment is horrible, does he normally have controlling abusive tendencies?

PertEllaTitsahoy · 04/04/2020 11:54

Tell him you will get food in the exact same way everyone else is - by going to the shops as infrequently as possible whilst taking all reasonable precautions to not spread or contract the virus.

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PenelopePeachStone · 04/04/2020 12:11

PertElla that’s exactly what I did say and apparently I’m not allowed to take the baby out to the shops...

Mirror he’s stroppy when he doesn’t get his own way yes .... think I’ve successfully drawn a veil over a lot of what he does but I’ve started writing it down now - hidden and saved online x

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EL8888 · 04/04/2020 12:23

Nonono! Sounds like a nightmare. Seriously, does anyone want to live their MIL?

maddy68 · 04/04/2020 12:24

Just no

coronade · 04/04/2020 12:26

What would he say if you suggested he move in with just your mum for the next 3 mths!!

YgritteSnow · 04/04/2020 12:28

His answer was also no until yesterday afternoon so presumably she’s been working on him. It’s just so she gets to be near my baby

I don't understand, is he planning to take your child with him? Either way the answer is absolutely not!

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PenelopePeachStone · 04/04/2020 12:30

Coronade it would be a straight up no.

Which has just reminded me , he also used the ‘conversation’ to get a dig in about my mum not helping- she’s in the sheilded group due to copd /old (love you mum Smile) and works at the hospital (sterile services)

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Grobagsforever · 04/04/2020 12:31

Sounds like he fancies a few weeks off parenting.

EL8888 · 04/04/2020 12:34

@coronade good question! Mind you my partner doesn’t want to live with my mum or his mum Grin

FaFoutis · 04/04/2020 12:35

I nearly had a panic attack reading that. God no.

Connie222 · 04/04/2020 12:37

Fuck that.

YgritteSnow · 04/04/2020 12:37

Oh got it she's going to move in with you?!

Oh he sounds like an absolute twat. I honestly can't believe what I am reading. Is he the type to keep bullying into doing it?

wonderstuff · 04/04/2020 12:42

You can take baby to shops, there was some confusion and some shops refused entry to kids yesterday or the day before, but it seems common sense prevailed and supermarkets are saying only one adult in each group now.

wonderstuff · 04/04/2020 12:43

I would absolutely agree with you that his mum moving in is a crazy idea.

JudyCoolibar · 04/04/2020 12:44

Ask him why he wants to put his mother at risk. The risk to her is much greater than the risk to the baby.

scaryreading · 04/04/2020 12:45

He can shop for you?

Yanbu

TreeTopTim · 04/04/2020 12:46

He sounds controlling and abusive. Think he needs to be moving out and staying out even when this is over with.

JudyCoolibar · 04/04/2020 12:47

PertElla that’s exactly what I did say and apparently I’m not allowed to take the baby out to the shops...

He doesn't get to tell you what you're "not allowed" to do when it's perfectly legal. Even if that were the case, the answer would obviously be for him to do the shopping or look after the baby.

I must say, it's quite worrying that a police officer is as thick as your husband appears to be.

Redwinestillfine · 04/04/2020 12:50

No movement between households now. If he wants her to move in after this is all over you'll discuss it then....

TheReluctantCountess · 04/04/2020 12:54

You can’t mix the households now.