Alcohol dependency - shopping at the minute

[40somethingJBJ]

I’m shopping for an elderly relative who has an alcohol issue. Obviously, top of their list is cider but I’m really struggling to get enough. I know I probably shouldn’t be enabling them, but I don’t feel now is the right time to attempt to force anyone to go cold turkey.

I’ve managed to get some on my Asda click and collect order for tomorrow, but I have no deliveries or collections booked for after that, as I can manage with a butchers delivery and a veg box, and I’m not really wanting to go into a supermarket just to fetch bloody cider!

Is there anywhere I can order online? He just drinks the cheap 2l bottles. Any advice appreciated! Thanks :)

Don't be tempted to offer emergency replacements that has cost me a bottle of gin and a bottle of whisky already.
He knew they were on my shelf and I thought he might use them as a replacement but he just drank that as well as the bloody cider
He's really indulging at the moment after being in hospital before Xmas and coming out dry

As selfish as this is I want to keep him ticking over because I'm scared he will top himself and I will have to clear his hoarded shit from his flat.

He just isn't anywhere near quitting and being a CF would absolutely waste anyone's time for his drink.
Could do without it.

My mum is having the same problem with her alcoholic husband - plus he has dementia to add to the joy. He will only drink beer (some survival instinct in him knows spirits are a slippery slope) but he needs 10-12 cans a day. His mental health nurse doesn't take it seriously as it is just beer. It is a major job for her getting 80 tins a week to keep him going.

Sorry for the rant I know many people are facing worse.

"It is a major job for her getting 80 tins a week to keep him going."

Bloody hell, selfish bastard
especially atm

Your poor mum, Navigator

I honestly wouldn't have the patience with all that and trotting around like a packhorse.

If they can't get it online they'd be rationed 2 cans per day!

Bloody hell, selfish bastard

Yup, he really is. She should have left him years ago (she should never have married him) but he has Alzheimers and vascular dementia and she is now stuck. She cannot cut off his supply, I dread to think what would happen. He is on tranquilisers but has stopped taking them. My mum has always been extraordinarily passive where he is concerned plus I think she is scared of him. I try not to get involved beyond providing emotional support - I don't want to go down the road of having to provide alchohol for a belligerant alchohlic I have always loathed.

OP, I know you're genuinely trying to support this person, but don't put yourself at risk by making extra trips to the shops.

I said I'd happily do shopping for an elderly couple opposite, she has COPD. I did have to point out it would be for essentials only as I'm already shopping for someone else and can't cope with a large trolley. They refused, and he's getting his wife to get his stash, even though he's perfectly capable.

The trouble is, if you have an alchohol dependency then alchohol is an essential.

If the limit is 4 bottles, then tell him 'the limit is 4 bottles' . And he'll have to use a smaller glass so it looks as much. (might be worth suggesting thi, or taking him a smaller glass)