Mums partner has just left the house

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To go and collect his daughter from university 300 miles away..

Him and his daughter are both adults so can now find somewhere else to stay cant they. Dont let them back in. I have a business in healthcare and have just heard a GP encouraging people to look at their advanced directives for where they want to die, resuscitation etc. The next few weeks will be horrific so you cannot be taking risks.

No way I'd be separated from my child during this

Completely agree. He is not even bringing her back home he is taking her back to her mums .

He might well find road blocks and not being able to provide legitimate proof for being out and about will hamper his attempt!

It really depends of she has been isolating whilst at uni or not. If she has then she can come back into the house with no problem. If she has been mixing she need to be isolated for a period in their home. Does she have access to her own room?

Really need more information than you have provided. Is it the partners home too? Why is she coming home now? Most students were sent home weeks ago.

Ah ok. So he isn't bringing her to their home. TBH if my DD was 300 miles away I would go and get her too. No question.

Well she can't stay at Uni indefinitely, she's going to have to come back at some point. For all we know in 3 weeks we'll be told not to leave our houses at all. If he goes straight there, drops her at her mums and has no contact with anyone else it's not a massive issue unless your DM is shielding.

So?

What would you have preferred to happen?

Parents all over the country are doing similar as Uni accommodation is closing, and to avoid more potential infection in public transport.

What does your Mum think?

So little info, how are we supposed to react?

600 miles is a lot to drive in a day.

Wouldn’t you?

And so many people are always slating fathers for not doing enough

Sorry , she is in Newcastle with her boyfriend in a house they share with other people . Just worries me really

I presume your worry is for your mum. It's not unreasonable for your mums partner to be worried for his daughter. Not at all.

My dd is self isolating in her uni accommodation, I'm collecting next week and counting down the days!!

Given the relative regional infection rates, if he’s picking her up from Newcastle and taking her to London/South-East then he’s probably got more risk of infecting her. Absolutely makes sense to get university students home now, I’d be doing it for my kids.

He’s bringing his DD home as have may many people, it’s none of your business.
I’m sure you’d do it yourself.

Goldenorbsoider This is not a child he is going to collect, we cant all be with our adult children during this and travelling for no reason is stupid and dangerous

This was mentioned on the news earlier and was deemed to be ok as a one off.

Why is it being suggested not to let them back in? People are leaving the house for the shops and to go to work and have to come back into the family home. As long as she doesn’t have symptoms I can understand why he is doing it and I know a lot of parents around the country who are too.

Don't care how old they are, my child I'd be doing exactly the same

If your child was 300 miles away you wouldin no doubt collect them this imo is an essential journey he can not touch her and wash his clothes when he gets back.

A young adult child at university is still quite different from an adult who can live totally fine away from home.
I have my 2 young adults home from uni and am glad they’re here, safe and sound.

This is not a child he is going to collect, we cant all be with our adult children during this

This is true. However it is not unreasonable to help them. The idea that they are not a child is bonkers. They are still loved family members.

Mumsnet is so horrible about children over the age of about 8 🙄 - I would drive the length of the country to collect mine if that's what was required.

Not a child SO SHOULD NOT BE HELPED is bonkers - that should read

I know it's worrying but I think most people would class collecting their child essential. I suppose he feels he has no choice.

There's still lots of us going in and out of our homes for work. Not ideal but all we can do is minimise risk where we can.