Anyone else not see the point in doing anything?

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This could go on for months / years. I can’t see the point in getting dressed. Or eating. Or doing anything with the house. I know it’s the same for everyone but I feel like there’s no happiness or anything to look forward to - apart from eventually coming out of isolation and catching cv anyway and as I’m in a high risk group it may kill me anyhow.
I’m a one woman entertainment team for my dc for 14 hours a day and I hate it. Im too tired to show any enthusiasm. I just want to sleep and sleep and sleep. My parents are elderly and I might never see them again if this lasts for two years. I understand this is everyone’s new normal but I feel a bit like - this isn’t living, being locked in the house waiting to catch a virus.
I understand why and we will adhere to it but there is a large large part of me that wants to just give up now.

The point of doing it is to look after your mental health, which is clearly already taking a hit

It may go on a long time yes, but the plan is to have periods of time where the rules are relaxed a bit. Waves of supression. It won't always be lockdown x

But what does that relaxation look like? It looks like this basically, because this will get tighter and we won’t be able to go out to exercise.
So no seeing friends or family for two years.

Yep. Feel exactly the same. Live on my own.

Sorry you are feeling this way. Try to keep going with the little things. Call your parents every day. Get a wash on. Have your daily exercise with the DC. Make something nice for lunch. Enjoy a nice sit down in the garden (if you have one).
The latest restrictions are a good thing. It means fewer people will die. By staying put you are doing your bit.
It won't be like this for years.

You're catastrophising. Lockdowns in China are being relaxed. Germany has flattened the curve. Italy is levelling out. If people behave themselves things will be much closer to normal in a.few months.

Keep in a routine. Shower and fresh clothes every day. Do some exercise at home. Do something creative. Journal. Use guided meditation to help you sleep. Eat healthy. Video call your parents. One foot in front of the other, one day at a time.

I think I’d feel better if I felt the restrictions would make any difference but I don’t.
As many people will die, but just over a longer period of time and some more will die in lockdown because they can’t get food / medicine / dv / suicide.

I’ve got kids and we’ve created a daily schedule to keep some structure during the day. I think I will find it more helpful than they will to be honest but they seem to be engaged with it too. Could you do something like that? Create some structure and routine? And focus on doing something positive for yourself? I’m planning on doing some online learning. Future learn do some free courses. We are also doing joe wicks every morning to keep active and this morning I got up early and walked laps around the garden (we are self isolating so can’t get out of the house).

The problem is my youngest dc is up about 7am and my oldest doesn’t go to be until 10pm so I get no time at all.

Less people will die, this is why we’re doing this. It’s so less people get sick at once and to minimise the impact of that on the NHS. The modelling by imperial college shows it

How old are the kids op?

I think some structure helps, getting showered and dressed helps, keeping the house clean and tidy helps, for me anyway.

You could go out for a walk. This won’t last forever.

'I Think I’d feel better if I felt the restrictions would make any difference but I don’t.
As many people will die, but just over a longer period of time and some more will die in lockdown because they can’t get food / medicine / dv / suicide'

The restrictions will make a huge difference. With them models show around 25,000 people will die (equilivalent to a bad flu year) and without it could be 500,000 dead.

Also the lockdown does not need to last long, if everyone adheres restrictions could be lifted in weeks. There will be further waves of ifection before we get a vaccine but by then we will have anti virals to treat it, more immunity in the population which will slow the spread and more ventilators in the hospitals.

You're hardly not going to be able to see people for 2 years...come on now!

I don’t know. They said the war would be over by Christmas - four years later...
It’s that sort of feel to it.
I think we are talking years here. Not weeks or months.

It may be 2 years max until a vaccine but it will not be 2 years of constant restrictions. Probably a few weeks on and a few weeks off. Plus restrictions will gradually reduce with each wave of infection.

Structure helps. I'm planning on still showering, getting dressed, getting DC dressed, behaving as if it's a normal day. We are starting the day with online exercising with Joe Wicks then some kind of timetable for home learning. Eating meals at normal times, the same things we would have if we were at work/school. Then going out for an hour of fresh air in an open space in the afternoon.

Having no routine and giving up will make you feel worse. It's difficult, I hate being stuck at home, I'm an extrovert and thrive on spending time with my family and friends. But this is what needs to be done.

The quicker we adhere to the rules, the quicker we will be back to normal.

I also hate being at home and doing stuff at home with the children, it’s beyond boring. Usually in the holidays I take them out every day, all day. Dd is 3 and the days she isn at preschool we are out.
I hate baking and craft and reading. I keep seeing photos on fb of people’s dc doing things and I think - why don’t I feel like that? Part of the issue is I find being a parent deathly boring and now that is ALL I am doing.

The current situation is going to be reviewed in 3 weeks. I'm sorry you feel his you do but try not to think in terms of 2 years as that will seem like an insurmountable hurdle. (No-one knows but there isn't any reason to think it will last that long and certainly this level of lockdown won't).

Are you on medication and being treated for depression? You, sadly, seem to be caught up in a very negative frame of mind.

Why would you assume you will catch CV and die? If you follow the rules you will be protecting yourself and your family as much as possible.

Can you video phone your parents regularly to keep in contact? We are doing this to keep people like your parents alive for you to enjoy happy times with.

Look at what we can do, not at what we can't:
We can still go out infrequently to shop for food and medicine.
You can go out for a walk with your child once a day.
You can watch TV, listen to the radio, read, do a puzzle, soak in the bath, do any other indoor pursuits you normally do, enjoy social media, phone friends and family.
You can spring clean your home, enjoy your garden if you have one.

There are so many things we can do. Try not to focus on what you can't do.

It's a lovely sunny day today. The birds are singing lovely tunes to us. Try and find a little bit of happiness in everything that is good. There will be happy times again for you in the future but just try and get through these more difficult times as best as you can.

No specific tips OP, just wanted to say that I (and most of my friends) are in the same boat - active 2 year old; no down time; elderly parents needing food drops; DP trying to work from home so care of toddler falls almost exclusively to me.

Yesterday DD did 6am - 9pm with an hour’s nap in the middle (she doesn’t always nap). We’d been out for a long walk but she still wasn’t tired enough to sleep in the evening. It’s relentless. We’re in a small London house with a tiny north facing urban garden and we don’t have a huge number of toys because we don’t have the space and wanted DD to have lots of experiences rather than material stuff - that obviously went well!

All the posters suggesting reading/meditation/gardening/learning a new language clearly mean well, but I wonder how many of them have preschoolers at home. I love all of those things and would feel completely differently about lockdown if it was just me and DP, but with DD in the mix it’s a whole different (and much more stressful) kettle of fish.

I am getting dressed daily ( not smartly ) I am brushing my hair . I am still showering .
I might not be putting on make up , perfume , washing my hair daily.

Oh, and all the people posting about how clean everyone’s houses are going to be after this clearly don’t have toddlers with cabin fever in the mix!

What you're doing is imagining the worst case scenario, thinking you're doomed either way. On balance I would think if everyone adheres to the rules it will dramatically slow it right down, plus hopefully won't be long before a vaccine is ready. There are alot of people who won't find these times easy, people who thrive on socialising won't. There are people who it won't affect much at all. I sympathise with parents, it's hard enough as it is. I sometimes now wonder how I coped with my two, as they went (only for 3 years) to private school and the holidays were LONG. Ten weeks for summer, four Christmas and Easter. Then the other odd week.

No, I feel the exact opposite. I am continuing to train, work and socialise (online) DH and I have put a jigsaw on the table and we both work on it as and when. We have planned a card evening tonight.

I really believe a positive attitude will help us emerge from this in a mentally good state.

Give it a try OP as it might help

I get no privacy. I wanted to phone a friend last night who I’d usually see most weeks and dh said no. It’s just hard.

Well. I could call. As long as I stayed downstairs so he could hear what I was saying