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I’ve raised a son with no fucking brain cells ,

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Sopissedofwithmyson · 21/03/2020 12:40

So back from uni
19 years old ,out at the pub last night ,today he tells me ,he’s still planning on playing footy with his old school mates ,no intention of staying in.

I’ve walked the dog this morning,the park I walked past was full of families all laughing and kids running round ,I counted 20 kids in the park on swings and slides
Walking the dog ,the whole world seemed to be out ,I never walk past that many people Usually on a Saturday morning.

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ShesGotBetteDavisEyes · 21/03/2020 14:06

My son was due to come home from uni today but has just rang to say he’s ill and going to self-isolate (in his tiny room with no one else around) and isn’t coming back for at least two weeks. I’m worried and upset about him obviously but I’m also so proud of him for putting us first. I think this time last year he would’ve just come home and not said anything as he’d have wanted his home comforts. He’s really taking it seriously though.
He’s always been quite selfish and thoughtless so this really meant a lot to me and brought home how much he’s matured. I actually think a lot of the young are very worried about it.

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musicposy · 21/03/2020 14:06

This is why I’ve made DD stay at uni, though I think she’s being more sensible than that. Her housemates aren’t, however.

Time to get tough, OP. He starts acting responsibly or he goes back to uni. Lay down the law, it’s your house.

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Oblomov20 · 21/03/2020 14:10

You will just to insist he follows the rules OP.
We wouldn't need a lock down if people weren't so selfish.

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catwithflowers · 21/03/2020 14:10

@KonTikki. Has that news just been announced, about extending the lockdown to a month? We are currently in Spain (and adhering very strictly to the rules) and are gobsmacked that after everything that’s been on the news and in the press and social media, people still think meeting up with their mates for a coffee or a chat in the park is acceptable. 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

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nicknackpaddy · 21/03/2020 14:12

Interestingly, I am the one who has been called 'not nice'

There's a reason for that.

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noego · 21/03/2020 14:15

He'll be crying for his mummy when he gets it. I've had it and it is not pleasant, especially the tight chest and breathing difficulty.

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user1477391263 · 21/03/2020 14:18

Actually, chances are he will get mild symptoms or none at all. The virus is spreading efficiently in part because so many people are not much affected by it.

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SonjaMorgan · 21/03/2020 14:18

Teenagers feel invincible and in this situation they are unlikely to be affected.

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FenellaVelour · 21/03/2020 14:18

You guys are being unrealistic if you think the rest of the world of 20/30 somethings is going to put their lives on hold for this.

So what you’re saying is we’ve raised a generation of selfish idiots?

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Blondiney · 21/03/2020 14:19

All my usually deserted dog walking routes have been clogged up with people these last few days. I'm going to switch to night time walks until my anxiety subsides a bit.

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UntamedWisteria · 21/03/2020 14:25

My DS asked if it would be OK to see a couple of mates to play football.

I just said No.

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MilkTrayLimeBarrel · 21/03/2020 14:26

People are just stupid in general. Do they not get it? DH and I, although not quite in the 'vulnerable' or 'elderly' groups, stopped going out last week. He is working from home - we are not allowing anyone into the house at all. Deliveries are put in a large box on the doorstep and apart from perishable items are left there for 2 days, other stuff wiped down. Cardboard boxes discarded outside along with post envelopes and junk mail. Hands thoroughly washed after handling this stuff. Walking the dog to the beach in the morning - we cross the road if we someone approaching us. Is that OTT or just being cautious?

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PeterPanGoesWrong · 21/03/2020 14:29

First word of your title gives the clue. You raised him. Nobody else did.
Have you not taught him to be a bit more thoughtful?

Lock him out, tell him to stay with his mates.

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KonTikki · 21/03/2020 14:31

Catwithflowers
Spoke with daughter on Sype at lunchtime today. She mentioned it and she speaks good Spanish. Probably heard it on the radio.
Might just be Madrid though ?

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Samtsirch · 21/03/2020 14:35

LOL
Mumsnet should be renamed Bitchfest
You are all so lovely 😊

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Sopissedofwithmyson · 21/03/2020 14:37

Peterpangoeswrong
Cheers for that ,I was feeling shit about not being able to keep him in ,and you just confirmed what I was thinking ,that it’s all my fault ,cheers ,I will just go and jump of the nearest bridge then

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justasking111 · 21/03/2020 14:39

My DS back from uni. suggested himself he was going to self isolate at home. Surprisingly mature. However, the young can thing that they are immortal it is the way of things. You can of course throw him out, but there is little else you can do.

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pictish · 21/03/2020 14:43

peterpan such a bold statement. Did you get a wee thrill of self importance as you bashed that judgemental crap out? Hope so.

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Alialialiali · 21/03/2020 14:44

So what you’re saying is we’ve raised a generation of selfish idiots?

lol, yes. I mean in the grand scheme of things I think it's true.
I really can't see them all staying inside the house instead of going to pubs, clubs, football, work etc for 6 months???

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caz114 · 21/03/2020 14:46

My Asda delivery driver was a hero to me this morning as he delivered shopping that I could not get out to get myself. Disabled and keeping myself in isolation for my and others safety.

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BeardyButton · 21/03/2020 14:49

Actually, it might be the case that the particular young man mentioned here who applied for a role at tesco is far from heroic. From that post, it seems to imply he is carrying on life as normal and has applied for a role at tesco. Doing this is probably putting a lot of people at risk as he has ann oppurtunity to spread the virus.

If he applied for the role to help people. If he was taking even more care than he usually would as he knew he might inadvertently spread the virus to vulnerable people? Then he d be a hero.

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LINABE · 21/03/2020 14:53

Hero's were 18 year olds sent to the Front line. These days overall - Cossetted, spoilt and selfish - but not all. Total Lockdown needs to be brought in and NOW. We MUST follow Europe.

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rowyaboat · 21/03/2020 15:01

if stopped out in the street without a good reason there are very heavy fines

I'm wondering what cheaters and drug addicts/users would do in this situation?

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TooTrueToBeGood · 21/03/2020 15:09

I'm sorry but even in hard times like this a temp job stacking shelves does not make one a hero

Ordinarily I'd agree with you. However, having heard the vile behaviour my daughter (Tesco worker) and her colleagues have been exposed to these last few days I think it's deserved. They've been sworn at, accused of being liars, threatened with violence and one was spat on. Several have been reduced to tears. I was very close to going in to protect her the other day but I'd end up in the jail.

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sarahC40 · 21/03/2020 15:10

Not making a particular claim for heroism for my 19 year old, but he’s very aware that his job in shelf stacking is pretty essential and he knows that he and I (teacher who’ll be at work on Monday) are at greater risk of getting or shedding the virus, so we are being super careful. However I am genuinely fucked off that the shoppers at Waitrose yesterday were abusive and aggressive to the younger workers in the store to the extent that my 6 ft 3inch son had to guard the remaining loo roll for two hours. Fucking idiots. So I am proud of my son’s efforts to do his part.

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