Hi All
Similar to the wedding cancellation/Coronavirus threads, I have a sad dilemma.
My partner’s lovely mum sadly passed away shortly before CV infection reached the U.K. and her funeral and wake are next Friday.
We are in London, and in a borough with an infection rate in the top ten nationally to boot. Neither of us have symptoms and we’re staying at home as a precaution. Funeral is in his home town 2 hour drive away.
It would be stupid and irresponsible for us to go, we’d risk ourselves not to mention accidentally spreading it to other areas of the country from London. I know this. DP and family don’t seem to have grasped it at all. Can’t blame them really...they are consumed by grief and not paying proper attention to news bless them.
I feel a responsibility to raise it with them, warn them there might be disruption, talk to DP about the possibility of us not going or making alternative arrangements - highlighting the issue to them which they’ve missed while they are so distracted by grief if that makes sense.
But I worry it won’t be taken well, sticking my nose in when they’re having such a bad time. Plus how in earth can I not support my lovely DP at his mum’s funeral in his time of grief, or encourage him not to go. Aargh.
To be clear, DP and his whole family are really lovely, kind and considerate and we all get on well. They’re just floored by grief and not thinking straight.
I’ve raised it gently with a couple of them, but it’s a bit like water off a duck’s back. I’ll need to be blunt to raise the question of whether they should make it a smaller event, reconsider travel plans etc, which could go down badly.
But, it looks like London will go into lockdown shortly, so I’m wondering if I might avoid those difficult conversations as it will be taken out of my hands. I’m leaning towards this approach. But I’m not sure if lockdown would prevent Londoners like us visiting e.g the Midlands? Also will it happen in time for next Friday?
What do you think wise mumsnetters?:
YABU: I need to face up to it now and have those conversations with DP and family.
YANBU: Wait until Monday. London might well be in lockdown and we won’t be allowed to drive there anyway.
Thanks
Can I also add, I don’t mean to be glib about the circumstances we face or the terrible consequences of London isolation by raising it in connection with my dilemma which is nothing in comparison. I am fully on board with the severity and part of my concern is the risk we might inadvertently spread it if we do go. I’m just confused about what a London lockdown might mean, and trying to find a solution that won’t cause too much upset for DP and family when they are already going through such sad times.