Should I cancel mother's day plans

[Booyoo]

I had planned to take my mum out for an afternoon tea for mother's day. She is 51 so not elderly or vulnerable. I feel bad cancelling as I had booked into a local tea room and they will probably lose a lot of business but in light of today's announcement would you cancel?

Why are restaurants not being told to close if we're not allowed to go to them?

Yes cancel. I won't be seeing my mum on Mother's Day as she is in self isolation. I would rather she is around for mother's days to come then risk passing it to her on this one.

I was due to have DM and MIL here. Both are healthy and under 70 but DH is asthmatic (uses a preventer but well managed).

WWYD in that situation??

Oh, fuck cooking a meal at home! Get a takeaway delivered.

I’m also wondering why they’re not closing. But on the ch4 news though the he said we’re not telling you to not to go to restaurants and theatres we’re just advising you not to...

Cancel please for everyone's sake.

Until I'm told I can not go to any restaurants, pubs, leisure facilities, etc, I will still be going.

@FusionChefGeoff if you are all healthy then it should be ok. The over 70s are allowed visitors and to see people as long as everyone is well

“SilverPepperOfTheStars

Until I'm told I can not go to any restaurants, pubs, leisure facilities, etc, I will still be going.”

Why would you do that? It’s utterly Irresponsible.

Cancel. Or it might be your last Mother's Day with your mother.

Think about that.

Because I have children at school, and I go out to work 5 days a week to a job in retail, that I get to via public transport. Going out for a couple of hours to a restaurant is the least of my worries.

@SilverPepperOfTheStars and people like you are what worries the majority of us. As long are you’re alright eh?

You're right. I'm an extremely selfish person.

I think the government don’t want to be the ones to say everything has to close. Because then they are responsible for making the decision for so many people to lose jobs. They are saying it in a roundabout way so the restaurants etc have to make the decisions to close themselves as they have no custom and can’t afford to stay open.

They just need to take responsibility and tell them to close else, like in this thread, people won’t stop going

If you feel bad for the restaurant, buy a gift voucher.

They will appreciate the cash injection at this tough time.

Ooooh calm down folks!

Let's think about this.

If the op is well and the tearoom lady is well then chances of it being a hot spot are low. She wouldn't be doing anything wrong by going and all of you cooking at home will still be going to shops for food yes?

Chances of a small business going under in these circumstances oth, v high.

Personally I would go. If public health requires closure of businesses then that's what will happen. That's not what's happened.

If you don't want to go then ring them up and pay for the meal anyway. That would help them.

If it's not a mass gathering then no I would not cancel, and I am in the high risk group. You have far more people walking about your local supermarket!

Wonder if we all followed the Governments reactive advice, how do teachers work from home?
How is a school not classed as a mass gathering?

Kateplaysrugbyinmydreams and Katri999.

Thank you, the voices of reason.

One option might be to ask for take away. Then they still get your business but with reduced social contact.

No you absolutely shouldn't go, buy a voucher and go another time.

Yes do cancel but you can do a really nice afternoon tea at home, give her some flowers and she will certainly be happy with that.

We have cancelled Mother’s Day , FIL’s birthday and my daughters birthday shopping trip.
Everyone needs to start taking the advice seriously

PS: Having read some other replies, maybe I'm wrong. Perhaps I should shut up, what do I know? :-) Kateplaysrugby sounds sensible.

At the end of the day (or month) - it's up to you, op!

Initially my state tried getting people to behave sensibly without banning things just putting advice out.
Sadly there were far too many, I'm all right jack types, so they have now shut all restaurants etc down.
If people aren't capable of following government advice in the UK I can only assume they will have to do the same.
The curve won't flatten itself.