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To not go to work (covid19)

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JenWren22 · 14/03/2020 20:25

I am a secondary school teacher and also the prime carer for my very sick mum. I am not concerned about he virus for myself but what if I pass it on to mum. I am in close proximity to 150 kids a day. I am not a prone to melodrama but it a risk i dont think I should have to take. I would really appreciate views (even if you disagree!) thank in advance.

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Izzybuzzybuzzybees · 14/03/2020 20:26

This should be in the dedicated thread for starters.

If you are showing no symptoms then you should be at work. The whole world can’t just stop ‘just in case’.

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JenWren22 · 14/03/2020 20:28

thanks sorry i didnt know there was a dedicated thread - ill move it

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Worriedmum54321 · 14/03/2020 20:28

You should stay off work. The schools will be closed soon anyway, definitely by the end of this week.

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JenWren22 · 14/03/2020 20:30

thanks worriedmum

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Darbs76 · 14/03/2020 20:30

Tricky. Can someone else care for your mum?

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JenWren22 · 14/03/2020 20:30

where do i find the dedicated thread?

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Seven8nine · 14/03/2020 20:30

Yanbu to worry but you could still pick it up anyway unless you complexly self isolate and not mix with anyone who is still out and about.

Seven8nine · 14/03/2020 20:31

Under health

themarkofthemaker · 14/03/2020 20:33

typical teacher

Worriedmum54321 · 14/03/2020 20:35

typical teacher What's that supposed to mean? Cares about her elderly mother? Sensible in weighing up risks?

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JenWren22 · 14/03/2020 20:37

That is not very nice markofthemaker. Why would you say that?

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Lotuscup563 · 14/03/2020 20:39

That’s was nasty! You don’t deserve that OP.

I wouldn’t bother asking opinions, what do you feel is the right thing for your and your situation....then do that.

PotsofChoc · 14/03/2020 20:41

I work in an open plan office with approx 100 others and can’t decide not to go in because I would lose my job. In one sense you’re in a fortunate position because schools will likely be closed in a week or so.

themarkofthemaker · 14/03/2020 20:42

Typical teacher.

Because most people have elderly relatives. You are being self-entitled.

What happens to the education and life chances of the children you fail?

What if everyone had your attitude? Everyone would have to take time off work or ask elderly relatives to look after the children (and therefore expose them)

My sister works in a hospital in central London where there are Coronavirus patients. What would happen if they just said "fuck you" to the people who depend on them? Society would collapse.

Stop being self entitled

Doggybiccys · 14/03/2020 20:42

Me and DH started a bet on who would be first to self isolate at our respective works as soon as it became advised - we were both right! I get that people are worried for loved ones (I’m worried for my DFIL who has terminal lung cancer) and I am in a health care profession - so if I self isolate when I’m fine who is going to shop for him / make sure he’s okay? So OP, I think YABU - you know the advice and you can still take care of your mum and go to work if you follow precautions. Imagine all our doctors, nurses, physios, OTs, paramedics etc did what you are suggesting! Many more would die. What this crisis has shown me is the absolute selfishness of so many of the population

Oly4 · 14/03/2020 20:43

If you have no symptoms then you go to work like the rest of us.
And there is nothing to suggest schools will close at the end of the week.

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JenWren22 · 14/03/2020 20:43

Seven8nine but I am going to exposed to 300 kids in 2 days with all the germs (for want of a better word) etc they bring from their families (I am in big multi cultural city). It a lot of possible people to pass on a virus. I have taught for 29 years and not had a day off sick in 27 years. My first couple of years i was prone to pick up things but nothing for years. I have no immunity to covid19 so worried I could carry it to mum.

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Seven8nine · 14/03/2020 20:49

Do what you feel is right OP, no need to justify, you asked for views and that was mine for what it’s worth. I don’t mean to cause upset.

MissDemelzaCarne · 14/03/2020 20:50

all the germs (for want of a better word) etc they bring from their families (I am in big multi cultural city)

So you’re surrounded by pesky ‘forriners’ are you OP?

I’m an HCP who might be caring you or your Mum if she gets ill, shall I stay at home too?

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JenWren22 · 14/03/2020 20:52

Typical teacher.

Because most people have elderly relatives. You are being self-entitled. - do most people come into close contact with 150 different individuals a day? No

What happens to the education and life chances of the children you fail? I work a 60 hour week I do the best for the kids i teach

What if everyone had your attitude? Everyone would have to take time off work or ask elderly relatives to look after the children (and therefore expose them) Not everyone looks after elderly relatives and not everyone is expose to 150 people a day.

My sister works in a hospital in central London where there are Coronavirus patients. What would happen if they just said "fuck you" to the people who depend on them? Society would collapse. She will have equipment and exposure to far less numbers than me. i believe children can be asymptotic.

Stop being self entitled - why I am entitled - i am asking and opinion and appreciate thoughts but dont need nastiness and bitterness. I am not entitled I deal with 100s if stroppy teenagers day in and day out and look after my mum with very complex needs and have 2 kids of my own and a husband with a disability.

Just be kind

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vdbfamily · 14/03/2020 20:55

wash your hands before seeing your mum and do not visit her if you are symptomatic. If you were really worried you could also change clothes but that might be a bit ott

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JenWren22 · 14/03/2020 20:56

MissDemelzaCarne

I didn't mean it how i think you have taken it. I mean the kids have interactions from all over the world. A carer seeing say 10 people a day is much less than the 150 i will see. but i really appreciate you taking the time to reply

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ShesGotBetteDavisEyes · 14/03/2020 20:56

A friend of mine who is a nurse has signed off sick as she’s so worried about catching it. She has four dc’s and her dh has health issues. Whilst I totally understand her concern and I’d be really worried too, it’s scary to think this may be the case for lots of healthcare professionals. I think there’s going to be a real shortage of nhs staff when people are going to need them most. Is it selfish or just sensible?

itispersonal · 14/03/2020 20:56

I do understand op, I'm worried about my elderly mum and me working in schools. I know if my dp, dd or I catch it we should be ok but I don't want to pass the risk to my dm. I'm more worried because she lives on her own.

I work part time in school but also do supply (had lots of phone calls) but was genuinely unable to work. But thinking actually do I want to do supply work at present as being exposed to more children and it often means my mum has to pick up/ drop off dd from school.

Though fortunately/ unfortunately dd had a bad headache last night, cough this morning so we are going into self isolation.

But in fairness I worried over how long we need to keep away from my dm.

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JenWren22 · 14/03/2020 20:57

vdbfamily

that sounds really sensible, thank you I will do

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