I feel I'm away to actually meltdown

[Salene]

Guys I'm am actually petrified, to the point my family say I'm away to have a breakdown. I never slept a wink last night. I'm alone as my husband is in Egypt working and due home next week. I'm paranoid he isn't going to get home. I've a 3 and 5 year old, I'm too scared to leave the house and not wanting to send my child to school next week, school have given me home work for him and we're fine when I told them. I live in a small village in NE Scotland so it's a little
country school. I think the government are lying and it's infecting healthy adults and kids and we are at risk from dying

Honest I'm so anxious and so scared

I'm thinking of just staying at home with me and the kids and not leaving

If it was infecting healthy people, we’d know about it. Get help with your anxiety. If you want to stay home then do it

the risk of catching it is still fairly low at the moment and the risk of dying extremely, incredibly low for the average mumsnetter with kids age group. It's OK to be anxious as in aware and vigilant, that's natural and trying to stop that is often counter productive. But you categorically are not about to die and I'd see if you can look up some good self help maybe podcasts or audiobooks about not catastrophising (as getting referred for actual therapy at the mo isn't likely to be timely)

It's gonna be ok

I should of said I was on a group Uk Coronavirus info on Facebook and the fear and stuff there hasn't helped so I've left it the group last night

I'm asthmatic but have kinda grown out of it as I became a adult , I'm 40 and run about 25 miles a week so reasonably fit bit I can be prone to a lot of colds and do get chest infections more than most

My husband is 42 but vapes , I'm terrified me or both of us are going to die and leave the kids with no one or the kids will die too

I've never had anxiety issues in my life but right now I've a sickness feeling in my stomach constantly and can feel heart beat so I assume its anxiety I've got

Honestly I'm freaking out

It’s infected a newborn baby, always

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The government haven’t said it isn’t infecting healthy adults and kids... it is. It’s just that healthy adults and kids are, in general, having fairly minor symptoms and are very unlikely to be seriously ill or to die from it.
It is scary. But we have to keep perspective.
Try and avoid following the news/social media constantly. Maybe check once a day then switch off.

You’re not sleeping so it will feel worse.

If you are not old and have dc neither you nor your dc are at risk at getting very ill.

But if you want to stay home that’s ok but look after your mh. It may spiral if you don’t see anyone.

OP, I’m the same. I managed to get some sleep, but was up at 5 for no reason. I gave up and started cooking so I can have the weekend free.

I seen a clip on face book from channel 5 that seems to keep getting deleted where there interviewing a man about if children can get it, he said yes child can get it and although milder , 100's of children have died. It's ramped my fear up x100

milly now that isn't helpful is it. The baby will likely be fine. No under 10's have died from it at all, and very very very few teens

It does infect previously healthy people and no one has ever disputed or hidden that but the recovery rate is VERY high!

No no under 10s have died op.

Stress depletes your immune system. Whilst that might not be very helpful to know, it is true

That baby and it’s mother are fine.

You need to get a grip op. Your personal risk is very low.

Some of us are commuting in London, looking after sick patients and elderly relatives. Don’t be so bloody wet and get off all the catastrophe websites and social media.

Life is still going on pretty normally still off of mumsnet.

Not sure what you mean - of course it's infecting healthy people. It's the vulnerable/health compromised people who should worry most. But if you're in a small village in NE Scotland you're not exactly in the Hot Zone.

I don't agree with Boris' approach at all (there should be increased testing, IMO), but I do agree with accepting that many of us are going to get it. Focus on building up your immune system (Vit C, Vit D, healthy diet) and make sure you have the usual flu meds in for the kids.

I honestly don't think any children under the age of 10 has died, they get the disease but aren't Poorly. I was hysterical too. I've come
Off Facebook for a while and my only social networking now is this place.

I watch Dr Campbell on YouTube and listened to talk radio, but fake news gone and I feel a lot better.

Come off Facebook

OP it sounds like you and your kids are very low risk due to good health. You also live in a remote area. I really don’t think you need to worry. But you’re probably not going to pay any attention to me. You seem to be actively trying to scare yourself by joining Facebook groups full of other paranoid people and posting on Mumsnet which is full of people looking to scare each other.

I’m not blind to the threat. It is a global pandemic and a lot of people are going to be ill and many will die. However, your response is disproportionate. I think you need to speak to your GP about your mental health before it starts to affect your children. They will know you’re behaving strangely and it’s really not good for them.

Get off social media and reduce/ restrict the amount of news you are watching.

I've been v anxious for a while too. I'm taking dc out of school & self isolating now. I'm NI & want to follow ROI model.

I think if you can self isolate then you should. It will help me to know I've done what I can to stop the spread.

It's ok to be scared. This is a scary time because there are so many unknowns
Make a list of practical steps you can take eg your worries are falling into 3 areas:
Self-isolating - if you're going to self-isolate what food and supplies will you need? Make a list and buy what you need.
Your DH - can your DH return from Egypt early and work from home? or can he check with his company for their contingency plans for staff if flights are cancelled or lockdown imposed?
Being alone and ill with the DCs - check your local FB page or church. I know in our area, people are organising to take responsibility for a street each and checking in (by phone or text) with anyone who is alone or vulnerable and asks to be checked. Even if you don't have family nearby, you could arrange a daily check-in by phone/Skype/Facetime so you have someone to chat to but also you have someone who knows if you're well, etc.
I have family in lockdown in Italy. Their biggest issue atm is a combination of boredom and stir-crazy DCs

Btw I'm not particularly worried about catching it myself but vv worried about spreading it to vulnerable people & the hospitals that already can't cope. It needs to be slowed so that when we all get it, it is more gradual rather than all at once

You need to calm down. I'm 45 and looked up my risk of death. It's 0.4%. Assuming you're under 50 yours will be the same or less (0.3% if you're in your 30s). That's tiny. I'm very concerned about my aging parents and the disruption this will bring to the country. Focusing on your own tiny risk of death isn't helpful. I was diagnosed with cancer when my children were toddlers. I was lucky that my aggressive form of cancer was caught early but I still had/have a 10% chance of dying from it. I couldn't allow myself to be paralysed by fear because my children needed me. We love in such a safe place/period of history that the concept of death freaks us out. Life has always been precarious and times like this remind us of that. For now this virus is most likely very harmless for people like us. I'm dreading a far more deadly virus emerging!

It's great that you are taking time away from the facebook group so that you don't have to be driven mad by others constantly obsessing and going around in circles with trying to "know all" about the future which is uncertain. You are doing your best to practice good hygeine measures, eat well, exercise etc Importantly you need to take time out doing something relaxing for you and your young children.

Plenty of Rest, relaxation and sleep will boost your immunity and is much needed

I don't think there's anything wrong with being anxious op. That's a totally natural response in my opinion. I am usually pretty unflappable but I have felt a rising level of anxiety over the past couple of days. I've been focusing on my breathing and trying to focus on realities rather than worrying about what might or might not be.

Your point about 100s of children dying. I don't believe it. I've seen some figures. No children aged 0-10 have died, 1 child aged 0-19 has died (I assume they had existing health conditions). Children are getting it less frequently than adults and having much milder symptoms. I'm not worried for my children, only my parents and other elderly and infirm people.

For the sake of your mental health step away from social media. Honestly.

You are probably safer than most. You can isolate easily given your location and circumstances. You need to try and focus on something else and keep your stress levels down.