DS has cough and his dad won’t take him

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DS has a slight cough (coughing once maybe every few hours?) and runny nose. His dad is due to have him tomorrow for his joint custody, he’s saying I have to self-isolate with DS for the next two weeks and I’m not allowed to leave the house.

He’s due for about 6-7 days of contact over that period of time. He fully intends to normally live his life I’m sure, and go to work as normal.

Is he over reacting? Is that what you would do?
DS is 4 and frequently catches a runny nose from day nursery.

YABU - I have to self isolate and I can’t leave the house

YANBU - He is being over dramatic we aren’t at that point yet (and even if we are he should still be taking him for his designated days and be isolated himself)

If he has a cough you need to stay at home for 7 days.

Also we are somewhere with no registered cases anywhere near

Isn't the phrase 'a new, continuous cough' not just a splutter now and then?

Reference him to NHS guidelines..and descriptions of how this is different from flu and a cold symptom wise.
www.nhs.uk/conditions/coronavirus-covid-19/

His dad is a chancer and a lazy no good excuse for a father IMO

It's 7 days and I think I would do the 7 days. I think all we can do is follow government advice even though it's vague. Is it a "new and persistent cough?" Debatable. Is it Corona virus? Almost definitely not. But it's maybe enough.

Voted YABU because of this
"even if we are he should still be taking him for his designated days and be isolated himself"

Why would you want to increase the risk to 2 households ? That kind of thing is why these things spread so quickly

If it was my DS I'd be refusing as I'd want him to stay at home.

Yabu. You can't spread it outside of your house just because you've got it. (If it's Corona).

I think you've misunderstood 'isolate'.

I am not a doctor, but that does not sound like a "new, continuous cough" to me either ... plus a runny nose (which is not typical of COVID) can cause an occasional cough.

So I suspect BigBairyHollocks is probably right.

But, I also would not rely on where there are or are not any registered cases, because assuming you're in the UK, many symptomatic people have not been tested. Yesterday either Chris Whitty or Patrick Valance was estimating that currently 5,000-10,000 people are infected, on a day when case count was in the 500 range.

Runny nose is a common symptom in children.

Ffs. I despair. Check and follow the official advice. Do not ask randoms on the internet.

This doesn't sound like a continuous, dry cough. So YANBU. So many people catastrophising.

Is this any old excuse? How long has your ds had the cough?

How long has he had the cough

Depends on if he's really only coughing once every few hours, I would say. That doesn't sound like it qualifies as a cough, but it's impossible to tell if you're downplaying it, because some people will insist they're not ill when they clearly are. If he does have an actual cough, then I think his dad is right.

Use the 111 online diagnostic tool. If he has corona symptoms then yes, you do have to self isolate.

Not allowed? Fuck that.
By all means self isolate, but 'not allowed' from an ex?

If the cough has started since the announcement yesterday, yes, you need to self isolate, even if they are mild symptoms.
If it's been ongoing for a few days, then it's not new. You have to self isolate if it's a new cough or temperature.

My D's has a cough and a temp as of yesterday. School want isolation for 7 days but did say let us know how he is on Monday and go from there. Didnt mention if his brother and sisters should isolate too though...

Also we are somewhere with no registered cases anywhere near

Neither are we “officially” but due to knowing staff that work in the local hospital I know there are 4 unconfirmed patients currently in isolation awaiting results.

Regardless, he’s 4. If he’s poorly he will want his mum. You ex is undoubtedly being a twat but, if DS has it, why would you even risk sending him away?

Voted YABU not because you should self isolate but because you suggest that if you had corona virus you should expose two households to make a point about contact being honoured?!

I think it’s 7 days. I know what you mean though- when mine were that age we’d have never left the house if this was the case as at least one had a snotty nose. I’d be happy to keep my 2 with me instead of at their dad’s in this scenario but their dad is a useless fucker and I’m my son’s carer anyway so I don’t need to worry about missing work or anything.

Guidelines to self isolate is either a new, continuous cough or high temperature. I work in a GP surgery and told a GP this morning "I coughed in the night and my DP brought me a glass of water". He admitted he'd coughed twice this morning as he suffers from catarrh. Neither of us coughed since.

Ring 111, follow the guidelines honestly.

Send him to his Dad and it gets more obvious you might not get him back for 7 days AND have to self isolate yourself if he tests positive.