DS has cough and his dad won’t take him

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DS has a slight cough (coughing once maybe every few hours?) and runny nose. His dad is due to have him tomorrow for his joint custody, he’s saying I have to self-isolate with DS for the next two weeks and I’m not allowed to leave the house.

He’s due for about 6-7 days of contact over that period of time. He fully intends to normally live his life I’m sure, and go to work as normal.

Is he over reacting? Is that what you would do?
DS is 4 and frequently catches a runny nose from day nursery.

YABU - I have to self isolate and I can’t leave the house

YANBU - He is being over dramatic we aren’t at that point yet (and even if we are he should still be taking him for his designated days and be isolated himself)

Text him to say if he doesn’t take him he will need to go through court for access; then block his number.

@GrumpyHoonMain Not a good idea. Only because I can just see how that would go in court:
"Our son was coughing whilst National advice was to self isolate etc etc" naturally leaving out the important bit about him coughing only one every few hours!
Which will make OP look awful in court and he'll end up being favoured! 🤷🏼‍♀️

I doubt he’ll take it to court.

That is ridiculous Grumpy.

Imo we all need to consider preventing the virus from spreading the main priority, rather than ignore guidelines in order to stick to defensive principles about contact. Save those for when there aren't lives at stake, it's selfish.

I think I would keep him with me and stay home for 7 days as was the information from yesterday.

Yabu

Sorry I think he is right.

What is your relationship with him like? Will you lose money staying off work to keep him home a week? Will you be able to discuss the possibility of some extra money from your ex to offset your loss of work? Can they do video calls together during this time?

I’m very sorry that it’s inconveniencing you but you need to follow the guidelines. Hopefully your ex and yourself can come to a better place of sharing and open communication over the coming months.

You need to stay home for 7 days.

This could be early corona and if he spreads it to one new adult who spreads it to 3 others etc etc that can lead directly to more deaths. It's that important.

If he has a normal cold you have lost 7 days of normality. Which is a reasonable sacrifice don't you think?

This is so serious we can't bend the rules.

I am a hospital worker who donned my first COVID outfit to treat a patient today. I'll do my bit but please can everyone else do theirs.

Sorry but YABU. It's not about "catastrophising" as someone else has put it, it's about being extra cautious so as to not spread any potential illness around. There are folk way more vulnerable than us and the extra strain of any potential illness is something the health service could well do without justnow. Even if you don't think it is CV, bear in mind it may be. So isolate for 7 days.