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DS Showing Covid 19 symptoms and he's with his dad. Aibu

46 replies

AHouseFullOfTerrors · 13/03/2020 18:24

His dad's just said he's showing symptoms, fever sore throat, all come on within last hr. He was fine after school. Hopefully it's not.
His dad is saying he should come home as planned Sunday, To continue self isolating.
My dh believes he should stay there rather than potential infecting 2 households. And come back when well. There is a CAO in place but its not like I'm going to pull him up on it
I see both views. But I just don't know what to do for the best

OP posts:
cologne4711 · 13/03/2020 18:26

Ask your son where he would rather be if he is ill.

He was probably infected before he went to his dad's.

But see how he goes, it might be something else.

AnneLovesGilbert · 13/03/2020 18:28

How old is he and have you spoken to him about how he’s feeling and what he wants? Are there other children in your home?

dancemom · 13/03/2020 18:29

Sore throat isn't an official symptom. If he doesn't have a dry cough I'd say it was just a cold.

Original poster
AHouseFullOfTerrors · 13/03/2020 18:30

No cough so fingers crossed it isn't.

Yes I have a 2 Yr old and 8 week old.
Ds is asleep aparantly but I have text him to see what he wants to do.

OP posts:
LouHotel · 13/03/2020 18:32

Your newborn update makes the difference. I would say he needs to stay with dad if he has a temperature.

Stayawayfromitsmouth · 13/03/2020 18:32

Well you dont want your 8week old to get it. If his Dad is a good parent then he will be fine with him.

Merryoldgoat · 13/03/2020 18:33

I’d want my son home with me.

Dieu · 13/03/2020 18:34

It's not necessarily CV. I can totally see your logic, but it seems a bit heartless to say he has to keep away. Unless someone in your household is more vulnerable to infection, of course.
Hope he makes a speedy recovery Flowers

Sally872 · 13/03/2020 18:34

I thought you were going to say "i want him back now if he is ill" Yes he comes home on Sunday. Probably your household has already been exposed to the same source as your son if he does have it. Your son also has the symptoms of a cold. Try not to worry.

Dieu · 13/03/2020 18:35

oops, sorry, just refreshed and saw the part about your newborn.

CoatTails · 13/03/2020 18:35

I spoke to 111 with a parent today whose child was showing symptoms. They were clear that unless there is a ‘new consistent cough’ and a ‘very high temperature’ they were not concerned at the symptoms and they would not need to self isolate.

SoloMummy · 13/03/2020 18:38

The whole point of self isolating is to avoid spreading it.
His father will need to care for him within his home until next Saturday morning.
Just make sure that you Skype or WhatsApp.
It's hopefully not anything more than a cold.

LowcaAndroidow · 13/03/2020 18:38

Anyone with a fever needs to stay home for 7 days @CoatTails

HavelockVetinari · 13/03/2020 18:38

Given that newborns and toddlers tend not to show symptoms, or if they do, it's very mild, I think he should come home. The very young are not at risk with CV19. Unless you or DH has an underlying health condition you should bring him home if he wants to come.

Isthistrueor · 13/03/2020 18:45

Sore throat isn’t a symptom, he probably has a cold or strep throat.

Isthistrueor · 13/03/2020 18:46

Children have pretty much been unaffected by it fwiw.

NailsNeedDoing · 13/03/2020 18:46

Your DH is wrong. Your son has every right to come home, and you shouldn’t even be asking him ‘what he wants to do’. He is a child, he can’t be expected to make decisions that are meant for adults. You can’t ask him that without the inference that if he comes home he could make his siblings sick, and so that is an awful position to put him in! What if he does want to come home but is afraid to say so because he picks up on the message that he’s not wanted at home by his mum and stepfather? Which he will, because otherwise, why would you ask?

Lynda07 · 13/03/2020 18:48

I think he should stay where he is, op. He'll probably be alright in a couple of days, you know what children are like with colds, etc, but better to be safe than sorry. He could of course infect his dad but dad knows that. No point infecting you and your other children, you really need to stay well in order to look after them.

BigBairyHollocks · 13/03/2020 18:48

His dad needs to care for him in this case.

ilovedjerrymore · 13/03/2020 18:49

Was he with you this morning before school? If so then your household could already be infected. I personally would want my child with me.

x2boys · 13/03/2020 18:51

I think I would ask.if his Dad can have him for the full 7 days in view of the fact you have a small baby ?

CoatTails · 13/03/2020 18:52

@LowcaAndroidow
That’s not what the parent was told just an hour or two ago.

cocomelon23 · 13/03/2020 18:53

I think he should stay where he is.

Lovemusic33 · 13/03/2020 18:55

You have told us what your DS’s father wants and what your dh wants but what do you want to happen?

If it was my child I would want him home with me, chances are it’s just a cold or the start of tonsillitis, if it is the virus then you probably have it already, if it’s not than there’s a high chance you will get it eventually from somewhere else so why not get it out the way and have it now?

bobstersmum · 13/03/2020 18:56

I've posted this on a similar thread today but I rang 111 last night because I started with a horrible sore throat and a very high temp, feel flu like to be honest. I was told I did NOT need to self isolate as not been in contact with anyone with cv. I've been given antibiotics by gp today, apparently strep throat is doing the rounds.