DS Showing Covid 19 symptoms and he's with his dad. Aibu

[AHouseFullOfTerrors]

His dad's just said he's showing symptoms, fever sore throat, all come on within last hr. He was fine after school. Hopefully it's not.
His dad is saying he should come home as planned Sunday, To continue self isolating.
My dh believes he should stay there rather than potential infecting 2 households. And come back when well. There is a CAO in place but its not like I'm going to pull him up on it
I see both views. But I just don't know what to do for the best

I think wait until the morning and see what happens. No decisions need to be made now or even tomorrow - but if it is CV-19 he’s already been a carrier while being with you anyway.
In my families experience little boys (and big ones) want their mum when ill.

Well the protocol is that if a person has even mild symptoms they self isolate for 7 days so you are only following it if he stays where he is and actually self isolated, which means not going out.

That is in place to limit the spread where possible to others persons so surely follow it, it's not self isolating if he's out and about, coming to another household to potentially infect others who will then need to self isolate or will in turn make others ill if they also ignore the protocol.

Thank you. I want him home but dh worried about the baby mainly. But explained that IF it is he would already have likely spread it before now.
. His dad said no cough.
Tbh I reckon just a cold. We've had a few get together the past week and, colds and hand foot and mouth amongst them people have came about so I wouldn't be surprised

I've been wondering when the first NRP virus thread would show up, and pondering what I would do in this situation as well.

I think you probably just need to look at the practicalities- is his dad going to be able to get the time off to look after him, for one?

I wouldn't be massively comforted by the fact that it might not be Covid in regards your other children getting it, given it's supposed to be mild in children would it not be worse for them if it were something else? At the same time, if it is Covid and you and DH get it, who will look after them? Practically speaking I do think it would always be better for one person to be exposed to a nasty illness rather than a whole family including a newborn.

He's a big boy in seniors but a mums boy all the same lol

Your house is his home too. I think you should let him come back.

how old is he?

Yeah I always worried about the nrp if it was when we have step dc here. As I know their mum would want dcs back there and then despite what NHS 111 say. But hers is more of a control / play the martyr thing so she can then say how bad she's had to deal with it. It happened when dsd has a sickness bug. She instsisted on her going home there and then. Then 2 days later emailed saying how we've had It easy and she's had no sleep. Despite the fact we'd offered to keep her here.
Everyone's different. Hopefully ds will text in a while and say if he wants to come home.

Nearly 15

It's probably just a cough / cold,
BUT
The official advice is to isolate, not to travel to another household

He may have infected some of you already, but if he hasn't yet, then having him back to stay makes it a lot more likely

We're just moving this over to the right topic now.

Sorry didn't realise there was one oops.

Gosh bobster that's such shocking advice you got. (Don't doubt that's what you were told but it's really poor advice)

The advice pretty much worldwide has moved on way past only self-isolating if you've been in direct contact with someone with CV. We are now at community transmission stage.

I'm in Ireland where we are effectively all self-isolating, in the sense schools & universities are closed, all public galleries etc closed, all events of 100 cancelled etc but even beyond that people are doing all they can to limit their circle of contacts. The public health advice has been really clear.

The way the UK is proceeding has truly shocked me. It's true it'll go on for months but here, authorities are doing what they can to flatten the curve so that the cases will increase but will do so across a longer period & our services (stretched tho they are) have a better chance of coping.

Sorry to derail OP. In your case, I agree ask your son. It's unlikely to be Covid-19. Even if it is, you can isolate the baby fairly effectively. Unlike others I would be a bit concerned about the baby - although the evidence is children are less effected, with a small baby, I wouldn't take chances. But still manageable at home.

I'm guessing you are on MAT leave and so don't have to go to work unlike your ex. If thats the case, he should come home to you as your house is likely already infected.

posterIsthistrueor a sore throat is definitely a symptom, there are reports coming out now from people who tested positive and are now over it, who describe a sore throat. Obviously this can vary from person to person, but it does not seem to be uncommon.

OP, I agree with others - see what he wants to do, if he would be happier back with you, then at 15 it should be relatively easy to keep him self isolated in his room, particularly if you have more than one bathroom, and can keep one for his sole use. It's still, in relative terms, unlikely to be CV, but he will need to self isolate regardless.

I hope all will be well but do perhaps remember the statistics. Currently there are about 800 cases active out of a population of about perhaps 60 million.

"Normal" winter 'flu kills some 15000 each year

@AHouseFullOfTerrors

He's almost 15, ask him what he wants to do

He's almost 15!? Unless he is desperate to come home, leave him at his Dad's. His Dad can still go to work on Monday and leave your son at home to look after himself if he isn't too unwell, surely?

He's 15. He's fine with his Dad.

Yeah I agree I would definitely leave him with his dad at his age.

@Ferretyone the cmo said yesterday he thinks there are 5-10k of cases in the population at present. We have only tested around 800 of these