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Anyone getting married soon?

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janebee4 · 13/03/2020 17:54

Getting married at the end of May and already starting to have guests cancel or say they might have to cancel due to coronavirus. I'm absolutely gutted and have spent almost 2 years planning this bloody wedding.
Anyone else in the same boat and what are you doing?
We have wedding insurance but if the government doesn't force the venue to shut then I don't think we can cancel/postpone it unless me, DP or immediate family get ill. I would rather cancel or postpone than have a half-arsed day with hardly any guests there Sad
I know ultimately we just have to wait and see but I'm so so gutted and just want a moan/pity party with fellow brides to be Sad

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Hugglespuffed · 13/03/2020 17:57

Why are people already pulling out? It is over 2 months away. I think all that can be done is to wait and see.

My friend gets married in July and her hen weekend is May. It hasn't crossed my mind to worry about that just yet!

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janebee4 · 13/03/2020 18:03

It's older people with health conditions and a few people who are pregnant, so it's really understandable. One said they'd read it's going to peak in around 10-14 weeks, which is right when the wedding is. I just hope it all blows over by then but I think that's wishful thinking.

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PregnantCat · 13/03/2020 18:13

I’m getting married in mid-April. Keeping my fingers crossed everything goes to plan, I am a bit worried to be honest. Not that fussed about people dropping out but will be devastated if the registrar says we have to postpone as want to be married before my baby is born in July.

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janebee4 · 13/03/2020 19:21

@PregnantCat oh no I really hope it can go ahead for you, there's so much uncertainty and it's so stressful!

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mintandcoral · 13/03/2020 19:31

I'm getting married at the start of April (3 weeks on Sunday) and already resigned to the fact that it is probably not going to be going ahead Sad My mum has an auto immune condition and Copd in her lungs so I think even if the hotel didn't cancel I wouldn't feel comfortable with going ahead. It is such a difficult decision though!

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janebee4 · 13/03/2020 19:53

Oh @mintandcoral I'm so sorry, that's awful. Do you have insurance?

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delilahbucket · 13/03/2020 20:01

End of May here too. Trying not to worry about it at the moment. This is the first time I've actually panicked, but at the moment we have no choice but to continue with plans. It's the unknown I can't stand. I'm glad we deferred our honeymoon until next year and just booked a couple of nights in a log cabin in the UK not too far from where we live. A booked trip abroad at that point would only add to my stress.

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janebee4 · 13/03/2020 21:43

@delilahbucket same, we couldn't afford a big honeymoon this year so we booked a week in Cornwall, which I'm relieved about now as it's just more stress! It's so hard to motivate to continue with plans when everything is so uncertain, I just wish someone could tell me what will happen!

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delilahbucket · 13/03/2020 21:57

@janebee4 same here, I hate not knowing. It could be all fine and dandy, or it could be cancelled guests left, right and centre.

OneHanded · 13/03/2020 22:19

Sisters end of May!

ButterPie1 · 13/03/2020 22:21

A week tomorrow for me 🤦‍♀️

bmachine · 13/03/2020 22:24

Me too. Not sure what to do :(

isittimetogotobed · 13/03/2020 22:24

Butterpie my sibling is due to get married in two weeks to 🤦‍♀️

DirtyDancing · 13/03/2020 22:25

Just wanted to post and say I really feel for you. I remember the excitement leading up to my big day and all the planning invoked. I can’t imagine having this hanging over it all. Big hugs

Sanch1 · 13/03/2020 22:32

I'm getting married tomorrow! 8 cancelled this week, even one literally just text me. 5 are because of coronavirus either directly or indirectly 😢

Sanch1 · 13/03/2020 22:34

And we're supposed to be going on honeymoon on 30th March so who knows what will happen?

Onemorefortheroad · 13/03/2020 22:37

I'm 2 weeks tomorrow! Having to power on with planning until we hear otherwise... no else seems too worried at the moment but it's so unknown!

rhubarb82 · 13/03/2020 22:41

In Ireland (where I am at the mo), they've banned gatherings of more than 100 people indoors. So weddings being cancelled all over the place. I suspect similar might come in for the UK soon enough? Good luck to everyone whatever happens

SeasonallySnowyPeasant · 13/03/2020 22:44

My wedding’s next week. It’s a small wedding but it’s unlikely that my 84 year old grandma will be there. I was gutted on Wednesday, but more philosophical now. We’re insured but we spent a bit lot more than planned so we’d lose about £7k.

123456kent · 13/03/2020 22:47

Really do feel for people on this thread. Totally rubbish. So sorry for those that have their wedding plans ruined ☹️

Livelovelife35 · 13/03/2020 23:39

I'm getting married in july and hen do may
Invites for wedding getting sent out soon I'm not really worried as of yet as we are only in march and hopefully by july things have calmed down by then

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janebee4 · 14/03/2020 00:57

If they ban gatherings of over 100 people I hope insurance companies will pay out. I've gone through mine tonight and it says it covers if the venue cancels due to a mass outbreak of a contagious disease, but I guess that's dependent on the venues themselves cancelling and I imagine they'll hang on for as long as possible unless the government forces them to close. I just don't want a half arsed day which is a shadow of what we've been planning for so long Sad
In the grand scheme of things it's not that important and in a few years I'm sure I'll laugh about it, but right now it's so stressful!

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mintandcoral · 15/03/2020 12:51

On Friday we made the decision to try to reschedule our wedding on the 12th of April. Our venue were very understanding and able to move our date to later this year. We have been extremely lucky and just about managed to transfer all of our suppliers over to the date with no issues (I am just waiting to hear back from the makeup artist). If you are in two minds and are at all considering it I would recommend getting in there early. Our wedding planner said I was the first bride he had had reschedule which made things relatively easy (although still a massive stress for the last three days!) but I imagine it will become much more complex as more brides try to reschedule. The peak of the virus is supposed to be in 3/4 weeks.

When it came down to it, I just knew I couldn't go ahead with a wedding that my mum and all of my elderly relatives wouldn't be at (that was if the venue wouldn't have been forced to cancel at the last minute). I feel a little more in control now at least, and if things are still bad by October our plan B is to just elope! What a nightmare. Although, with everything going on at the moment it does feel like this falls into the first world problems category!

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janebee4 · 15/03/2020 19:33

@mintandcoral that's really helpful, thanks! I'm supposed to be paying the registrar tomorrow but I'm going to call and see what the latest time we can pay is. I really don't see it going ahead now. DPs grandparents and some of my family couldn't come, as well as the people supposed to be flying in. The optimist in me thinks by the end of May we could be over the worst but the news is getting bleaker and bleaker every hour Sad

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Toffiffeee89 · 15/03/2020 19:38

My daughter gets married June and I get married July . ATM all fine but guess we will know closer to the time if they will happen

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